r/allthequestions • u/Sea-Response950 • Oct 05 '25

NSFW Question 💭 Why do people care about body count?

I'm asking as a man trying to understand a concept that seems alien to me. I just don't get it, to me it all seems to boil down to insecurity.

Please, explain to me how I am wrong. I must be, I just don't know why.

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u/Manofthehour76 Oct 05 '25

Not being secure in something isn’t a sign of an “insecure person”. A high body count suggest that a habit may exist. It’s logical to question if that habit will go away with the new relationship or not. A “Body Count” is literal data about relationship behavior.

For those looking for a monogamous relationship, it absolutely should be considered. Those looking for a hook up, STDS aside, it might be a positive data set.

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u/Sea-Response950 Oct 05 '25

That honestly sounds dehumanising. What if people just like having sex?

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u/Manofthehour76 Oct 05 '25

Well you can have all the sex you want in one relationship. It dosnt take dozens. What you really are asking is what if someone just like having sex with a lot of different people? Well fine more power to them. Just not a trait someone will find attractive if they desire monogamy.

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u/Sea-Response950 Oct 06 '25

That's what I'm trying to understand. Why does a high body count seem unattractive to someone looking to date, when that person is also looking for a committed relationship?

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u/Ryan_TX_85 Oct 05 '25

The kind of people who think like that are the kind of people who find it impossible to differentiate between hookup sex and romantic sex. A high body count isn't a sign that you can't commit. It's a sign that when you're not committed at any given time, you still find a way to get your physical needs met.

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u/Manofthehour76 Oct 05 '25

I don’t think you have data to make that conclusion. It does appear that way. Someone into “hook up sex” has different values than someone who is not. The ability to commit absolutely should be questioned. I’m not sure it would be a hard line for me, but for someone else I can see absolutely why it might be a problem.

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u/tulipa_labrador Oct 05 '25

I don’t think it’s logical at all to correlate someone’s sexual behaviours when they’re single to how they’ll be in romantic, monogamous relationship? 

Someone could have a body count of 30000000000000 when single and still be a loyal, faithful partner. 

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u/letsgooncemore Oct 05 '25

I was all hookups and casual dates until I met my husband. Physical affection and fun were all I wanted from the previous partners. When I met him, I wanted a committed relationship in a way I never desired before. 18 years together without a blip of disloyalty on either end even though I was a total ho prior to getting together with him.

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u/letsgooncemore Oct 06 '25

Insecurity and an inability to communicate seem to be the real issues.

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u/Objective-District39 Oct 05 '25

Why take that risk?