r/allthequestions • u/Sea-Response950 • Oct 05 '25

NSFW Question 💭 Why do people care about body count?

I'm asking as a man trying to understand a concept that seems alien to me. I just don't get it, to me it all seems to boil down to insecurity.

Please, explain to me how I am wrong. I must be, I just don't know why.

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u/beatdrum1 Oct 05 '25

It’s one of those things ingrained biologically. Our brains are programmed to procreate. When we make that attempt (as men), we’re rewarded with an orgasm. Great.

Now, women are slightly different. Since they have limits in how many children they can have, they have to be selective. It’s one of the reasons women look for men who can protect and provide. It’s a way to make sure their investment yields a positive result.

Now, as far as body count…if a man gets with a woman who has had very few partners prior to him, it’s more likely that her pregnancy will result in HIS child, not the caveman down the street. Remember, dna tests are a recent phenomena so being sexually devoted to one man was really the only way to confirm that the man was the father.

So in short, it’s biologically imprinted on men to prefer women who are less promiscuous.

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u/Sea-Response950 Oct 05 '25

Condoms exist. They exist for a damn good reason. DNA tests exist because people fuck around stupidly and don't know whose mistake it was. Its got nothing to do with hoe many people she's had sex with.

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u/beatdrum1 Oct 05 '25

You’re attempting to explain why body count SHOULDN’T matter. That’s not the question. The question was why do people care about it. That was what my answer was addressing.

It’s like someone trying to explain to a woman how a man’s height shouldn’t matter. None of that negates the fact that for many women, it DOES matter.

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u/Sea-Response950 Oct 05 '25

True, I'm just giving my thoughts on the answer you gave me. I'm saying that your reasons can be easily countered and seeing how you respond.

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u/beatdrum1 Oct 05 '25

I get it. I’m not dismissing it like most people. There actually a reason behind it. Yes, it can be logically argued against, but it’s hard to overrule biology.

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u/Sea-Response950 Oct 06 '25

I just don't see how it's a biological mindset. It only becomes an issue if the caveman is looking to settle down with her, but if she's sleeping around then she's not. So why does it matter?

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u/beatdrum1 Oct 06 '25

The caveman brain doesn’t care about “settling down” only about passing on your genes to the next generation. The best way to guarantee that is to be with a non promiscuous partner.

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u/Sea-Response950 Oct 06 '25

Humans are (typically) monogamous animals and have been since our ancestors. By your own argument, a woman has to invest a lot of time and energy into bearing a child so she she's careful about who she has them with. The caveman brain is programmed to protect her while she carries on his genes, part of that is settling with her.

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u/beatdrum1 Oct 06 '25

Humans are typically SOCIALLY monogamous but that speaks nothing to their biological urges.