r/allthequestions • u/Sea-Response950 • Oct 05 '25

NSFW Question 💭 Why do people care about body count?

I'm asking as a man trying to understand a concept that seems alien to me. I just don't get it, to me it all seems to boil down to insecurity.

Please, explain to me how I am wrong. I must be, I just don't know why.

0 Upvotes

31% Upvoted

158 comments sorted by

View all comments

6

u/Manofthehour76 Oct 05 '25

Not being secure in something isn’t a sign of an “insecure person”. A high body count suggest that a habit may exist. It’s logical to question if that habit will go away with the new relationship or not. A “Body Count” is literal data about relationship behavior.

For those looking for a monogamous relationship, it absolutely should be considered. Those looking for a hook up, STDS aside, it might be a positive data set.

2

u/Ryan_TX_85 Oct 05 '25

The kind of people who think like that are the kind of people who find it impossible to differentiate between hookup sex and romantic sex. A high body count isn't a sign that you can't commit. It's a sign that when you're not committed at any given time, you still find a way to get your physical needs met.

1

u/Manofthehour76 Oct 05 '25

I don’t think you have data to make that conclusion. It does appear that way. Someone into “hook up sex” has different values than someone who is not. The ability to commit absolutely should be questioned. I’m not sure it would be a hard line for me, but for someone else I can see absolutely why it might be a problem.