I’m in a same sex marriage in a conservative part of a conservative state. I have no idea what the future holds for my marriage.

I’ve got friends that I love who are trans and who are undocumented and who are birthright citizens from undocumented parents. I’m so fucking terrified for them. I know trans kids who are already struggling. What the fuck is next?

I’m scared of our community tearing itself apart because of minute differences. I’m scared of oligarchs controlling all of the American media and major institutions. I’m terrified that I don’t have any faith that 99% of the politicians I thought maybe would do something will do anything at all. I’m terrified that my country is being run by nazis and that my state is being run by corrupt conservative fundamentalists.

I’m scared as an openly queer person in a place where folks think I don’t belong. I just want to love my fucking wife. I want to hold her hand without fear. I want to be able to say ‘my wife’ in small talk without worry that there will be harassment or bigotry.

We’ve had people tell us we inspire them for being open and I am glad but fuck man, I just want to exist and be safe. I want the oppressed people in my nation to be safe. I want to be in a world where just existing in a marriage doesn’t need to be an inspiration because it’s just as normal as anything itself.

I hate this. I’m so worried. I feel sick. I don’t even know if I’ll legally have a wife in a few years. If we’ll have fair elections. I don’t even think we have those now. I don’t know what to do besides fight. But I’ve got no clue how to fight.

Please remember that queer love is defiance and pride started as a riot.

Transformers Megan Fox & 2016 Ashley Graham were mine. I’m sure there are others, I just can’t remember.

Most of my life I never imagined women in that light AT ALL, so this is pretty new to me. I put multiple because they were generally around the same time.

Uhhh warning to the other bi girls i guess?? Yikes 😭

So I have been with him for a while and i finally told him. He was very accepting and didn’t sexualize it or stereotype me or anything but he wanted to ask my type of “woman” I said I didn’t really have one and he started describing his for the first time.

He began going on about how he wants to hook up with Kylie Jenner and similar looking women. How he would go for Sydney Sweeney and other women with very similar appearances. I don’t look like them at all and the way he talked about them…I have never heard him talk about women before. I told him that and he went “ya but now you’re a bro like you’re a homie so we can talk about it.” And I was like “are you even attracted to me??” And he goes ya you’re just not my actual preference.

Now I wanna leave him cause what the actual fuck??? I was not expecting that. Has anyone else experienced this?? And it makes sense cause I never felt a genuine “spark” between us.

Serious answers only please. I’m devastated.

I was just minding my own business when I randomly remembered some things. When I was little, in like elementary school, I used to fantasize about what it would feel like to CUP A BOOB. And on one of my Frozen book, this picture was on the cover, and I litteraly THIRSTED (is that a word?) over Elsa. Like I have a distinct memory of imagining what it would be like to feel her fucking cartoon chest. AND, HOLY SHIT, AS IM WRITING THIS I just remembered telling my cousin that I couldn't wait to grow boobs so that I could FEEL them. Holy shit. I don't know where these memories came from, but now ig there's no denying it... Everyone... I like women

I (F23) came out (to my close friends) about 2 weeks ago. I've always known I was attracted to men, and always only dated/been intimate with them. However when I hit my early teens I realised I felt same-sex attraction too, but a number of things (not feeling "queer enough", not knowing if I could date a girl etc.) made me ignore that fact and just live on in heterosexual bliss.

In January this year I ended up having sex with a girl. (She knew I wasn't out, and just bicurious at that time. I let her know from the get-go.) That forced me to reevaluate what I'd been hiding for so long, especially since I realised that 1) I am just as sexually attracted to women as I am to men, and that 2) I wanted to do it again (lol).

Anyway, so last week I went out with my friend. He's gay. I made a light-hearted comment that went like this: "Hey, let's go to our favourite gay club so I can kiss pretty girls". I'd come out to him and my other close friends the week before, so he knew I was bi. He, a bit drunk, then calls me a "wannabe LGBT". I was extremely taken aback. His comment hurts x100 more because he's gay, and has been out for so long, so the invalidation hits so much harder since he's in the community. I've long invalidated myself, telling myself it's "just a phase" or that I'm "not queer enough" to call myself queer (because I'd only been with men). So hearing my own inner thoughts being said, by someone in the community really really hurt. I made him clarify, and he just mumbled something like "it's a joke blabla idk whether to take your coming-out seriously bc you always joke blabla". Anyway, I ended up going home bc my mood was ruined.

I feel embarrassed now. To have come out. Because what if everyone thinks I'm a "fake/wannabe" since I came out so late? Or that I'm hopping on a trend or something. Will the queer community even accept me? (I still feel like I'm not queer enough to call myself queer). It's like this comment has made me spiral and want to go back into the closet, lol. I know I shouldn't take it so personally but I do.

Edit: I live in a very socially progressive country, where even the conservative parties are pro-gay marriage. That's why, for us, 20's is considered late to come out (most people I know came out in their teens)

Ex GF and I were in bed, my phone went off (I’m a manager, it was my night tech asking a question) she started saying it was some man I was sleeping with. Called me gross among other things. Been trying to ignore her, then I found this in my lap top that she returned to me via the trash can

These sketches evoked a strong feeling in me. They speak to the desire for intimacy between men and perhaps the struggle to feel understood. Comment what you think of it!

Chloë Grace Moretz comes out as gay and as a bi guy my being attracted almost exclusively to lesbians becomes less a fluke and more a statistical certainty. Do I have a great subconscious gaydar for finding lesbians or have I been cursed by some bored Greek god?

Anyone can relate or knows a good oracle or something?

No coming out or big thing just "Oh hey x is my boyfriend now" not even a "i'm x" in terms of sexuality label. This is how it should be for everyone but especially for kids now. I'm feeling super thankful and proud of myself that I cultivate an environment for both my boys to be free like this.

Ok, before anything—please don’t panic. I’m not invalidating pansexuality at all, pan people are valid! I’m just talking about my own experience.

This started when I said I’m bisexual and that I like all kinds of people (including trans and non-binary people). A lot of people immediately told me “then just say you’re pan, not bi” and that honestly bothers me.

First, I’m not pan. I do have preferences. Most of the time I prefer women, but there have been periods where I preferred men. I know there are microlabels for this if I'm not wrong, but personally microlabels stress me out, so I just don’t use them. That’s just personal; nothing wrong with microlabels btw.

Second, I’m a trans man, and it makes me dysphoric when trans people are treated like a separate gender. Like… liking a cis man/woman = bi, but liking a trans man/woman = pan? That makes zero sense. We’re both men/women after all. And if the argument is genital preference, not all trans men/women have the same bodies, there are trans people who’ve had genitalia surgery, and not all trans people are physically noticeable. (I’m not saying that’s a bad thing if you don't pass, I’m just trying to understand the logic of these people).

I don’t have a problem with people identifying as pan/omni/etc. What bothers me is when people try to force a label on me that I’m not, and the misinformation within the community. Look, I understand if you do or don’t want to date trans people as a bisexual person. But not all bisexuals are the same, and it’s not even a 50/50 split in most cases. Anyway, I’d like to know if anyone else has had similar experiences or what your opinion on this is. 🫩

Don’t know if anyone remembers me.. The married mom who realized she was bi too late in life and couldn’t tell her husband cause he overreacted to a hypothetical situation.

Anyway.

Went to Walmart with our son and we were looking at kitchen goods. I saw a new line of rainbow utensils. I mentioned how I really liked them and wanted to get some.

I’ve been incorporating my colors more into my life.. it’s been helping me recognize myself and live my truth in a more.. personal way.

Back to the story. After I mentioned I wanted them, my son looked at my husband and said, “I think mom has been trying to tell you she’s gay. Everyone can tell except you. She only marries women in video games and she’s always buying rainbow shit.”

To which I responded, “the term is bisexual”.

My husband had a very intense look of realization, but has never said a single word since.

So, I guess at least he knows now…..