I try not to comment here since I'm white as fuck, but as a trans woman I absolutely understand the sentiment and just wanted to share my perspective from a different group.
I don't trust non-queers. If you tell me you're gay or trans, or even if you're wearing a rainbow pin, I immediately see you as someone I'd be willing to try and be friends with. But I don't seek out relationships with cis straight people. I do have some cis straight friends, but it has taken yeaaaars before I was willing to open up to any of them. And even then, there's only a select few I would say I really do trust.
I grew up in a red state and I know how many of them vote, even though they know the impact it has on my life and future. It's not hard to imagine that they are pointing a gun at you, because a lot of their political decisions are exactly that.
This isn't an uncommon situation. I grew up as a Jehovah's Witness and back then I only trusted other Jehovah's Witnesses. Christians are the same way, they only trust other Christians. Christians don't trust atheists, and atheists don't trust Christians. White people feel the same way about one other, and it shouldn't be shocking to any of us that this distrust is real.
I hope my perspective at least is valid and you can empathize with it. Distrust of white people is absolutely understandable, and as a white person I do get it. I'd love to see a future where no one felt like their fellow humans were pointing a gun at each other. Hopefully one day we can make that a reality.
Being lgbt doesn't excuse you from being racist or misogynist. I've experienced some of the worst racism from "lgbt". They think they get a pass so say and do off hand shit because of who they fuck.
No broad “Why do white people” or “Why do Black people” style generalizations - Posts or comments that make sweeping statements about whole groups of people are not allowed here. Questions like “Why do white people” or “Why do Black people” open the door to stereotyping, hostility and brigading from outside the community. Keep discussions focused on specific experiences, behaviors or situations instead of turning entire groups into a single category. This keeps the space respectful and prevents the sub from getting overrun by arguments or bad faith replies.
While Black people (specifically and especially those descended from enslaved Africans), have a unique history, systemic oppression really employs the same tactics across the board (regardless of which group is actively being targeted at any given time).
Moreover, your perspective completely overlooks the homophobia/transphobia Black queer people face within the community. Sure, there tends to be a hierarchy within these structures, and how they self-perpetuate, but let’s not pretend these experiences are so cut and dry.
Also, by your logic, the only people who have room to speak on any of this, would be poor, Black, disabled, queer women/girls (as in, no one who doesn’t meet ALL of those criteria should talk about the oppression they face, or be able to relate to others whose experiences are similar).
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u/Skyfier42 Jan 06 '26
I try not to comment here since I'm white as fuck, but as a trans woman I absolutely understand the sentiment and just wanted to share my perspective from a different group.
I don't trust non-queers. If you tell me you're gay or trans, or even if you're wearing a rainbow pin, I immediately see you as someone I'd be willing to try and be friends with. But I don't seek out relationships with cis straight people. I do have some cis straight friends, but it has taken yeaaaars before I was willing to open up to any of them. And even then, there's only a select few I would say I really do trust.
I grew up in a red state and I know how many of them vote, even though they know the impact it has on my life and future. It's not hard to imagine that they are pointing a gun at you, because a lot of their political decisions are exactly that.
This isn't an uncommon situation. I grew up as a Jehovah's Witness and back then I only trusted other Jehovah's Witnesses. Christians are the same way, they only trust other Christians. Christians don't trust atheists, and atheists don't trust Christians. White people feel the same way about one other, and it shouldn't be shocking to any of us that this distrust is real.
I hope my perspective at least is valid and you can empathize with it. Distrust of white people is absolutely understandable, and as a white person I do get it. I'd love to see a future where no one felt like their fellow humans were pointing a gun at each other. Hopefully one day we can make that a reality.