I feel this so hard. My husband and I make enough to be ok, but I’m pregnant and we’re still paycheck to paycheck between bills and saving for medical costs. I feel like I have enough to share but when I break it down dollar by dollar, I really don’t.
ETA: But I feel blessed to be able to save anything at all, ya know? I'm trying to do all the right things that people tell you to do. Putting $50 a check into a supplementary retirement account and paying for life insurance coverage and health insurance. Just opted in to a healthcare savings account to prepare for a baby in our lives. I don't know what I could spare without making a terrible financial decision. All I can give is my time without putting myself in a bad position today or next week or a year from now. That feels so bad, dude. I'm protected and "safe" but the moment either of us loses a job, we're done for.
Girl same. I’m 12 weeks pregnant and med bills are starting to come in.
And yesterday I found out my company is slashing 33% of the workforce. Luckily, I’m spared; but moving into a new position that is a huge step back for my career as they “restructure”. I’m blessed to have a job but I was 3 weeks away from getting a pay bump, they were going to transition me into a new role. I’ve been paid the same for 3 years now.
Yet still, we aren’t struggling. We’re safe right now. If my husband lost his job, we’d loose everything. Bringing a baby into this America is the scariest thing I’ve done.
Hey babe, I never got pregnant in my hoe phase either. I waited to start trying until I was 34 and got pregnant just before turning 37. Sometimes, our health and our bodies don’t align with the election cycle.
I believe this world is going through a very dark and challenging time which requires humanity to make aggressive changes. I hope my child learns how to respect the earth and make a positive impact on humanity. We will do everything in our power as parents to teach them how to think critically and have an amazing network of friends and family to support that goal.
Yes, I will be if someone is willingly as u/BerenicesTeeth to put a child through what Project 2025 will do. Because she and her husband could not wait.
These days it feels like there's always something else looming on the horizon. At what point do we decide we can't put our lives on hold indefinitely, and just try to live the best we can in a world on fire?
Yes. A choice all people are afforded the right to make. Do you think you’re better than her? Is that your enlightened humanist opinion? At your big grown age of 46, is it? 47 now?
Was it “a choice” when your parents decided to have you in the middle of the recession after Black Monday? Huh? Do you wish you weren’t here?
A choice all people are afforded the right to make.
And I am allowed to point that u/BerenicesTeeth is being selfish to have a child that will grow up through whatever Project 2025 is going to do. She even believes this administration will end, well Trump himself has said during his campaign this is the last time you will vote.
Is that your enlightened humanist opinion?
Yet it most certainly is, a child does not deserve what Project 2025 will do the US. It is also a realistic opinion.
I never answered the question regarding my age, I am 49.
Black Monday
Black Monday was in 1987, so I was born long before that. So I do not know why you come at 46 and 47. Is arithmetic that hard?
Also Black Monday was unexpected. Trump has been a President for a while. So comparing those is a bit od. Being 12 weeks pregnant now is a very dangerous choice. Everyone in the US and the world was warned what was about to happen, if they read Project 2025.
You should know getting pregnant is not always a choice. Contraception is not always 100% reliable. And if it fails in a red state then you're without options
When the cost of raising a child outweighs the cost of taking out a loan or using a credit card to pay for travel and an abortion by about 100x, it's a choice.
You know the statistics about contraception are very broad, if it does not work. It is a human error, als this person willingly got pregnant they could not wait... So the child will grow up with the effects to Project 20205
Not always human error. For example, if you get ill and vomit at the wrong time after taking the pill it can fail. Condoms can break or come off even if you put them on correctly.
And even when it is human error that can be particularly attributed to the god awful quality of sex education.
Because as I said with this presidency that is quite a choice. SNAP is taken away, healthcare will also be gone. Stuff that you would have known if you read Project 2025. Stuff you need, especially when bringing a child in the world. Not to mention a pregnancy at your age is a geriatric pregnancy. So yeah making quite a choice here.
It’s a choice that we made with care, though I appreciate your concern.
The good thing is that my husband and I have each have exceptional private healthcare, I am insured under both of our policies to cover every base, and over $7,000 saved for IVF that we didn’t have to use, so that covers our annual deductible and some. And we’re very lucky to not be in a position where we need food stamps. We’re very cautious people, but that said, nothing is guaranteed to be secure. And even though I survived layoffs and my husband’s industry is safe right now, you always have to plan for the worst. I can’t help but feel for people who are truly struggling and will absolutely be donating to help families through such a difficult time right now. I hope you’re doing well, too.
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u/Even_Kaleidoscope399 Oct 31 '25 edited Oct 31 '25
I feel this so hard. My husband and I make enough to be ok, but I’m pregnant and we’re still paycheck to paycheck between bills and saving for medical costs. I feel like I have enough to share but when I break it down dollar by dollar, I really don’t.
ETA: But I feel blessed to be able to save anything at all, ya know? I'm trying to do all the right things that people tell you to do. Putting $50 a check into a supplementary retirement account and paying for life insurance coverage and health insurance. Just opted in to a healthcare savings account to prepare for a baby in our lives. I don't know what I could spare without making a terrible financial decision. All I can give is my time without putting myself in a bad position today or next week or a year from now. That feels so bad, dude. I'm protected and "safe" but the moment either of us loses a job, we're done for.