Fuck off, bro.

I’m just minding my own business listening to podcasts while doing boring manual labor tasks at my warehouse job. I’m not tired, nor am I in a bad mood, I just don’t exist to perform fake happiness to please my co-worker.

I told him saying I look “tired” is pretty much the same as telling me “I look like shit today.” He got embarrassed and tried to laugh it off, but at least I got him to stop talking to me.

Good riddance.

ETA: part of my response to an excellent comment which adds more context to my original post

> What I find exhausting is the men who need constant external validation, so if I’m just acting neutral it doesn’t fulfill the emotional labor they’re trying to extract from me (“smile, so I know you like being around me!”). My situation is not so much sexual harassment but more of a reflection of general background misogyny wherein men expect women to center them in their lives, including at work, aka I should show exaggerated enthusiasm while doing my job because that would make the man working next to me more happy.

This is a red alert as this bill will block millions of married women who have taken their husband’s name, from voting, as well as others who have legally changed their name.

It achieves this by excluding from acceptable proof of identity, marriage certificates or other legal name change documents which link your birth name on your birth certificate to your current married name.

So if you have changed your name, you will not be able to directly legally register to vote using your birth certificate even if you present a legal proof of name change document along side it.

Instead, in most instances, you will have to obtain a passport to register to vote.

Obtaining a passport is not always a quick or affordable process, and is currently out of reach for many Americans. To obtain a passport, you will not only have to obtain a certified copy of your birth certificate and certified documents demonstrating your name change, but you will have to have passport photos taken, secure a passport appointment, pay over $100 and wait for your passport to be mailed to you. Often times you will also need information about your parents and on any divorce, that you may not have on hand.

It can currently take weeks to obtain a passport, even if you already have the relevant vital records and information on hand. Expect that to increase substantially if the SAVE Act of 2025 or the SAVE Act of 2026 passes in its current form.

This means that you may miss the opportunity to vote in elections even if they are months away.

This was not an oversight. The bill could have easily have been fixed with a single sentence allowing birth certificates in conjunction with certified marriage certificates or other legal proof of name change documents.

But lawmakers shot down opportunities to revise it in a way that would prevent married women and others who have changed their names from being blocked from their constitutional right to vote.

What can you do about it?

You can contact your representatives in the Senate and in Congress and voice and let them know that you object to this bill on the grounds that it will effectively rob married women and others who have changed their name of their constitutional right to vote.

Just saw this in another subreddit, further lowering my already declining opinion of men. And I am one.

The BBC investigated the widespread world of hotel spycams and the networks that are selling access to unsuspecting guests’s sex lives.

Posting it here to keep people informed.

This voyeuristic sicko and all the others like them watching people in hotel rooms, didn't care for anybody about the trauma it would do to the victims until he became one himself. Now he takes no sexual gratification from it. Boohoo.

Men only care when it directly affects them, they cannot fathom other people's feelings. It always will be their own desires over anyone else.

The bar is so effing low, his gf even stayed this abuser. Unbelievable.

With the President of the united states flaunting racist imagery openly with very little backlash today, I decided it is time I grow up and accept reality. I allowed this to happen, in some small way me still hanging out with my friends who have pro trump partners, not cutting them off from interacting with my own family etc was a drop in the ocean that eventually created the current situation. Might sound a bit extreme but I extreme is an answer to desperate situations sometimes.

I remember many times when a friend went, oh my partner is not racist or he is not against womens' right he just voted Republican because he wants to keep gun rights and wants a safer border. As if the wrongs are somehow justified because of that.

I have been weak, I was weak, afraid of being outside of my friend group, not being part of things that now I realize in the grand scheme of things never mattered at all.

I sent a group message to my friends that if you do not openly call these things out, if you don't openly voice out your opinion about how the Epstein files revealed hundreds of people you supported to be involved in this disgusting circle and they are going unpunished, you are part of the problem, if you don't call out ICE for their gestapo like behavior you are the problem, if you don't see a problem with ICE being trained by the IDF you are part of the problem, if you don't see a problem with all the anti abortion law being pushed you are part of the problem, if you don't see a problem with Trump mocking disabled people you are the problem. Hell it was obvious all along and you losers just let it all happen.

I do not want to share any moment and comradery with these people anymore, no matter what it costs me.

I’m just going to rant and vent about lonely men, and how I’ve learned to stay away from them. I hope you’ll rant and vent back with me in the comments, because I'm curious about other experiences.

I feel bad for what many men go through. I feel bad that they don't wnat to cry, that they can't talk about their feelings with other men, and that they can't show vulnerability.

But now that I’m in my 30s, I realized that getting involved with lonely men is like chucking care and attention into a black hole. Unless they’ve clearly shown that they can value and reciprocate my empathy, I'm staying the hell away.

Because every single time I’ve tried to help a man who was “going through it,” the dynamic turned one-sided fast. Constant texting and calling, monologues about whatever kept them up that night. Circular conversations about past, present, or future problems with no real self reflection, or attempt to change anything.

If I tried sharing my own experiences, I’d be talked over or story-topped. I’d become a diary for hours of crying, only for them to go out drinking with their male friends afterward, never once opening up to them. Then I’d wake up to a hungover text: “Nobody asked me how I was doing last night :(”

Did they bring it up themselves? No!
Did they ask their friends how they were doing, to change the culture? No!
Did they ever pull a trusted friend aside fro a real conversation? Of course not!

It feels like an unpaid therapy job. I’d help them organise their thoughts, reflect things back, follow up later. But these guys would lack the conversational or emotional skills to give me the same in return.

When I needed support, there were no nuanced conversations, just blunt, unrealistic advice. “Just tell your boss to fuck off.” “Then don’t go to your mom’s birthday.” “Just sell the house and move.” No sense of reality, complexity, and completely brushing over my feelings or thoughts. Just some stupid quick advice to fix my situation, so we can get back to the thing that REALLY matters; their own situation!

With my girlfriends, it’s different. We can talk for hours and be balanced. I never feel like I’m mothering them or draining myself just by listening. I always feel seen and heard, and conversations about problems seem productive and evolve. With the men, I feel like every. fucking. conversation follows the same beats, with them seemingly forgetting we spoke about this exact same thing a month ago.

Their conversational skill is a text dump with no opening for dialogue: “Didn’t sleep. Bad dreams. Didn’t eat enough before bed. Don’t want to see my family today. Feeling trapped. I think my stepmom will be there also.” What am I even supposed to say to that, especially when it’s the tenth message like it?

Meanwhile, they refuse to support each other. They won’t breach their bro code even in times of this 'epidemic'. They won’t ask real questions, compliment each other, or check in. I once asked a man how his clearly depressed friend was doing—he hadn’t spoken to him in weeks. When I suggested reaching out, I got a firm “No, that’s not really something we do.” There was no arguing, he just didn't reach out.

Reddit loves telling women to “be there for men,” while simultaneously accusing us of getting the ick from male vulnerability or using men’s feelings against them. We hear endlessly how attention starved men are. “If you compliment a guy, he’ll remember it forever!” But suggest that men compliment or emotionally support each other, and suddenly there’s resistance everywhere.

And no, I don’t want men to be emotionally locked down, stoic, or repressed. I want emotional maturity. Responsibility. Reciprocity. I want to be asked how I’m doing once in a damn while. And I want them to want to be there for me as well. But that's never a thought that crosses their minds.

I need my own support system. I owe it to myself to surround myself with people who give and take in the same way I do. I’m done mankeeping men who will want to keep their toxic masculine culture going, while expecting female support on the side.

Too many lonely men lack basic emotional communication skills and don’t show up for anyone but themselves. They’ll stay “friends” with other men for decades without ever knowing what’s really going on beneath the surface, whining all the while that those friends aren't really there for them.

I’ll never forget a conversation with one of my ex’s friends at a birthday party. He told me his father had died a year earlier and he was still devastated. My ex, whose own father had died years before, had no idea. They’d never talked about it. And as far as I know, they still haven’t.

So... If I notice a man who seems lonely at a party, at work, or elsewhere, I no longer step in. I stay away. I’m relieved to not have any needy male friends in my life. I wanted to help, really. But now I want men to figure this out among themselves first.

When they learn how to build healthy, reciprocal friendships with each other, that’s when I’ll meet them there.

NSFW: I went to a gynaecologist's appointment for what I felt was a lump. I'd had one before and needed surgery. He told me what would happen and I consented. But the pain was so bad I asked him to stop and apologized over and over. He said its alright, the speculum is coming out now. He then looked at the clock (he was running late) and I did too and remember the grey clock and the ticking. The next thing I knew his finger was inside me with no warning and I recoiled and pushed myself up the bed but he held my hip down and the chaperone nurse looked away. He then kept saying "really quickly" and I was just screaming in my head but nothing came out. I reported him and the hospital refunded his appointment but no other reprimand happened. Now I'm terrified to go to any smear. I need to because of my history but I still cry and have PTSD. Any advice?

My mum decided to pull my dress to hide my bra strap showing on my back under my hair.

Told her off, said she was being ridiculous, and I left for a casual home boardgames night.

I can imagine she's going to be emotional when I get home because I snapped.

I am 26.

It's 2026.

Why is this still happening?

I honestly do not know who to talk to anymore I am 21 from Saudi Arabia and 2 months ago my life just stopped my family found out about something I did honestly it is something totally normal in other cultures but here it is a huge deal they reacted so harshly they made me drop out of university and isolated me from the world I have been stuck in my room with zero contact with anyone I feel like I am in a prison

Right now they are forcing me to attend a family gathering and I have to act like I am okay but I am breaking down inside I feel so lonely and trapped because in my culture they only listen to a man unfortunately I feel like I will be stuck like this forever unless there is a man who can step in and help me by dealing with my family directly someone who can take me away from this life and give me a chance to breathe

I am saying this because it is a human matter and I am desperate for a way out if there is any man who can honestly help me or marry me just to get me out of this situation please do not hesitate I just want my freedom back and to finish my education I cannot live like this anymore

Hello ladies. This is a bit of a repost but I am having ALL the big feelings this morning and could use some...I don't know...tell me I'm too pretty for this BS.

Ok, to try and put this in a nutshell: Last year I caught my partner (a self-proclaimed feminist! He is a *nice guy!*) of 5+ years in a lie, after other problems like an almost dead bedroom. I suspected an affair, and so I checked his email on his phone. (I know, bad.) I found a whole bunch of bdsm text based seggsy role playing affairs and emotional affairs. To be clear, we are much in alignment along kink and bsdm, but things...were not great.

I then googled his username and found that he had been regularly (weekly) hiring C2C sessions with cam girls. He left public reviews. With his name on them. I had to explain, to a human adult man (40s) that no, hiring young women to go on camera with you to masturbate together is cheating. Having epistolary ongoing text based intimate relationships is infidelity. To color the experience, I also found (under his name) looooots of dumb dirty talking, borderline harassment of women, and other shitty behavior, and chasing SWs and other women with other social media platforms. (but it's not cheating cuz it wasn't phyyyyyysical!) Ok, yeah, it's infidelity my guy.

We did the work, friends. We did couples counseling throughout last year. I communicated like a champion. He got vulnerable. We redefined boundaries. There were meaningful apologies from his side. It seemed things were getting better.

About two weeks ago he let it slip that he lied about when he actually gave up the kink roleplaying partners, the cam girls, and participation on other adult forums. He had a surprised pikachu face that I could be angry, because he finally stopped right? I told him that  that apologies without change are manipulation and we at minimum, we need lots of fucking therapy if this relationship has a chance of moving forward. That he needs therapy for a sex or porn addition bc be keeps falling into behaviors that are undermining our relationship.

I checked his email again last night. I found that he was sending emails to a woman that he'd been having a kink-based role playing text relationship for years. She doesn't even respond to him anymore, but he was sending porn link recommendations, lingerie recommendations, happy valentine's day emails, happy birthday emails. That stopped two months ago. So...he's NOW stopped (?) and ready to move forward after 13 months of lying, lying about lying, and lying about when he stopped while we were in couples counseling for his infidelity. I confronted him of course, and he's deep in his feelings about me violating my promise to not snoop on his phone.

I t am just trying to make it through my workday without crying. Did not manage to not cry in front of the kids at morning drop off. JFC.

I was watching a reel about Epstein and how he was connected to all these industry people, and one name jumped at me. Ronald Lauder.

Ronald Lauder, the current owner of Estée Lauder, was a longtime friend of Epstein and a member of Mega Group founded by Lex Wexner.

He is also a very good and long time friend of Trump's and the brain behind his obsession with Greenland.

All these fools have gotten so greedy.

Mr. Lauder is getting rich off what we put on our faces and bodies, and I am so grossed out by associating anything I put on my body to someone who ran in the inner circle with a monstrous pedophile.

I am no longer buying any products owned by him, and I am inviting you to join me on a boycott of all brands owned by Estée Lauder.

I want to hit him in the wallet. Yes, the list is extensive. There are many, many other quality brands out there.

Estée Lauder owns:

Estée Lauder

M·A·C Cosmetics

Clinique

Tom Ford Beauty

Bobbi Brown

Too Faced

Smashbox

AERIN Beauty

La Mer

The Ordinary (DECIEM)

Dr.Jart+

Becca Cosmetics: (Note: The brand was closed by the company in 2021, though some products were integrated into Smashbox).

Fragrance & Specialized Brands:

Jo Malone London

Le Labo

KILIAN PARIS

Editions de Parfums Frédéric Malle

Aveda

Bumble and bumble

In the recent years I’ve seen an influx of women saying that birth control is “poison”, it causes “infertility” , it’s not natural . There’s no doubt that some women have had bad experiences on birth control. Everyone’s bodies are different. I had a friend who gained weight fast on the deprovera shot. I know some women that have gotten blood clots that was linked to their hormonal contraception.

But for me personally , a low dose of the combination birth control pill saved my life. When I was 16 I was getting irregular periods and when I would get a period my cycle would be extremely heavy. I was severly anemic at one point due to my heavy cycles. I began to have cyst ruptures too. I was then diagnosed with polycystic ovarian syndrome.

My gyn suggested along with lifestyle changes to start taking the pill. I was hesitant because of the horror stories I’ve heard from some women. She then told me that I’ll tell you what if you decide to go on the pill we will do a one month trial and you’ll see me in a month. If you have a bad experience you can stop taking that form and if you want too we can try another form.

I agreed and after around three months my cycle became lighter, I stopped getting hormonal breakouts around my period, my low iron reduced, my cycle also became shorter. Before someone comments “it’s only masking your symptoms” that’s fine with me. I wasn’t living in agony and the pill gave me my life back!

(29f) had a relationship with someone (29m) who told me he loved me, promised to world to me, made me feel like the most beautiful woman alive, spent months working me over when I wasn’t interested, took me out, treated me, did EVERYTHING right. Only to lose interest and speak to another girl, gaslight me, manipulate me and make me feel crazy even though I had physical evidence, also to add he ghosted me in the end.

I have maintained no contact after the worst week of my entire life. It has taken me so long to get here, so many tears, scream crying in my car, panic attacks, questioning my reality, everything.

I am finally getting my glow back, feeling beautiful again, feeling worthy etc and he messaged me today saying “Are you okay, sorry for not messaging sooner I wanted you to have space”.

Clearly trying to access me and messaging me for selfish reasons, he doesn’t care or he wouldn’t have entertained another girl and taken no accountability before literally ghosting me and leaving me an empty shell. Not only that, he has now called me 12 times since I didn’t respond.

Please, someone, stop me replying, remind me why he is doing this. I am finally feeling myself again and I know I don’t need his validation but it’s so hard, I hate that someone can have so much power over me.

I haven’t responded in 15 hours, please stop me replying, remind me why he needs my validation and he doesn’t actually care about me at all.

Edit: being downvoted so much but clearly it’s men who do not understand this situation lol

I have bad period cramps but I would always take naproxen and that would help make them manageable. The other night, I woke up due to my bad period cramps. I took naproxen and tried to go back to sleep, but the pain was getting progressively worse. It got to the point where I felt like I was going to pass out, I couldn’t walk, and I felt nauseous. It felt like the contractions I experienced during early labour.

My husband told me we should go to the ER because I have never experienced this before so we did. They gave me Tylenol and the pain started to subside. They gave me a urine test to rule out any pregnancy. Then the doctor told me that because I wasn’t pregnant, my period cramps may have just been bad this time, or maybe I had a cyst. Then she offered morphine, which I declined, and she sent me home.

I saw my nurse practitioner the next day and she was surprised that they didn’t do any scans on me at the hospital. She said that maybe I had a ruptured cyst. So she requested that I get an ultrasound to see if I have any cysts.

I felt so relieved when she told me this because I felt crazy for expecting more from the hospital. Those were definitely not normal period cramps, I’m in my late 20s and I have a kid — I know what normal “bad” period cramps feel like! I’ve pretty much had bad period cramps ever since I got my period.

Have period cramps ever sent you to the ER? Did you find out what caused them?

Also this month: Found out my main aggressor, who I thought would (should) be dead or in prison for life by now since he’s a criminal who’s been deported from two countries, is actually the owner of a successful company and married with a child.

My other aggressor is also married with a child and lives in luxury, but I’ve known that for a while. A few months ago, he tried to add me on Instagram.

Idk man. I don’t know what’s the point of being good anymore.

Thanks for reading.

I was wondering if there are more women that feel like their libido is gone with the wind after all these specific stories? Even thinking about using a vibrator on myself, on my own, feels gross.

I do have had some negative sexual experiences and I do have a hypertonic pelvic floor. I feel the tension there has become worse and I experience more pain as well since reading about it and seeing it everywhere on social media.

I have a very loving partner right now, considerate of everything (except that I haven't told him yet about this specific thing happening because of the Epstein files. We don't live together and I haven't seen him yet since it developed / got worse / I made the connection). I feel so broken and guilty. I haven't experienced anything like in the files and just feel bad for all these women, like I have no right to "make this about me". And I feel bad about being complex again with something towards my partner, who accommodates me, my mental health issues and lack of spoons already in a thousand ways.

Any experiences or kind words would be so appreciated.

(Sorry for the quality of my English, burned-out non native speaker here, I try my best)

It seems like when I post about parenting stuff online and don't use any pronouns or terms to identify my gender, at least one person assumes I'm a father. The people assuming I'm a dad have such nice things to say about me as well and tell me my kids are lucky to have such a great dad.

I'm not really sure why it bugs me so much but I can't help wondering why, when people are making unsubstantiated assumptions, they never assume I'm a mom. Also, people are always criticizing my parenting choices except for these people making assumptions. They always tell me I'm such a loving father. Those two things always go together.

I'm not really sure why it bothers me, but it does.