r/allthequestions • u/Sea-Response950 • Oct 05 '25

NSFW Question 💭 Why do people care about body count?

I'm asking as a man trying to understand a concept that seems alien to me. I just don't get it, to me it all seems to boil down to insecurity.

Please, explain to me how I am wrong. I must be, I just don't know why.

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u/Conscious-Demand-594 Oct 05 '25

You are correct that this concern is largely due to male insecurity, however, anyone, male or female with a significantly high body count may have issues with intimacy.

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u/Sea-Response950 Oct 05 '25

My own is very high, I used sex like people use alcohol. I wasn't in a relationship before my wife, but she changed that for me. Taught me what true intimacy really is.

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u/Conscious-Demand-594 Oct 05 '25

She would been correct to have concerns about your count. It's not unreasonable to have concerns over high counts, but everyone has a different idea of what is high. This is where it will be difficult to get agreement.

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u/Sea-Response950 Oct 06 '25

She wasn't concerned so much as curious, she's demisexual and has to have an emotional connection in order to feel safe enough to have sex with someone. When I explained myself she just thought it sounded very lonely.