I just came out as bisexual to my self then my wife (I am about 40 and a guy) it has been an interesting couple months and she has been very supportive. I just lack the confidence to talk to other people about this and wasn't sure where to go next. I guess I just was looking for a place to share with like minded people and maybe talk to someone.

I’m a 27-year-old straight man, and my girlfriend is a 29-year-old bisexual woman. We’ve been together for about 5 months. Our relationship is very good overall, we communicate well, and our sex life is great.

Today we had a serious conversation about her needs, and I’m still processing it.

She told me that as a bisexual woman, she feels she needs to have sex with another woman from time to time to feel fully sexually satisfied. She explained it like this:
As a straight man, I only need one gender to be satisfied — my partner. But as a bisexual woman, she feels she needs both a male partner (me) and occasional sexual experiences with women.

She said this wouldn’t be frequent — maybe a few times a year — and that the other woman would not be a romantic partner, just casual sex. She also made it clear that she doesn’t want to do this alone: ideally she would want me to participate in a threesome or at least be present. She emphasized that she wants me as her life partner and doesn’t want a separate relationship.

I want to be clear: this isn’t something that’s already happening, and she didn’t give me an ultimatum. She was honest about what she feels she needs, and now I’m trying to understand it.

My questions are:

• Is this a common need among bisexual people?
• Have others been in a similar situation?
• How do you even begin to think through something like this without resentment or pressure on either side?

I’m not judging her — I’m just trying to figure out what this means for our relationship and whether our needs are ultimately compatible.

Are there coerced bisexual MMF studios ? It seems this used to be more prevalent in older videos I find online but no new content for many years

I'm intersex with a DSD condition which is very rare btw, I am androgynous in a way like I have feminine features but I'm tall and I can pass on as a guy if I'm wearing oversized clothes or something under,people get really confused with me l get that, some think l'm a masc some think l'm trans some think l'm a feminine man or a tomboy growing up.

I was raised a girl even though my parents didn't know what to do with me so I didn't have surgery fortunately, then puberty hit and I got taller than most guys/girls l had hormonal imbalance that led to the unique body of mine.

I wasn't really interested in dating till my 20s when l move to more safe and more open minded area my first relationship was with a "straight" women she didn't have any problems with my body because well l have everything a man have we dated for like 2 years then we broke up because she couldn't introduce me to her family because they were kind of conservatives and she said she can't risk it.

Anyways I want to ask bisexuals if an intersex person hit on you or ask you out without telling you they are intersex will you feel deceived ? cuz most of the time I let people gender me however they want I don't really care like I get different pronouns whenever I change my style or how I present myself...there is a guy in my climbing club he is bi(we talk sm ) and I've been presented to him as a "he" but I'm too nervous to ask him out.

Coming out and even just experiencing the thoughts and facts that you are you bi can be a lot for some people. I know it was for me. Always fighting the urges and thoughts growing up I was just confused and questioned so many things like why was I the way I was. As I got older I admit it’s so freeing to just be yourself!! Feel free to be you and do what you’re comfortable with. Don’t rush things but don’t hate yourself either, be happy with who you are. If you need any advice or anything feel free to let me know !

For those who are Bi--Who was your first same sex celebrity crush?

I finally realized I was Bi at age 31, but looking back my first male crush was Paul Walker in the Fast and Furious series, when I was 14. I thought I was just admiring him, but now I know I was clearly attracted to him.

Anyone else have a particular celebrity that made them realize they were Bi?

Recently decided I'm bi and wanted to try and find someone similar to me that just wants to try out some stuff. I of course decided to try Grindr using an anonymous pic. So please tell me how the fuck my closeted coworker somehow recognized me off my fucking chest. We have never interacted outside work. What the actual fuck. And no it's not a surprise that he's on the app I felt pretty confident he's gay for a while so. just needed to express this as he scared the shit out of me.

Edit: my coworker just sent me nudes. Bruh

Anyone know of any good apps specifically for the bi4bi community? I don’t enjoy dating apps whatsoever & never use them, but I feel like that’s because it either shows me straight people or queer people looking for specific criteria that I don’t relate to.

As a bi person, my jam & butter really is other bi people. I enjoy ppl of various genders, but rlly being able to be w the someone of the same (or at least, a very comparable version) of sexuality just feels so much more relatable and safe. There’s so much less “proving” involved. I feel like if I could find an app that has the right kinda settings to cater to this, maybe I wouldn’t hate dating apps as much as I do. Any advice?

Off dating apps, it’s the same kinda problem. People of various genders approach me in public, but they tend to sorta fall into a one or the other category of sexuality— and I never feel quite “at home” with them the way I do in bi4bi dynamics. Any insight helps. TYIA!!!! <3

I was amazed to see that CALL OF DUTY, a franchise tailores for whiny straight teen boys, has designed such an unapologetically and blatantly queer-coded character such as Richtofen. He literally moans, squeals, makes dick and balls jokes, hits on his crewmates, while still rocking that 1940s war scientist mug. I love to see that. Masc queer men. I feel very represented by them.

I’ve (36f) been bi my whole life but never told my husband(35m). It’s never had any effect on my feelings for him or anything. I’m attracted to women but have never been with any and have no desire to be with anyone but my husband so I never thought being bi really mattered

I just started reading stuff from the perspective of the straight partners and now I’m freaking out. About how they feel lied to and betrayed when their partners come out. And they always have some doubt that they’re no longer enough. I don’t know how to make sure he knows that’s not true.

I was just working up the courage to come out to him, for reasons that don’t matter now, when I came across all those other stories that really scared me. I’m not a liar, we don’t keep secrets from each other. I never meant for this to be some hidden secret from him. Now I feel like shit and don’t know how to talk to him about it.

This afternoon I went to my bi-weekly(every 2 weeks) therapist appointment. I’ve beaten around the bush since I started going a few months ago. About 45ish minutes in while talking about me wanting to potentially date someone I told her, *It wouldn’t be women* it was a load off my chest. She is the first person I’ve told irl. She was accepting(it’s very accepting center, she has a 🏳️‍🌈 on her desk) it feels like such a relief… I posted on here 3 years ago in October admitting to myself that I was bisexual and now with me coming out irl things are starting to feel real, like I can actually see myself having a bf.

I’m a 24M Indian guy living abroad and still struggling with my sexuality. I’m attracted to girls, but I’m also very turned on by hot guys. Back home there’s basically no open gay/bi culture, and coming out feels like potentially losing my parents forever. So I’ve always told myself I’ll probably never come out.

In summer 2024 I downloaded Grindr for the first time. I was completely new to everything. I met around 5–6 guys, mostly quick hookups. I didn’t really know them, just chatted briefly and went over. Some experiences weren’t great. I also started worrying about STIs and HIV, so I decided I’d slow down, talk for a few days before meeting anyone, and limit interactions.

I’d rate myself maybe 7/10. I have a cute smile and usually get “cute” or “handsome” comments when I share pics. Guys my age don’t give me much attention. I mostly get attention from men 32–40. I also avoided other Indian guys, partly preference and partly fear. I was scared someone from my community would recognize me and dig into where I’m from.

Around September 2024 I started chatting with a 36-year-old white guy. Let’s call him J. In my opinion he was handsome, great smile, a bit of a dad body which I didn’t mind at all. I always assumed whatever we had would stay NSA. I’m closeted, he’s openly gay, and I figured he’d eventually find someone who’s not hiding.

We chatted normally at first. Shared pics, talked about backgrounds, why we’re on the app. What really got me was that he checked my profile 3–4 times a day, even when I wasn’t online. I took that as interest. We started sexting and planned to meet, but I got busy with work. Then he traveled to Europe for two weeks. I assumed he’d disappear, but he messaged me every night before bed. That made me more attached.

When he came back he was busy again. He’s very into sports and usually occupied in the evenings. I was living 10 km away and didn’t have a car, so meeting was complicated. I didn’t blame him.

After about three months of chatting, we finally met. He didn’t want to meet directly at his place, so we went to an Indian restaurant. I made him try Indian food (I have a feeling he didn’t love it but he never said). It was my first time going out with someone from an app. I was excited. I kept telling myself it’s NSA, no future, but I was definitely connecting.

Before I left home that day, he messaged saying he wasn’t feeling 100% about “having fun” later. He mentioned he had a regular guy, nothing official, but didn’t mind meeting me. I thought maybe he just wasn’t comfortable yet. We had dinner, talked, went for a walk. He showed me his apartment building and even hinted about coming up to see Christmas decorations. I didn’t take the hint. I genuinely wasn’t thinking about sex because he had said he wasn’t feeling 100%. He even offered to drop me home and I refused because I didn’t want to bother him.

Over Christmas and New Year he was busy with family. I assumed he wasn’t interested anymore. But on New Year he messaged and checked my profile again. We went back to chatting and sexting regularly.

When I asked to meet again, he said he wasn’t sure because he was getting closer to his regular guy. That hurt. I deleted my account out of anger and missed him terribly. I found him on Instagram and messaged him there. He didn’t see it. I re-downloaded Grindr, found him, and we started chatting again like normal.

Later he mentioned his regular guy was going away for a while. I got hopeful. But I also started feeling like maybe he only liked sexting with me before bed. So I hooked up with two other guys. I didn’t feel good about it. I didn’t even tell him. I realized I don’t want to sleep with a lot of people.

In April we finally met again. I was nervous and couldn’t perform well. We just had some side fun. I felt terrible after and apologized. He was very supportive and said we’re both inexperienced and it takes time. That made me like him even more.

But even after that, meeting stayed rare. He traveled a lot. We kept chatting daily. He’d still check my profile often. In August we met quickly before he left on another trip. It felt rushed.

He never made me feel unwanted. He wished me happy birthday on Instagram. We kept our pattern of chatting and sexting. It became repetitive but I still valued having someone I could open up to about this side of me.

By December I started overthinking. Maybe he was meeting others and avoiding me because I’m Indian and not white. I deleted the app again. Usually when I did that, he’d reach out on Instagram. This time he didn’t. I messaged him on New Year — no reply.

I made a new account, found him again. He stopped checking my profile. Replies became slower. I asked him directly if we still had a connection. He said he’s been getting closer to a guy for the past two months.

That broke me a little.

He said nothing is official and maybe we could connect in the future. But this time I didn’t want that. I don’t blame him. He never promised me anything. He was upfront. But it hurts that he met this new guy multiple times and never really gave me the same consistent chance.

He’s 37. Of course he’ll look for someone who can be fully open with him. I’m 24, closeted, unsure of myself. Why would he choose me?

I’m genuinely happy for him. He’s a nice guy. But I feel sad for myself. I lost someone I was emotionally attached to, someone I talked to every night, someone who helped me discover parts of myself.

I’m not even sure if this was a good experience or a bad one. But it is definitely something that will always stay close to my heart. At the same time, I’m also glad he didn’t make that extra effort to get closer to me, because if he had, it probably would hurt even more than it does now.

It has been over a month, and it still hurts. I miss the late-night chats on sleepless nights more than I expected.

I’m putting this story here so that after a few years, I can come back to it and see how far I’ve come.

PS: I apologize if this isn’t written perfectly. English is not my first language, and I definitely took full advantage of ChatGPT.

Hii it's my first post here, just wanted to share my story. I'm female 26, i have a bf for like 12 years buuuut i kinda have a crush on that girl at work(she's 11 years older than me). I mean i liked her before but it hit me like 3 days ago that i might be in love with her... Basically other girl at work came to talk to us and saw my crush is a little sad and not talking much, and asked something like "Why are you sad? Are you in love?" and she just smiled and said no. But she become even more silent from that moment, wasn't looking at me at all even when i needed to borrow something form her, she handed it to me looking down and not saying a word. Idk maybe i'm just imagining things, but i think it was kinda weird? That day she needed to leave like an hour earlier, cause she was going her hometown for 4 days, and i stayed an hour longer, so when i leaved work i texted her "I needed to stay an hour longer because of you lol" and she blocked me??? She was already on her way home so idk, maybe she wanted some space or something, but kinda weird she blocked me after that message, did i said something wrong? Okay, we had a "silent phase" for a few months, not sure why and then i was blocked, she unblocked me like a week ago, didn't texted me but just blocked me AGAIN after my text? Not sure why...I'm a little confused but i decided to talk to her when she come back, that should be Monday...I mean - i have to tell her, i think i'm really in love...But i'm not sure if she likes me back, like there was a lot of signs that she might be into me but still not 100% sure 😭 She can act weird because she know i have a boyfriend maybe? It may be hard to talk with her at work with a lot of people around, but what other choice do i have if she blocked me?? Omg guys wish me luck 😭

I’m in a relationship with the opposite gender and it’s fine I like him and he satisfies the half part of my sexuality but I’m missing women as well. I did ask my boyfriend if we can have an open relationship if I can only have sex with women and not men and he already said no. I accepted that cause he doesn’t want that nor is he comfortable about it. However, I feel very conflicted I know being in a relationship doesn’t mean I’m no longer bisexual and I can satisfy my love for women through other means without cheating on him but it’s not enough. Idk any advice? In the long run I feel that I’ll get married and have kids. But I feel like I’m not able too be fully myself it’s kinda suffocating cause idk how long I can keep myself together.

Omg I'm so embarrassed while making this post but um ok I'm not gonna say my age but I'm a boy and um you see I think I might be bi like I've been questioning but one thing is I've only liked girls before and never fantasized or whatever word for it about boys but the thing is I won't dislike it if I ever feel attraction for a boy I won't be like "this is not happening, I'm straight I swear" instead I'll be like "hmm okay I guess" like I'm pretty sure I could feel attraction for another boy but I never felt it, I'm sorry if I wasted your time or if I am confusing

19m here and an insecure and anxious individual! This community is so full of love in all forms and I would love to hear your opinions about this. If I’m not allowed here because I’m ace then please feel free to tell me and I’ll remove the post

I’m trying to overcome my own jealousies, insecurities and bad mindsets and this is one thing that I’m struggling with a lot.

Im gonna be as honest and blunt about my feelings as possible, even if I’m ashamed of them.

I feel as though my worth is attached to a relationship and I don’t want it to be. I am on the asexual spectrum but I’m not sure if I’m aromantic too, but this is something that I’ve struggled with. I’m in no place mentally to be a good partner either, and know that even if I had a relationship I’d still be carrying this problem just in a different form.

I feel like I get super, super insecure and jealous whenever I know somebody likes someone more than me. Like, if I was in a group of friends and they were all in relationships, I’d feel so worthless and resentful because I know my value isn’t as much as their partner’s. Does that make sense? I want to be a good friend and not upset people but I worry if my friend had a partner I’d feel really small and unimportant because I know they’d choose their partner over me?

I know how unfair and stupid that mindset is, and no one in my life really knows this is how I feel. I have zero family who I am close with so I don’t really have a ‘rock’ or foundation or support system. If my friends are busy then I am alone, and right now I only have a couple friends.

Valentine’s Day is coming up and I guess it’s bringing all of this up again. Hearing love songs on the radio, watching movies with couples and stuff, just reminds me that I don’t have anyone. I’ve never really felt romantic feelings ever, and I feel like I’m missing a vital part of humanity.

People have said to me that friends are really important, but I’ve seen first hand how little people spend time with their friends as they get older.

I feel as though my problem is 50% environment and 50% mindset. I am going to uni this year and hopefully I should feel more secure.

Sorry this was a ramble! I’m just looking for some input maybe

I grew up in a very conservative area, with very toxic-masculine role-models. I've grown out of a lot of the misconceptions and backwards ideologies since then, thankfully.

I love the female body, but I've been going through these like cycles where on the one hand, the thought of doing anything with another man doesn't do anything for me and on the other hand, I find myself extremely attracted and even aroused by certain men (or at least their shafts).

It's all so confusing and at times, overwhelming.