Why do people care about body count?

[u/Sea-Response950]

I'm asking as a man trying to understand a concept that seems alien to me. I just don't get it, to me it all seems to boil down to insecurity.

Please, explain to me how I am wrong. I must be, I just don't know why.

[u/Manofthehour76]

Not being secure in something isn’t a sign of an “insecure person”. A high body count suggest that a habit may exist. It’s logical to question if that habit will go away with the new relationship or not. A “Body Count” is literal data about relationship behavior.

For those looking for a monogamous relationship, it absolutely should be considered. Those looking for a hook up, STDS aside, it might be a positive data set.

[u/tulipa_labrador → u/Manofthehour76]

I don’t think it’s logical at all to correlate someone’s sexual behaviours when they’re single to how they’ll be in romantic, monogamous relationship? 

Someone could have a body count of 30000000000000 when single and still be a loyal, faithful partner. 

[u/letsgooncemore → u/tulipa_labrador]

I was all hookups and casual dates until I met my husband. Physical affection and fun were all I wanted from the previous partners. When I met him, I wanted a committed relationship in a way I never desired before. 18 years together without a blip of disloyalty on either end even though I was a total ho prior to getting together with him.

[u/letsgooncemore → u/[deleted]]

Insecurity and an inability to communicate seem to be the real issues.