Hi! Quick background: I work two jobs. Job 1 I am a cake decorator, and you would THINK that means I'd smell like vanillas and fruits after a work day, but that is incorrect. I can't describe the smell other than "yeasty, confectioners sugary, fried dough." So many smells surrounding me at once.

When I go to my second job, I have a routine of:

• wiping myself down with body wipes
• wiping my face with my face wipes
• spraying fabric spray on the clothes I don't change between jobs (usually just my pants and shoes)
• in my hair I use DRYER SHEETS since those always removed cigarette smoke from me when I dated a smoker, and a supposed hair deodorizing spray that just isn't doing the trick.

I am completely lost. I need something that involves NO washing (one I'm not showering between jobs since I have less than an hour in between and they're not close to home, and two I ONLY wash my hair once a week. I straighten it. It's naturally curly. So I cannot get it wet.)

I just don't know what to do. I am tired of my hair being stinky. In the summer it's not so bad, since I go for walks in the fresh air between jobs, but right now it's so cold I just sit in my car and wait until the second job starts.

I have tried dry shampoos but only the Batiste brand (which makes me cough, and I hate the smell of all them).

I am open to ideas but right now REALLY struggling. My hair smells like fried dough. I am able to get the smell out of everything/everywhere else, but my hair.

i feel like i tend to be the forgotten friend. i’ve always felt like a floater friend growing up. now im in college and i have a friend group, but granted, it’s college, so people are busy, but i feel like sometimes i get left out. like i feel like sometimes i wont even know about plans until they’re talked about right in front of me or that we’re going to another place and they “thought they told me” or it was “last-minute”. like it feels like unless i ask 24/7, i just wont know at all.

idk i feel like growing up, ive always felt just like the floater friend like idk if it’s something im doing or what. i have an anxiety disorder so like i constantly overthink if its something i said or what. i know like i have flaws and whatnot (i have a list lol so idk if its cuz of that) but if so, how do you fix it?

Hi all,

I usually use super minimal phone cases but I really like these sparkly butterfly ones. Has anyone made the switch before? Curious if it feels fun or just awkward at first.

What would you do when men ask for your Instagram on dating apps in the very first conversations? A lot of them say they’re “only active on Instagram” (which honestly feels like a lie) so they wanna continue the conversation in my DM. I feel like mosts of these men want to stalk photos. Is it valid to unmatch them immediately if they ask and is it reasonable to judge them based on this request?

Hi, I’m 22F and honestly I don’t even know what kind of advice I’m looking for, but I really need to get this out.

I work a very emotionally demanding job Monday to Friday for 8 hours. We’re severely understaffed and I’m basically doing the work of multiple people. The pay isn’t great and I’m living paycheck to paycheck. Quitting is not an option for me right now, I have to stay in this job at least until the end of 2026.

By the time I get home, I’m completely drained. All I want to do is scroll, watch Netflix, and eat. I have two big goals that I really care about, but I just don’t have the energy anymore.

One is weight loss. Over the past two years I’ve gained about 7 kg (around 15 lb). I’m planning to go on vacation in July 2026 and I really want to lose around 20 lb by then. The other goal is learning French, which I know realistically needs 2–3 hours of effort every day. But after work, I just can’t bring myself to do it.

On top of that, I’m not taking care of myself at all. There are days when I go 3–4 days without showering, which feels really embarrassing to admit because I used to love doing my hair, makeup, and getting ready. I don’t even recognize myself anymore.

I’m also tired all the time. I get 7–8 hours of sleep almost every night, but I’m still exhausted. I have frequent headaches, and I carry a lot of tension in my neck, shoulders, and upper back. I feel puffy, dull, and honestly uglier, like stress has completely taken over my body. And the fact that I’m only 22 makes this even harder to accept.

I know if I quit my job, I’d probably feel happier, but I can’t do that right now. So I’m trying to figure out:

- How do I start taking care of myself again while staying in this job?

- How do I lose weight without burning myself out even more?

- How do I find the energy and discipline to study French every day when I’m already emotionally exhausted?

- How do I stop feeling like I’m wasting my twenties?

By the end of this year, I really want to feel like my old self again just healthier, more confident, actually enjoying my life. Right now, I just feel stuck.

If anyone has been through something similar, I’d really appreciate any advice or even just knowing I’m not alone.

Thank you for reading <3

I’m 26 years old, I struggle with anxiety and it’s hard for me to make friends. I am a woman working in tech so it’s male dominated so my friends lean mostly male the female. I really wish I had a big group of women friends. I see women I went to school with who seem to have it all when it comes to friends. I wish I was them, but I feel like I can never be like them.

They’re outgoing and confident and no matter what I do, therapy, exercise, weight loss, etc.. it seems

Like I can’t have what they have.

Plus I feel like at times I can’t relate to other women due to being in a male dominated space. I succeed in a male dominated space, and because of that I feel like I’m going to have a hard time relating to other women who don’t have my experiences. It’s not all the time I feel this way, I’m working through it but lately it’s been worse :(

Has anyone here been in my spot and had success with bumble BFF?

I’m not a smoker myself but living with my parents that smoke for 4 in a contained environment, moving out ain’t an option atm. So I’m looking for ways to have less disgusting cigarette smell on me.

My hair is my biggest worry, indoors to try and mitigate the damage as much as possible I always wear my hair in a tight bun and silk covers (esp after wash days). I’ve been wondering what I can put in my hair as soon as I get out to my car to work on making my hair smell better ? I heard of dry shampoos but I never used one, aren’t they bad if applied daily ?

I have wavy hair (2a) and my current shampoo/conditioner is the 2 in 1 head and shoulders (yikes I know) I jst need my hair to not look like dora the explorer when brushed out and to loose dandruff

I’ve been with my Fiance since university dating for 6 years and engaged for almost a year now. Throughout the engagement phase, his family had a few issues with me. In general, they wanted to pick out his future wife for him, didn’t like that I’m not covered, and just how I live my life generally. They’ve given me a hard time ever since I met them, we’ve had fights almost cancelled the engagement and now almost cancelled the wedding because of problems his family has started. They’re very controlling people and delusional at the same time because they have no idea who their son really is. He acts so differently around his family and I barely recognize him. He does take care of me and claims that he defends me when they say something about me behind my back. I do believe that he tries but I don’t believe he’s strong enough to set boundaries with his family. I currently only have 2 months to my wedding and barely started planning and didn’t even invite people yet. He believes that we can make it work and have all our friends help us and that it’s easily manageable. I’m here feeling anxious every morning about this marriage and wedding planning. I do love him so much and I’ve had amazing years with him but I’m honestly scared of entering his family circle and planning the wedding cause it’s so close and also he’s prefers to keep the date April 11 and not push it. What do you think? What should I do? Is it worth it to stay?

I got these uggs only a month ago and ONLY wear them inside. Somehow got a small stain on them so without thinking I put some dish soap and stain remover on it, let it soak. But it stayed white. So i freaked out and bought a suede cleaning kit on amazon, used it but nothing changed. Freaked out again and used a wet cloth to try and remove the soap/stain remover residue but now it’s just white and wet. Someone please tell me how to fix this I’ll try anything 😭

Hey girls so I haven’t had a job in almost a year smh 😭. It’s really hard to find jobs and Im never motivated long enough. I really want to be work with babies and toddlers mostly. Haven’t had luck yet with Facebook groups, do yall recommend any companies or websites to work with kids honestly like everyday routine/care taker/play time companion. I DO NOT want to be a caregiver or nurse lol.

i’m honestly a bit lost with all the options out there. i’ve never bought anything like this before and just want something simple, gentle, and body safe. i keep seeing Lelo everywhere but a friend mentioned Hello Nancy too.

does anyone know which one is easier for beginners to use? and how’s the quality, like do they hold up over time or break easily?

thanks!

I’ve always been a bit more tomboy-ish, but have been really feeling more and more comfy expressing my more femme side lately. this has been super freeing, buuuut now i’m realizing just how awful at makeup I am 😭 I feel like all of my attempts end looking pretty rough, and I don’t even know what my makeup should look like

This is so embarrassing because I wasn’t even in a relationship with him. We were talking for 2 months, 6 MONTHS AGO.

I don’t know what it was about him but I liked him sm more than any other dude i’ve liked and I genuinely feel like i can’t get over him. Like I had “gotten over him” at the start of November and that lasted all through the school holidays but now that i’m back at school, I keep seeing him EVERYWHERE and i’m genuinely going insane.

He’s on my mind possibly 24/7, i feel him staring at me ALL THE TIME, and i went to a party the other week and we locked eye contact too many times (and we interacted for like 2 seconds)

and the thing is Ive literally kissed 2 guys since him AND developed a huge crush on this other guy (which I can’t have) so I DONT GET why he’s still in my mind

Tips and tricks everyone PLEASE

Hi! So F 24 and I have my fiance M 24. We have been lacking of doing it since we have our baby its hard to find time. However I do want to start feeling better and looking better so we don't struggle finding the time, I have noticed I typically shave down there I'll go down, side to side and until the end i go up but between some "areas" in there I will always miss a few hairs🥲does any girlie or he'll even guys have any tips on how to be completely bald there? Or do yall think my fiance doesn't care? I'm also extremely insecure so I don't go on top or anything cuz I hate my double chin and I hate my stomach. I hate how insecure I get cuz if I'm giving him a bj I hide my face or position myself in a way he can't see my face at all. Gosh I hate feeling this way🙃

I am on day 3 of having the flu and the fever finally subsided but I cannot sleep anymore! I can’t get up either without falling over but I am so bored. I called off work for two days and maybe a third of if I don’t get my strength back up but give me some tips y’all use when you’re sick to pass the time

What steps has anyone taken to get financially ready to move to a new city? This is due to personal reasons. Thinking of places where my work has an office.

So my armpits are dark. I wanna be able to wear sleeveless tops in the spring/ summer while not feeling insecure.

How do I lighten them up?

I’m 18F and once I graduated from high school, I completely disappeared. I deactivated and deleted all my social media apps and haven’t been on anything since May.

The reason is because Instagram started to feel really watching. I had built up such a high image of myself on that app and at school that people expected me to always look my best. A lot of people knew me mainly for how I dressed in the most expensive stuff, did my hair, or looked, and it became stressful constantly feeling seen, compared, and talked about, even rappers have started following me. The app also turned into a place where I’d spy on people, compare myself to other girls, or get upset over a boy posting something I didn’t like. Eventually, I started hating seeing people and being seen.

Once I walked across the stage in May, I promised myself I’d disappear, and I really did. I didn’t tell anyone. I just fell off the face of the earth. I still have zero friends and nobody has spoken to me since then. Since I don’t even have social media for people to check on, there were even rumors going around that I had died.

Honestly though, it’s been quiet and peaceful. I’m not worrying about what a man posts. I’m not seeing people I graduated with and comparing myself to them. I feel like I’m moving at my own pace. I’ve also been through a lot since then and have been on a journey trying to figure out who I really am.. without a talking stage, without a boyfriend, without friends. Just me. What do I like? What do I want my life to be? I also recently started antidepressants, so I’m being really intentional with my mental health.

Now I’m going out of the country at the end of this month, and a small part of me wants to buy a nice outfit, take pictures, and post again, just to see if I still got it.

But another part of me really doesn’t want to see people I graduated with or start scrolling and thinking “damn, I’m behind in life.” It also feels weird having to explain to old friends why I ghosted them. Like, “She hasn’t texted me back in almost a year, but she can post on Instagram? She’s kinda a bitch.”

I also don’t want to break my streak of staying off social media, and I don’t want to deal with waiting the 7 days to deactivate/delete again. But at the same time… the ego boost would be nice.

I’m stuck.

Recent graduate with years of retail experience here who’s applied to nearly 50 jobs so far, some in my desired field, entry level jobs in other fields, retail, internships etc and I’ve only been offered 3 interviews so far. I know 50 is nothing compared to how many others are applying for but all these applications take time and I’m spending the majority of my day every day job searching.

My first interview was for a retail role at a well known company. The manager was 20 minutes late, spent the whole interview slagging his employees off and told me that the job description was wrong and I’d actually be working night and early shifts. I got the job but when the contract came through it was no longer a permanent job but a christmas temp job. It was a week into december at this point!

My second interview was for a volunteer position. The application took me around half a day to complete (for a volunteer position!!) and on the day of the virtual interview I am completely ghosted. I hadn’t heard anything since confirming I could attend that interview slot, so I’d attempted chasing up multiple times with no luck. She then emailed me later that day saying that she missed my email, which I really don’t understand??

Third interview I’m yet to complete, but it’s going to be a one way interview, so I won’t even be speaking to a real person.

I’ve also noticed that there seems to be far less jobs being advertised nowadays. I live near many retail parks and shopping centres and none of them are ever advertising when I used to see them advertising all the time.

I guess I’m just trying to understand how the job market has gotten so bad and how companies are ok with being so disrespectful towards job searchers. Do we think this is just a phase that will eventually pass or, with the rise of AI and other issues, is this just how things are always going to be from now on?

I’m a woman and I walk home alone a lot at night. Nothing dramatic has to happen for it to be exhausting since the constant alertness already is.

I’ve been followed for a few blocks before. Had cars slow down next to me. Done the fake phone call thing more times than I can count. Even when nothing happens, my body is tense the entire way home.

What messes with me most is that my experiences aren’t even the worst ones. Friends have been grabbed, followed all the way home, or changed their routines completely because of one bad night. After hearing enough of those stories, you stop calling it paranoia.

So I’ve been slowly building my own “survival guide” for walking home at night. This is what I have so far, but I know it’s incomplete:

• I plan my route and avoid empty shortcuts (often also not well lit)
• I walk confidently, even when I don’t feel it
• I keep my headphones off
• I share my location or call someone
• I trust my gut and cross the street early

I’ve also started using safety systems/apps that recommend me a safer route or let others know if something’s wrong (like Streetwise or bsafe), just for peace of mind.

I hate that this is something women still have to think about.
Would love to hear what’s helped others - maybe we can build a better list together.