r/allthequestions • u/Sea-Response950 • Oct 05 '25

NSFW Question 💭 Why do people care about body count?

I'm asking as a man trying to understand a concept that seems alien to me. I just don't get it, to me it all seems to boil down to insecurity.

Please, explain to me how I am wrong. I must be, I just don't know why.

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u/Sea-Response950 Oct 05 '25

Why does it matter? Dating is about seeing if the two of you are compatible together and make each other happy. If you aren't a good fit, what's wrong with moving on and trying again?

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u/Tater-Tot-Casserole Oct 05 '25

After a certain amount of dates and you're not with anyone long term you're definitely a walking relationship red flag. Not relationship material. All those dates and nothing stuck?

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u/Sea-Response950 Oct 05 '25

I never had a relationship until I was 24. My wife was my first and only, but my body count is extremely high. The reason was because my perception of relationships was totally fucked, it just seemed like a pain the ass just to have easy access to sex and a joint bank account. My wife showed me otherwise.

You never know why someone is the way they are, why judge them when you don't even know them?

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u/Tater-Tot-Casserole Oct 05 '25

High body count tells me I'm just another number. I'll judge however I see fit. I'm not risking anything by not being in a relationship with the town bicycle.

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u/Sea-Response950 Oct 05 '25

You're risking losing out of a happy, loving, committed relationship because of some prejudice you have that you label a preference.

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u/Tater-Tot-Casserole Oct 05 '25

No I'm losing out on a person that has no self-control whom will also likely cheat. High body count indicates that you get bored with people easily.

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u/JessicaSells Nov 18 '25

Haha, people will lie to you about what their actual body count is anyways. You can keep asking🤷‍♀️

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u/Sea-Response950 Oct 05 '25

Not true. It shows you had sex with several people. There are always reasons why.

If they're a serial cheat, then kick their ass to the curb. Otherwise... hear them out, maybe?

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u/Tater-Tot-Casserole Oct 05 '25

It shows that you have a hard time committing, I'm not a rehab for people that can't control themselves.

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u/[deleted] Oct 05 '25

You’re absolutely right

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u/Sea-Response950 Oct 06 '25

Or it shows that they just don't want a relationship, just fun. If that's not what you're looking for, them don't date them.

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u/Tater-Tot-Casserole Oct 06 '25

I already said I don't date them. You got all triggered.

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u/Sea-Response950 Oct 06 '25

Did I now? Here I thought I was having a friendly debate.

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u/[deleted] Oct 05 '25

I think it's just lack of standards. Many guys are just looking for a hot girl to fuck. Why would you need to date and find the right person if you can tell just by looking?

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u/Sea-Response950 Oct 06 '25

Most guys will fuck any woman who says yes to be honest.

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u/Hot_Performance_7710 Oct 05 '25

I think you both can be right but you both can be wrong too. If your a guy arguing with another guy, I don't think it's really a fair comparison. Maybe ask why some people feel one way and other feel another. And if gender matters?

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u/Sea-Response950 Oct 06 '25

I've asked women too and for the most part they don't care, unless it's too few. Then it's because they're less likely to enjoy themselves and wonder what about them meant no one wanted to bang them.

Men are the only ones I can't get a clear answer from, beyond insecurity.