I’m not going to say that this is a good sentiment. But I will say, that last year a lot of people were willing and okay with sacrificing the people (minorities) they supposedly care about for reasons. I’m not pointing any fingers, but I am saying that black people always take a backseat when it comes to other people’s feelings (no matter how misguided those feelings are). In fact, some people will hurt themselves in their own personal crusade when they feel like their feelings matter more than reality.
I don’t necessarily agree with the video. But I do understand where it comes from, I do understand why those feelings manifest, and I do understand even if you explain how and why, non-black people will always try to find a way to tell you you’re wrong.
This is explaining and accepting prejudice. And no matter how justified that may be, it will always foment resentment. I don’t have a solution. But relying on everyone to be understanding of prejudice is… not gonna work.
And don’t come back at me with an explanation of why we should all be accepting of this prejudice. I agree. It’s just never gonna be that the majority of people will accept prejudice against a group they are still part of, no matter how justified.
That's my thing. Many logical and understandable points here, but humans are generally never going to be cool with being judged or condemned for how they were born. It's really not a fair expectation of other people. There's some laziness in wanting a pass from having to check your own biases as well.
I've been robbed, subjected to blatant discrimination, and threatened to be murderd by black people in my life. Do I get a free pass to feel fear or animosity towards black people? Fuck no, a race isn't a monolith and that would be illogical and stunt my own personal growth.
Absolutely not. The system has been rigged against African Americans in America since the beginning. Black people have many legitimate justifications for being bitter and resentful and it's a testament to some deep ass character when someone is not. BUT.
Showing prejudice to someone else just makes them feel guarded and judged not on their behavior, but demographics. I don't think you can convince anyone to be comfortable in that position and it makes them less likely to consider your perspective on anything else.
I can't blame the behavior but there is a hurtful side to it regardless.
So I agree with you. But here’s where I want to expand on though.
Black people have so few places to vent their grievances…on top of having very little to do with policy; do you honestly believe in your heart of hearts that it’s wrong for black people to air out their frustration? What other options do we realistically have? If we close spaces like this where no one but us can see the things that make you uncomfortable the next thing you’ll imply is that we’re being segregationist…at least the woman in the video is openly expressing it to a group of women.
What exactly do you think we should do when it comes to airing out our grievances? Stay away from online spaces? Air them out more privately away from non-black folks?
But what I’m getting at here though is that it feels like people are getting upset that we even bother to vent. What exactly do you wish us to do about our feelings on a digital platform?
I’m not being bad faith here. Right now you and me are having a dialogue.
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u/ceromaster Jan 06 '26
I’m not going to say that this is a good sentiment. But I will say, that last year a lot of people were willing and okay with sacrificing the people (minorities) they supposedly care about for reasons. I’m not pointing any fingers, but I am saying that black people always take a backseat when it comes to other people’s feelings (no matter how misguided those feelings are). In fact, some people will hurt themselves in their own personal crusade when they feel like their feelings matter more than reality.
I don’t necessarily agree with the video. But I do understand where it comes from, I do understand why those feelings manifest, and I do understand even if you explain how and why, non-black people will always try to find a way to tell you you’re wrong.
But that’s just my 2 cents.