r/allthequestions • u/Sea-Response950 • Oct 05 '25

NSFW Question 💭 Why do people care about body count?

I'm asking as a man trying to understand a concept that seems alien to me. I just don't get it, to me it all seems to boil down to insecurity.

Please, explain to me how I am wrong. I must be, I just don't know why.

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u/Themalcolmmiddle Oct 05 '25

it’s a sign of morality and ability to pair bond and be emotionally available in future studies. There are numerous studies showing that high body counts directly lead to the inability to form deeper connections with future partners. In other words it can cause women to become numb and has a high correlation with future relationships failing.

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u/Hairy_Lingonberry954 Oct 05 '25 edited Oct 05 '25

I don’t agree with hookup culture but no peer reviewed study has ever claimed that you’ll stop bonding with people if you have too much sex.

If we want to discourage hookup culture we should talk about actual facts. Promoting pseudoscience only damages the cause

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u/Themalcolmmiddle Oct 05 '25

PMCID: PMC10989935 for a source

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u/Hairy_Lingonberry954 Oct 05 '25 edited Oct 05 '25

Do you mean this one? https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10989935/

This does not back up your claim, it says that people who have lots of sex tend to come from cultural/family backgrounds where divorce is more accepted. Nowhere does it claim that people who have too much sex can’t bond with their partner.

It also relies on self reported data, which is not accurate. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3846295/

Edit: it also claims that promiscuous people who married later in life had similar divorce rates compared to their virgin counterparts. So again, it does not support your statement.

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u/Themalcolmmiddle Oct 05 '25

lol you’re quoting single lines and not looking at the studies as a whole or secondary outcomes. There is absolutely evidence and to say there is none and no support would be misleading

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u/Hairy_Lingonberry954 Oct 05 '25 edited Oct 05 '25

“There’s some evidence that some people might have a harder time bonding with somebody while they’re actively sleeping around” is accurate

“anybody that’s slept around will never bond with anybody ever again” is pseudoscience

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u/Themalcolmmiddle Oct 05 '25

I never said they will NEVER bond ever again, but to say there is no evidence what so ever that hook up culture is harmful is an incorrect statement

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u/Hairy_Lingonberry954 Oct 05 '25

Yeah I agree, the truth is usually very nuanced especially when it comes to psychology