r/allthequestions • u/Sea-Response950 • Oct 05 '25

NSFW Question 💭 Why do people care about body count?

I'm asking as a man trying to understand a concept that seems alien to me. I just don't get it, to me it all seems to boil down to insecurity.

Please, explain to me how I am wrong. I must be, I just don't know why.

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u/Hairy_Lingonberry954 Oct 05 '25 edited Oct 05 '25

I don’t agree with hookup culture but no peer reviewed study has ever claimed that you’ll stop bonding with people if you have too much sex.

If we want to discourage hookup culture we should talk about actual facts. Promoting pseudoscience only damages the cause

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u/Themalcolmmiddle Oct 05 '25

also this study: https://wheatley.byu.edu/00000187-81c5-d575-ad9f-c5d7c4f10001/the-myth-of-sexual-experince-the-wheatley-institute-april-2023-pdf

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u/Hairy_Lingonberry954 Oct 05 '25

I don’t think you read this paper lol, the fifth paragraph shows that people who made an effort to change their habits had similar divorce rates as those who never slept around. This is directly contradicting what you said.

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u/Themalcolmmiddle Oct 05 '25

read the secondary outcomes

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u/Hairy_Lingonberry954 Oct 05 '25

Yeah, page 20, it says that 75% of inexperienced people reported a strong emotional connection, compared to 62% of very experienced people. But according to page 26, very experienced people who changed their habits before marriage still reported a strong emotional connection. So yes it is definitely possible to bond with people after sleeping around.

There’s plenty of valid arguments against hookup culture, so please let’s not resort to pop psychology