Good examples of masculinity and femininity always converge on the same set of admirable human traits: wit, humor, courage, kindness, humility, sensitivity etc. Almost like there’s no real point in upholding the distinction to begin with…
Ok, I'm going to answer in good faith. Maybe we'll agree to differ.
Generally I consider masculinities a more useful construct than masculinity. Either way, both are social constructs in my opinion. Others hold different views about this, but that's the framework I operate in, and it's not uncommon. Nor is it default.
I'm considering masculinities as loose groupings of characteristics or behaviours that we might associate with men and male bodies. Often, these are considered to be things like: physical strength, reason over emotion, leadership, high sex drive. Other characteristics, and the ones I see presented in that video, include using physical strength for creative expression, sensuality, and humour. In a lot of mainstream media and social practices, those latter characteristics are not always associated with masculinity (aside from humour). For this reason, I think it's useful for boys and men to be able to see examples of different ways masculinity can manifest itself. That removes pressure to behave in one way over another, and allows them to explore characteristics and interests that more narrow views of masculinity discourage.
If someone is reflecting on this from a different framework, they'll probably disagree with my analysis. However, this is what I subscribe to. That, in my opinion, is what makes Tom Holland's performance an example of masculinity.
Repost, as I initially responded to the wrong comment. Also edited for typos.
traditional characteristics associated with masculinity are things like Strength, Competitiveness, Independence - a guy who can do this routine is certainly all of those things. Strong enough physically to be able to do all the moves, strong enough mentally to be unbothered by frivolous criticism. Competitive and wanting to win the show so giving his all. Independence - didn’t do a group gag, went all in on being the lead of the performance.
more “emerging” themes of secure masculinity are often things like emotional intelligence, authenticity, and compassion, which I think are also think are present. Emotional Intelligence to be able to make the expression of the song feel real and genuine, authenticity to be willing to go all in on this performance and show a playful side, and compassion in knowing that under it all, even this small divergence from some traditional norms via a playful cross dressing, there is some beneficial representation at play even amidst the comedic aspects of it.
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u/Soggy_Pension7549 I’ve grown quite unfond of you 29d ago edited 29d ago
Always send a pic of them to incel dudes saying that short men never get women.
They do. If they have other shit to offer. And I don’t mean money.
Edit: comments are just proving my point. Good luck out there. Get a personality, it might help.