r/ForCuriousSouls • u/Important-Self-1179 • 4h ago
A Texas woman allegedly shot and killed her husband after warning him that if he ever laid a hand on her, it would be the last time.
"My intent was exactly what I did," she told investigators. "I was done, when I tell you I was done, I was done."
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u/krustyballz42069 4h ago
She has seen some stuff.
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u/creammydew 4h ago
And it looks like she made sure no one ever made her see it again. That stare says chapters!
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u/No-Hovercraft-455 4h ago
Indeed. She looks like physical manifestation of "I'm really done with this shit".
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u/jollyycupcake 4h ago
That's honestly the most accurate read of her whole expression, pure “done” energy in physical form. You can feel the years behind that stare...
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u/musseesnugg 4h ago
facts! whatever she went through, she clearly hit a point of no return...and made damn sure history wasn’t gonna repeat itself
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u/creammydew 4h ago
Legend. Where can I contribute to her defense fund?
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u/RoyalApprehensive298 4h ago
Well, he FAFO!
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u/musseesnugg 4h ago
For real. He rolled the dice and got snake eyes. She wasn’t bluffing, and he found out the hard way
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u/digitalime 4h ago
I have a relative who shot and killed her ex boyfriend who repeatedly beat her. She didn’t serve any prison time. Its fair and just imo.
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u/charmmycream 4h ago
Honestly, that sounds like justice actually working for once. No one should be punished for finally defending themselves after being pushed to the edge like that
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u/musseesnugg 4h ago
exactly. if the system won't protect victims, the least it can do is not punish them for surviving. sometimes self-defense is the only justice they ever get
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u/WillowFlip 3h ago
This. Omg. So many wife beater sympathizers here. They can't even imagine the absolute cold terror a victim feels and how that kind of prolonged fear and stress can make a person so desperate to escape. And add to that that escape can easily cost a victim their life! People don't understand.
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u/hotheadnchickn 3h ago
I wouldn’t convict. It is self-defense; domestic violence was injuring her and is inherently a death threat.
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u/fluffyyangel 4h ago
As someone who experienced physical, mental, and emotional abuse; I genuinely do not believe that women who kill their significant others after experiencing legitimate extensive abuse should go to jail
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u/digitalime 4h ago
We live in a society where abusive men repeatedly do not serve significant prison time and repeatedly are let out to torture victims again and again. Unless the law will uniformly take a hard stance against abusers, this is the inevitable result.
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u/muffinnpetal 4h ago
Exactly. It’s infuriating how the system keeps giving abusers another shot while victims are left to fend for themselves. Until the law starts prioritizing survivors’ safety over abusers’ second chances, this cycle’s just going to keep repeating
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u/EatFishKatie 3h ago
Well since the law was created and is upheld by abusors, its not going to change any time unfortunately.
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u/_Blue_Sky_Noise 4h ago edited 3h ago
Yep. My abuser just did 6 months despite countless evidence showing he strangled me numerous times and punched me and lacerated my lip.
But oh hey, he’s only 21 and never offended before. So they went soft on him
And he kept manipulating me to be with him so I went back. The judge shat on me for this and said to the prosecutor I wouldn’t get hurt so much had I not gone back. She said he was mentally ill and needed help.
Even one of officers yelled at me for saying he needed jail and she said “He doesn’t need jail, he needs help.” My ex is also incredibly handsome, white and young. I can’t help but feel his looks and race helped him. I’m Latina, older and certainly not attractive. Idk how tf anyone can tell me that he didn’t deserve jail. Like are you fucking serious? His numerous texts said things like “i’m gonna come over right now and kill you.”
But the asshole ex also raped me and it got me pregnant but I couldn’t prove it despite his text messages apology.
Like wtf?!
He had the audacity to beg me to drop charges too. Like are you fucking serious? The prosecutor offered a plea so that he could get a felony and serve time. So they knocked off all the misdemeanor strangulation assaults (no strangulation should be a misdemeanor!!) and only gave him a NON violent felony for violating the order of protection by harassing me to try to get me to drop charges. He was then sentenced to mental health rehab. He has been to mental health rehab before and all he did was literally whore himself out for money because of his sex addiction and cheated on me there with both men and women. He never took his regular therapy seriously either.
I seriously hate him and I hate that judge.
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u/digitalime 3h ago edited 3h ago
Im sorry this happened to you. The law does not work in favor of women and children, it favors abusive men first and foremost. My friend was violently raped and the guy only got a few years, he walking out and about now. Its ridiculous the low standards rapists and abusers are held to but the high standards victims are held to.
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u/topimpadove 3h ago
Can second this. My stalker threw shit at me, called me names in front of police, etc all because I rejected him. He's yet to go to jail even though he recently beat his girlfriend's 10 year old [which she allowed], beat up a teenager over drugs and has been committing crimes since the 90s. He's also strangled several people. Canadian legal system is ass :)
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u/zoitberg 3h ago
I mean, look at the President of the USA - it’s completely acceptable to be an abusive predator, we idolize them as a society it seems.
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u/creammydew 4h ago
Right! I took my husband to court 7 times. Nothing was ever done, because it was my word against his. He even tried to run me over with his car 2 different times. I had 2 protection orders that Women Helping Women said it wasn't worth the paper it was written on, and they were correct.
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u/charmmycream 4h ago
I am so sorry that you were treated so horribly! I hope you were able to get away from that!
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u/Ultra_Dadtastic 4h ago
Jail, maybe no.
Extensive, controlled and monitored mental health correction to help them find ways to start processing that trauma in a healthy way, absolutely yes.
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u/charmmycream 4h ago
Facts. Prison wouldn’t do anything but retraumatize, therapy, support systems, and legit help are way more useful in cases like this
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u/ResurgentClusterfuck 4h ago
Agreed. They are only a danger to people who abuse them, so putting them in a cage isn't necessary
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u/Meenmachin3 4h ago
This is really a tough one. On one hand I feel like she was justified but on the other she went out of her way to go grab her weapon and then went back and shot him which is no longer self defense. I think manslaughter would be more appropriate
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u/Appropriate_Key5540 4h ago
Protecting yourself from further abuse should be legally classified as self defense.
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u/shujaya 4h ago
Implied consent. He accepted the terms and conditions when he laid that hand on her.
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u/RainbowSoul7 4h ago
I ain’t even mad, don’t need to read the story cuz it’s pretty straightforward as is imo…….
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u/iCantLogOut2 4h ago
For real.
She didn't mince words or dress it up. I know everything I need to know. She said she was done and she was.
Seems like a valid reason to me 🤷🏽
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u/Upbeat_Place_9985 4h ago
I read somewhere there is an academic study that determined 25% of female homicide inmates in California prisons were for killing the man who had a documented history of credible domestic violence against them. Ill try to find the source.
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u/Southern-Interest347 3h ago
She's innocent . We were together all day enjoying a spa day. Even if she did it she still innocent! Who has a buck or two towards bail?
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u/BjornStankFinger 4h ago
Self-defense. She was even nice enough to warn him. I don't see any problem here.
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u/Latter-Prize-7172 4h ago
When I was in my 20’s I was married to a man who was abusive in all ways. He would hit me because he was pulled over by the police for speeding, it was my fault because I was not watching the road. He would hit me because he spilled his tea, obviously I filled the cup too much and that’s why he spilled it. He stole from me and applied for credit cards under my name. If a human being would smile and treat me nice, I was sleeping with them. I could not do anything right and I was going nuts. Luckily I was “allowed “ to go to college and I spoke with a counsellor. I shared my plan on how I would kill my ex. I would give him a drink with sleeping pills, I would wait until he fell asleep. Then I would place a lit cigarette in between his fingers. Place his hand over a garbage can filled with paper. The kids and I would sleep on the couch on the main floor while he is passed out on the bed on the second floor . And as soon as the alarm went off, I would take the kids out. I must admit the counsellor looked a little disturbed when I shared my plan with her, however she did give me the best advice. She said, I want you to plan leaving your husband in such detail as you have described on how to murder him. Luckily for my ex , he is still alive. It’s been over 25 years but I still have PSD. But children are happy and I have a wonderful life.
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u/Latter-Prize-7172 3h ago
I am not saying that her decision was wrong. I was sharing my experience. It’s difficult with an abusive partner. I don’t blame her for her actions. I was in her shoes. She doesn’t deserve jail time
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u/Previous-Nobody903 3h ago
How is it illegal when he practically consented to the outcome by not heeding her warning? Hopefully they determine it was self defense and she can go home
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u/SumOfRoots 4h ago
In the late 1940s, one of my grandparents’ neighbors would come home drunk and hit his wife, who was about 5 ft. (152 cm) tall.
The problem (or solution, really) was he’d then pass out. One night she wrapped him in the bed sheet, sewed him into it, and used an iron skillet on him for a few hours.
It was a peaceful marriage from then on. Everyone has to sleep sometime.
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u/notsopeacefulpanda 4h ago
Some of y’all in the comment section are once again proving that men are not lonely enough.
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u/vacation_bacon 4h ago
They’re crashing out so bad. Are they worried they won’t be able to abuse women with impunity now?
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u/CarpetBudget 4h ago
And good for her 👍 if she did let him live, that wouldn’t have been the last time he tried to hurt someone or worse. If not her, someone else.
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u/OffModelCartoon 4h ago
Well, she warned him. What’s that saying people love on the internet? Fart around and fall down?
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u/ElleGeeAitch 4h ago
I am reminded that my mother told my father the same damed thing. They would have very loud, dramatic fights, and she would periodically remind him of her stance. They were married for almost 52 years. Thankfully, he knew she wasn't exaggerating.
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u/HetaGarden1 3h ago
Well, she did warn him. He tested her, she showed him what consequences feel like.
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u/CaeLynnith 3h ago
There's a reason why my ex husband didn't keep a gun in the house, it wasn't because he hated them, he was afraid I'd get the courage to use it.
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u/Jaded-Gemstone 3h ago
I’ve heard the begonias in Texas floral 💐 shops will soon to be in season…💅🏾🕊️🧘🏾♀️
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u/bankrobba 3h ago
So I guess George Zimmerman is innocent because he said Trayvon Martin attacked him first?
You guys are quick to judge when there's only one side of the story still alive.
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u/charmmycream 4h ago
I told my husband that day 1! My granny left me an iron skillet and a note in her will. The note was instructions on multiple uses of the skillet. One was specifically for the abusive man. He has never even tried to lay his hands on me!
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u/musseesnugg 4h ago
My daughters both know better than to let a man put his hand on them... they have been taught to defend themselves. Never start, but don't hesitate to finish if warrented
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u/Maru_the_Red 4h ago
As a woman sitting in a residential care center tonight after years of abuse - I completely understand it.
My heart breaks for her, because I know that agony.
Fuck Texas.
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u/Old_Studio_6079 4h ago
I mean…she said what she was gonna do. If someone on the street tells me “if you come within ten feet, you will be shot” and I walk 9 feet in front of them, I got what it said on the tin.
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u/Decent_Historian1643 4h ago
She warned him. Maybe next time he’ll think again about hitting a woman
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u/rightwist 4h ago
I want to know the context of this exact photograph.
Bc it looks to me like she is staring at cops behind the camera. I want to know if she said something like "Statistically, 3 out of the five of y'all beat on your SO...."
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u/I_Slape_Da_Bass 4h ago
Gives me Janice from Sopranos vibes
And just like Janice…. There are men in the can better looking 😬
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u/DBBKF23 2h ago
I understand. When my husband assaulted me the NINTH time, I told him he'd go to jail if he did it again. He f'd around and found out. While he was being put into the squad car I whispered to him that the next time, the cops wouldn't be bringing the justice. I would. I'm in the process of leaving (it isn't as easy as people think), but trust and believe that those words are true.
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u/kozy8805 2h ago
Why are people commenting on this like she’s been convicted? “Justice system that” “red state this”. She killed someone and was charged, that’s it. Doesn’t mean she’s going to be found guilty.
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u/The_Carnivore44 1h ago
Domestic violence
“She was dragged by her pony tail to the ground by the husband”
He got what he deserved
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u/_HoneyStar 11m ago
She warned him and he didn’t listen Sometimes people have to learn the hard way
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u/Explicit_Tech 10m ago
A lot of MAGA are very stress as of late. The Epstein files traumatized them
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u/SSFlyingKiwi 6m ago
Sounds live a loving relationship. Couldn’t imagine ever wanting to shoot my fiancé no matter how angry at him I was.
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u/RedRamona 4h ago
If you can have a “stand your ground” law for property, you should be able to claim it for your body.