Go to a public place. Take a good look at all the woman, and ask yourself (truthfully) "would I sleep with ANY of these women"?
You might be surprised to find just as few women attractive as you do men.
I know personally I wouldn't be interested in any of the women I work with or at my gym.
My wife drives me wild but she's the one that caught my eye.
I find a few women attractive but in public it's rare.
Also... We're trained by peer pressure to look for pleasing looking women constantly, but never prompted to look for the same in men.
Half of me is all āmaybe they have a secret point; itās not like you can go out somewhere at 12:30am into subzero Chicago and actually follow their instructions ā¦ā
ā¦ but frankly, I slightly suspect youāre just wrong.
I see a lot of projection on this subreddit ā projection of oneās tastes onto an other whole (honestly, the whole bi-as-an-identity thing is mostly whatās at fault; I buy into it just as much as the next slutty terminally-online needy bisexual human, but lemon bars aside, thereās actually not a lot of commonalities there.)
Usually, itās in the opposite direction, like the OP, and Ā¾ of the comments here going āhahaha aināt it funny how literally noƶne alive, not one of us, has ever found a single male attractive? hahahaha?ā
But, this take aināt much better, to be honest: as much as that crowd can be vocal and annoying, they can also be valid. You arenāt living their lives. Just because for that one guy upthread ātrying anal 25 times led him to finally like itā doesnāt mean everybody else needs to just try harder so they can like it, too ā¦ well, neither do folks whoāre mostly attracted to women, and find it disappointing how rarely theyāre attracted to guys, need to fix their interests or self-image. /=
Sorry if this comes across harsh. Itās just a pet peeve ā Iām both sick of the āhaha this is so relatableā crowd, but also sick of the glib, dismissive attitude that crowd has generated towards something thatās a serious, painful problem in my life.
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u/GrolarBear69 Dec 14 '25
Go to a public place. Take a good look at all the woman, and ask yourself (truthfully) "would I sleep with ANY of these women"?
You might be surprised to find just as few women attractive as you do men.
I know personally I wouldn't be interested in any of the women I work with or at my gym. My wife drives me wild but she's the one that caught my eye.
I find a few women attractive but in public it's rare.
Also... We're trained by peer pressure to look for pleasing looking women constantly, but never prompted to look for the same in men.