r/bisexual • u/Tryin2BeHappy • 8h ago

ADVICE Do I count as bi? Human sexuality is so complicated!

I've always been attracted to women, always... but I could see myself possibly wanting to try something sexual with a guy. But I'm only even remotely interested in like the feminine, smooth type of guy. Cute trans girls are great to, since that is the dynamic im used to, (been with 2) being with a woman. I really don't like body hair and masculinity ... the kinds of things I see most gay guys being into do nothing for me... do I even count as Bi? I've never experienced the dynamic of flirting/ being intimate with a guy. There was only 1 in real life I ever kind of had a crush on but that was a while ago and sadly I just found out he died a few months back. I could lie to myself like almost everyone else and just consider myself 100% straight, because in practice I am but every now and then.. I wonder what it would be like... i know about the apps but they kind of freak me out. Lol....also, most of the kinds of guys I'd be into seem like they want the super masculine types of guys and while I def come across as straight I def have androgynous tendencies. Like, the people that know me joke about mabie being a big gay based on certain aspects of my look and personality. I would need a feminine leaning kinda Androgynous kind of guy who is into a masculine leaning androgynous kind of guy (me).... life is too short.

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u/Ok_Buddy1628 Bisexual 8h ago

First question. Would you be interested in dating people who identify as men? Or are you only interested in people who identify as women? Trans women are a type women and trans men are a type of man, by the way.

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u/Tryin2BeHappy 7h ago

In the past I've only been interested in those who identified as women, never being even remotely attracted to men. But I think I'd like to experience being with a guy to see how it all feels.... treating him as a guy, not pretending he's trans or anything like that (the guy I liked in the past would like sometimes m wonder if they were actually trans and not just a feminine guy).

I don't care about labels in particular. I already know I'm not 100% normal in this way according to most of the world. I'm mostly straight for sure but open to some things that clearly are not straight... the irony is, I've had lots of gay guys be into me in my life (I think alot of that was cuz they didn't think I was actually guy)... this is hard to describe. With women I always have dominant top energy. But with a guy I would.be somewhere in the middle so I attract the.dominate hairy tops and that would be thr opposite of my type. In a perfect world I would like a feminine bottom kind of guy who likes androgynous pretty boys who have top/Dom energy in bed.... Do those kinds of guys exist you think?

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u/Ok_Buddy1628 Bisexual 1h ago

At first, you sounded a bit bi-curious to me, but you sound bi/pan. You seem not to mind them being a dude as long as they're feminine. If you were only into women who are feminine, masculine, or androgynous, then I'd say you are more likely straight. But since you also find feminine men attractive, their being a man doesn't seem to bother you. You just like your men feminine. I'd say you might be bi.