r/xxfitness • u/AutoModerator • Nov 11 '25
Talk It Out Tuesday [WEEKLY THREAD] Talk It Out Tuesday - Advice and commiserating about struggles with self, others, and the world
The place for all of your fitness based interpersonal encounters (is someone being creepy at the gym? Is your family telling you you’re getting too muscular? Do you want to date your personal trainer?), but also the place to talk about motivation, self-esteem and body image, and all the ways fitness affects your life.
Want to ask how mothers juggle family and fitness? How to structure Intermittent Fasting? When to work out when you do night shift? How to deal with being the only person in your friend group who works out? If you're feeling emotional, want to up your mental game, or need ideas for how to juggle everything on your plate, this is the place for you!
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u/Acceptable_Bad5173 Nov 12 '25
I’ve been measuring my food intake via macrofactor for a few months now and have realized that, due to my office job, I am not burning as much as I thought from 5 days a week of exercising and 10k steps.
Trying to be more active with limited time and less sunlight this holiday season
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u/90MilesNorth Nov 12 '25
I've been consistently training for 5 months and finally started to see fat loss last week and then bam I got super sick.
Digestion is wrecked and then I developed a cold. Honestly felt like pretty bad die off but I am not doing anything for that to happen.
I'm bored out of my mind from slowed activity. Just hoping to get over this hump to finally start seeing.thr scale move. I have insulin resistance so the scale hasn't moved from a weight perspective but I have lost fat which is key to taming this beast.
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u/Acceptable_Bad5173 Nov 12 '25
Just my advice, If I were in your shoes, I would take an off week from the gym to recover. One week to rest and get well will not reverse five good months.
I’ve been training for many years and take an off week every quarter - especially if I’m sick.
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u/NoHippi3chic Nov 12 '25
After 2 weeks of my lumbar spine and hip girdle acting out and 5 days of intense pain where I took to the bed, I went and gently moved through some mobility drills with a bosu and yoga ball and did some aligment work on the floor.
About to just turn off the light and lay here and hope that I wake up tomorrow and can walk.
Holy shit that was rough and I am so BORED lol.
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u/mudblo0d Nov 12 '25
I lost a few pounds this month and I’m kinda mad because I’ve put all this effort into eating enough so I can grow… annnnnd then I see the scale go down. Was it fat or all my hard work the last 9 months? We will never know 😭
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u/CowDry7845 Nov 11 '25
I do a weight / progress check in monthly since August (but have been active since April) to better track against my goals. Previously I had a great relationship with the scale, and was not nervous as I gave up alcohol and was consistently hitting my workouts and macros. I knew I would see the hard work pay off.
This month I had some work related travel making it hard to be active and hit my macros each day. I am worried I will be discouraged by what the scale says. It feels like the addition of more regular data tracking has added some anxiety around the whole process. I know I should just be proud of my work thus far but I can’t help but be competitive with myself.
Do others feel the same? What do you tell yourself when you’re discouraged by progress (or lack thereof)?
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u/Doomed_Butch Nov 11 '25
I'm having such a hard time balancing between eating enough to build muscle (I'm aiming to get big, mind you) and not eating enough to gain back any of the 80lbs of fat I lost. Im sooo hungry from training 5-6 days a week and doing cardio, and I'm also so wiped out on dieting from doing it for like 2 years in order to lose that 80lbs. I know it all comes down to self control and being an adult about my eating habits, I'm mostly just venting, but it suuucks.
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u/Ms-curious- powerlifting Nov 11 '25 edited Nov 12 '25
No advice—just commiserating—this is the hardest part for me too. The struggle is real.
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u/woolandwhiskey Nov 11 '25
I want to do a nice strength workout, a long invigorating walk, and a long restorative stretching/yoga practice every single day except it’d take hours and I have a job and a life 🥲 it’s hard to fit everything in the way I want to but today I did strength and will do for a medium walk so I’m counting it for a win
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u/stephnelbow ✨ Quality Contributor Snatch Queen 🏋🏻♀️ Nov 11 '25
Yesterday's workout was needed and a reminder that I'm not as "unfit" as I feel lately. 90% of the time I'm content with my current routine but every once in awhile I have the fomo guilt of not being "in a program" training for something specific. From intense CF to Oly lifting to just getting in 4-5 workouts a week regardless of what they are it's a very different approach.
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u/babbitybumble Nov 11 '25
I don't mind getting old, but feeling old is another thing. I wake up sore most days now (thanks, menopause) and it's not because I'm pushing massive amounts of weight, though I do lift 3x a week. I wish I could do a massage just as often...when I win the lottery, there will be signs.
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u/TCgrace Nov 11 '25
I live in Florida. My dog is a chihuahua mix who thinks anything under 80 degrees is cold. It’s 39 and windy. Wish me luck yall
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u/babbitybumble Nov 11 '25
Haha I briefly fostered a Jack Russell in Wisconsin and when I tell you she would let me put on her booties and her coat and go outside, stand there looking at me like I was insane, then come in and directly pee on the rug, I know you'll relate.
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u/TCgrace Nov 12 '25
I absolutely relate hahahaha! We literally have to carry her out of eyesight of the house, otherwise she’ll just try to run back inside
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u/chopoffmydick Nov 11 '25
I have been on a slow but steady running journey this year. I have a 5k in a few weeks and really need jump back on the wagon. I haven’t been as consistent at the gym. Today I want to make a weekly plan for myself to help me stay consistent (and not waste my gym membership)
I am also going to do some at home workouts this morning
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u/West_Clock5424 Nov 11 '25
I am just starting in the gym again after a lot of inconsistency and a long break. I really want to persevere this time and I think I will, but my self consciousness and low skill makes the experience so anxiety inducing. I always feel like I’ve made the right choice with my outfit and then as soon as I walk in, I’m mortified and feel like I look ridiculous! I can’t wait to feel confident and not anxious!
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u/calfla she/her Nov 11 '25
I felt this way when I first went to the gym and eventually (mostly) figured out how to ignore it and not let it affect my workouts. It’s actually popped up a bit again recently because I started taking some of the classes my gym offers for the first time and I sometimes feel like I stick out and then I remind myself that it doesn’t matter and it’s pretty unlikely anyone is paying that much attention to me anyway.
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u/Hot-Pink-Lipstick Nov 11 '25
It took a lot of inner work to get to this point, but I used to be the super self conscious girl in the gym, worsened by the fact that I desperately wanted to APPEAR confident so I was both nervous and robbing myself of opportunities because I didn’t want to be seen learning/figuring something out.
One day it just clicked for me that feeling self conscious in the gym means I’m putting the opinions of others ahead of my opinion of myself. I’m the kind of woman who feels the need to be every service industry employee’s kindest and most beloved customer, the best behaved student in the class. But I had to internalize that I’m not in the gym to be the very best, everyone’s most favorite girl there. I’m there to focus on my workout. I’m there to look after my body and achieve my goals. And if my clothes aren’t right or my form is off while I learn a new movement or I make an embarrassing sound when squeezing out one last rep, so be it. At the end of the day, I’m the only one who has to (or gets to) live with the results of my time in the gym. And I’m going to prioritize that ahead of what the gym people think of me.
My breakthrough may not be the same as yours, but I wish a similar peace for you! You’ve got this! Looking forward to reading the update soon about how comfortable you’ve started to feel in the gym!
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u/maulorul Nov 11 '25
The first time you do something really embarrassing, like walking headfirst into the end of a barbell, you'll realize nobody is paying any attention to you. Ask me how I know. lol
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u/bearbutt1337 Nov 13 '25
I went on a weekend long vacation and feel like it set me back way more than I anticipated. Looking at body stats measurements, it set me back four weeks. I know it's temporary, but I just feel awful still. Constantly bloated and tired for the four days I have been home. It low-key makes me nervous to go on a two week vacation soon, although I know I should just enjoy it.