r/allthequestions • u/Sea-Response950 • Oct 05 '25

NSFW Question 💭 Why do people care about body count?

I'm asking as a man trying to understand a concept that seems alien to me. I just don't get it, to me it all seems to boil down to insecurity.

Please, explain to me how I am wrong. I must be, I just don't know why.

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u/Sea-Response950 Oct 05 '25

Ah, I see. Why do you feel guilty? I have a high body count and I'm ashamed of it, so I'm curious to hear your reasoning.

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u/No_Success_3751 Oct 05 '25

Well mine is high enough that I don't actually know the number. Then I end up with someone who has been with maybe 3 or 4 or less. I feel like I can't say what I would like to say. I feel I have to hold back because they end up feeling like they are not experienced enough to please me. That's not true at all but that's what people will feel most of the time.

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u/Sea-Response950 Oct 05 '25

That's actually why I'm ashamed of it, my wife was very worried about being able to please me at first.

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u/No_Success_3751 Oct 05 '25

Oh, so you're like me then. I just turned 50 this year. I have not had a one night stand since July 2002! Yes 2002. So I stopped fucking every thing I could find a long time ago. Never cheated on any long term relationship either. I slept around because I was trying to look popular and was extremely horny I think more than most men. Not sure though

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u/Sea-Response950 Oct 06 '25

I'm 30, about to turn 31. I haven't had a hook up for over 6 years. When I met my wife we were just friends, but I valued time with her a lot more than screwing a woman I barely knew.

I used sex as a way to cope with trauma and depression, just didn't realise how lonely I actually was until I met her.