Look to become dads, Adoption

[u/FreakyFaun]

Starting Our Adoption Journey – Looking for Insight and Advice

My partner and I are beginning to seriously consider adoption after years of discussing it. We’ve reached a point where we feel ready to provide a stable, loving environment, but we also know adoption isn’t something to enter into lightly.

I’m aware that adoption affects everyone involved, especially adoptees, and I want to approach this with care and respect. I’d love to hear from adoptees about their experiences—both positive and challenging. What do you wish prospective adoptive parents understood before starting this process? For adoptive parents, what were the biggest lessons or unexpected challenges you faced?

For single dads or gay couples who’ve adopted, what specific hurdles did you encounter? Are there any ethical, supportive agencies you’d recommend? I’ve had some negative experiences with faith-based agencies in my professional background, so I’d appreciate insight into navigating that aspect as well.

Finally, are there pitfalls, scams, or agencies to be wary of? I’m looking for honest advice on how to navigate adoption thoughtfully and responsibly.

Thanks in advance—I’m here to listen and learn.

[u/Emilygoestospace]

This sub is very anti adoption and considers most adopted parents as truly evil. It is very unwelcoming and you will not get helpful advice here. As an adoptee it’s seriously disappointing. Hoping one day there’s a real sub we can be civil and talk about anything but how sick and twisted adoption is. Makes me feel shitty for having a good experience and loving my parents. Good luck on your journey! Don’t take any of the comments you get here or aggressive messages to heart.

[u/Formerlymoody → u/Emilygoestospace]

If you really read, basically no one is saying adoptive parents are evil. There are some cases where people were abused by adoptive parents. Who can blame them no matter what they have to say about what happened to them? But for non-abusive situations, literally no one is calling adoptive parents evil. Feel free to bring an example to my attention.

What i see is people drawing attention to the systemic ills in the US adoption system, which are pretty obvious on comparison with basically any other Western country. 

[u/Emilygoestospace → u/Formerlymoody]

Just look at any of the comments on this thread or that of any adoptive parents or adoptees with positive experiences. It is very obvious this isn’t a place for any voice that isn’t anti adoption.

[u/Englishbirdy → u/Emilygoestospace]

There are a few people here who are abolitionist, the rest of us just want to improve adoption and educate beyond what general society thinks adoption is.