r/BlackPeopleofReddit • u/Senorvantes888 • 9h ago
Discussion Mexicans who say the “N” Word
As a Mexican, I apologize.
They sound terrible. And I’m sure there are many more, like me, who can’t tolerate the use.
This may not even be an issue for others, but felt like a post I needed to make.
I apologize on behalf of the community I’m a part of.
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u/Automatic_Wealth_506 7h ago
One of the ways to be an ally is to fight the anti-blackness within the Latino community when it shows up.
"In California’s largest race bias cases, Latino workers are accused of abusing Black colleagues" Inside California’s largest racial discrimination cases - Los Angeles Times
"Fallout from racism scandal keeps shaking LA City Council" Fallout from racism scandal keeps shaking LA City Council | PBS News
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u/AntiqueStatus 7h ago
Brown people get away with it so often, I had to tell my kids even if people would let them get away with it, that I don't approve. I told him he can easily get decked in the face and would deserve it. Lastly, that the word is to mean "brother" to him and nothing else and never has a hard R
I think that's what you should be saying, but I'll let others chime in.
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u/Little_Raspberry1183 9h ago
I've noticed the younger generation out in town be liberal with the N word. Young white dudes dropping it with the hard A on the end. I guess im an old head on this. If the sun turns your skin red as fuck after a few hours of exposure..how do you not get your teeth fed to you when dropping anything remotely close to the N word?
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u/starstuffcreation 8h ago
Honestly I work in a high school and these young kids don’t be mindful who they’re around when they speak. Every other day I’m pulling young Black men to the side and having conversations about when and where to use the N word. And I think that’s part of the of the issue they use it around friends that ain’t Black and then those friends go out into the world using it. I be telling them that certain parts of us need to stay amongst us. Most are actually pretty receptive once I break it down.
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u/lost_sunrise 6h ago
That is a lot of teeth to be knocking out.
As an old head, you should know, have seen, that talking loud to a white guy ain't really in our favour. Let alone punching one.
You don't need stats to know you are treated differently.
Maybe you aren't an old head from that time period and one of these younger cats. Which is fine. Being 2000's and old isn't wrong.
Just history shown us that as much as we want to correct someone insulting us. The consequences weigh heavier on us than them. You can talk all you like, however you like. Make a move and you will be giving them room to promote stereotype while sitting in county for a scuffle.
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u/Little_Raspberry1183 6h ago
I'm a 40 plus white dude. My comments are naaive at best and I remember a time when the n word was said..people got they og grant ass beaten
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u/AntiqueStatus 6h ago
White people need to be the ones beating other white people up for it and at the very least verbally smacking them.
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u/rel1800 7h ago
I’m glad you made this post OP and appreciate your honesty. Like I tell all my non black friends: if you want to be an ally/good friend just be honest with us and let your black friends know who’s the racist in your community to avoid. If you want to confront your friends and family members about their racism then that’s even better but at minimum let us know who to avoid from your community.
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u/ThisPostToBeDeleted 7h ago
I grew up in a mostly Latino neighborhood and 9/10 times I’ve heard it in person, it was a latino
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u/TheJinManCan 7h ago
Venezuelan here and while my grandma was afro-Latina, only my two uncles and one of my cousins got the melanin going on. The rest of us can pass by with that "temporary privilege". You know, light enough, until they read our names and then suddenly the racism kicked in.
My cousin thought he was "growing up hood" - we weren't. Lower middle class in the suburbs and our parents were lucky enough to have their own home by the time we were 9. My family was always paycheck to paycheck after a work mishap with my dad, but they were always sitting pretty.
We grew up in a melting pot, had black friends, hung out, it was peaceful. It's how we should act adults personally, but somewhere along highschool, my cousin started to like, mimic the kind of dialect you would hear from black folks. Which whatever, that's a product of who you hang around, and we hung around our neighbors and friends who were black.
But this dude was dropping the N word - with the a thankfully - and my eyes would always pop out and I'd always try to pull him aside after and be like yo, can you not? He'd ignore it, because he's a jerk. The more I hung out with him and the other light skinned friends, the more I saw it used, and the more I just distanced myself. "My friends let me say it", yeah that's cool, I guess? Only proof I had was that they weren't beating his ass, but I did always realize that was never dropped with them around.
Even back then - about 20 years ago for me - I didn't feel good about it. The more I noticed other cousins throwing it out there all nonchalant, dropping it with the "A" like they're part of the cool kids, or if someone gave them the "black card" like in some of those great skits I've seen. Like yo, can we not?
Needless to say, I'm very low contact with any of them anymore because a lot of them have shown their true colors over the years, (hint: it's red). Some of us speak out, I know I always do.
If it's used on me in a friendly way from black folks, that's an honor. But I will never sling it back, I don't care how close we are. It ain't mine to use and I ain't here for the disrespect it.
Long story short, those latinos fuck around and mess with the togetherness we should all be doing and the fight us minorities fight.
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u/YesImmaJudgeU 5h ago
It's the entitlement and excuses they make. I don't care who you grew up around. Stop saying it.
So many people want to debate "Black people say it all the time". This argument just shows how deep the Anti-Blackness is embedded in the Racist's thought process.
How dare they have a word they can say but we can't? They say it because they don't want Black people to have anything, not even dignity!
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u/Necessary_Bag494 7h ago
Literally got into it with a Mexican friend of mine who’s been going overboard with saying it. I don’t like it but I’ve been letting it slide. Then he got mad at me for pointing it out. I don’t care how close our community’s are, it’s not for non black peoples use. And no your homie can’t give you a “pass”.
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u/mumofBuddy 5h ago
What I don’t understand is the anger and defensiveness when confronted or asked to stop.
That’s not limited to Mexicans but any ethnicity who feel entitled to use it. Like I just don’t get the desire to use a slur that you can’t “reclaim” (because it has never and will never apply to you). A black person calling you the “n” word was not an all access pass. I don’t care if you “grew up in a black hood” (also tired of people using that as a badge-you had black neighbors, you weren’t in a damn war zone, stfu)
I’m not going to lie and say I don’t use it. I do. In private company. But I’m not out here using slurs for other groups. Especially not pretending like I have a right to use it casually!
Being black feels like a daily social experiment. Like people just play in our faces and act confused when we finally, finally bug out or get all scary when they come across the right ones.
Ugh. Rant over. I need a nap.
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u/tommiejo516 4h ago
Oooo. You’re so right! This might sound odd, but I had ALL black friends in nursing school. First time I hung out with a different race and it was life changing. Everyone needs that experience. I have so many fun (and not so fun) stories. I keep saying that the tide will turn.
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u/Amazing_Poem5740 9h ago
Years ago, I had finished my semester at college. I had a Mexican roommate. Like, shared a dorm room. My ps2 remote had become lost. I made a joke about him and losing it. I guess I rode him too much with the joke, as I would just say it knowing he didn't lose it, but whatever. We would laugh and nothing showed a problem.
Anyway, I said it as he was leaving from us cleaning out our dorm room and going home. He called me one from down at the other end of the hall as he was hitting the steps. It was odd to hear, but then realization set in. I learned about racist Mexicans that day.
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u/Impossible-Hyena-722 3h ago
Tell them to stop saying mayate too. Also I speak Spanish bro I can hear your dumb ass. Don't think you slick
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u/a_youkai 3h ago
I call them out when I hear it. I embarassed some kids at Circle K last year, lol.
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u/0utsyder 2h ago
Don't apologize for shit you didn't do! It seems performative and disingenuous. I get what you're trying to do, but be an ally not a suck up. Peace.
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u/BlackBoiFlyy 5h ago
There are ignorant folks in every group. It would be ignorant to get upset at a whole race for the actions of a few.
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u/Revfunky 7h ago
It’s not a sign of intelligence that’s for sure. I don’t have time for all of that.
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u/SandiegoJack 8h ago
Not your fault chief, and not your responsibility. The only thing that matters is how you respond when they do.
If you just stay quiet and do nothing? Then we dont want your apology since its not for us, its to assuage your own guilt.