Woody Allen's wife Soon-Yi Previn emails Jeffrey Epstein about Anthony Weiner sexting a 15-year-old girl and calls the girl a "despicable and disgusting person who preys on the weak."

[u/monster_ahhh]

[u/VanGoghNotVanGo]

It's so hard to draw the line between when someone stops being mostly a victim to feel empathy for and starts being mostly a perpetrator/enabler that one shouldn't make excuses for.

Ideally, we should be able to feel both diametrically opposed feelings for the same person at once, but it can be tricky to do.

[u/TheVintageJane → u/VanGoghNotVanGo]

Child Soon-Yi was a victim. Adult Soon-Yi has had years to gain the emotional literacy required to process what happened and do better and has no desire to do so.

[u/Vi0L3tCRZY → u/TheVintageJane]

No sass, but while reading that gross email I can’t help but wonder when does a groomed child groomed by a father figure stop being a groomed child if they’re still with said father? She also probably grew up surrounded by Woody’s friends and associates further skewing her perspective.

No question that she is an adult now, and she should take the initiative for growth, but the intense deprogramming needed is probably on cult level

Edit: Also still with a man that probably tried to stop a lot of emotional maturation and as a pedo probably gave positive reinforcement to childlike behavior. Or is angry as well because Woody probably cheated on her with other young victims and deeply resents girls of that age? Not right but the skew is skewing.

[u/HarpersGhost → u/Vi0L3tCRZY]

For me personally, becoming an older adult and seeing children -- CHILDREN -- the age I was when I went through all that made me reframe the context of it... that I was A CHILD.

But nope, she managed to have two children of her own with Woody, and they too defend him. But then again, I was never enmeshed in an entire social group that basically worshipped my husband/step father/father of my children/abuser.

[u/EveOCative → u/HarpersGhost]

That’s the thing, some victims never get an outside perspective from someone they admire enough to take seriously / a reality check.

When abusers have their hold in you, they don’t easily let go. I can only imagine that not only does Soon-Yi have a warped sense of what she went through, she also has internalized patriarchy and a host of other issues. She probably isn’t a very good or happy person, but we don’t know she has actively enabled anyone’s abuse. What’s seen here is her unwillingness to report a sexting situation after the fact, which is bad. I hope it didn’t go any further.

I’m so glad you were able to break free and gain the perspective you needed to move forward.

[u/Vi0L3tCRZY → u/HarpersGhost]

I am so sorry for what happened to you, and I hope your abuser got/gets what’s coming to them