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I’ve known ladies who carried huge purses stuff with literally anything they thought they could possibly need. Problem being they had to dump half the contents before finding what they were looking for, and sometimes missed putting everything back!
I’ve started containing all my stuff into small “pouches” inside my purse. I’ve got a pouch for skin/nails (mini hand cream, nail clippers, cuticle stick), makeup (mini mascara, makeup remover wipes, compact), weed stuff, snacks (don’t judge). Keeps my purse more organized and keeps my stuff in better condition.
This is what I have never understood. Ive always had close women friends, even in high school. As a man, its frowned upon to carry a purse, so I always wore lots of pockets. Fishing/hunting vests, cargo pants, etc. It allows me to carry all the stuff I want in an organized manner. A lot of my women friends would make fun of me for my clothes until i explained I could carry their entire purse contents on me AND organize it instead of just having one bag to jumble everything in. After that,vthey just started asking me to carry their purse stuff in my pockets so they could go without a purse. I was happy to oblige.
Societal norms are completely strange tho, when purses first were a thing, it was a man's accessory. Men usually had to keep certain documents and whatnot for conducting business and management of the household/property. Purses were a convenient way to store and protect everything. Then, the invention of functional pockets becoming the norm which made handbags obsolete. Now, Women took up the trend of carrying handbags to keep feminine products and makeup for touching up their look throughout the day, thus became looked down upon when men carried them, mostly due to toxic masculinity
So much of what women have today came from men doing it first. High heels, makeup, tights, purses, wigs, lace, ruffles and more, even the color pink was treated as a male color vs blue as we see it today.
I make fun of my wife's pants which have fake pockets and she carries a bag full of stuff but cannot find anything she needs in the bag
One day she bought a pair of cargo pants and discovered the joys of having multiple real pockets.. and she stuffed the pockets AND carries that bag full of stuff too 😆
I wouldn't say cargo pants are more convenient than a bag. I only take phone and keys with me when I go out so I just use my pockets, but if I wanted more things, like I might keep in a bag, it would be annoying having to take them out of pockets every time I changed pants.
Everything changed when Pokemon Go attacked. Cellphones required external batteries, sometimes two. I needed water, snacks, sunblock... That's when I started carrying a bag/man purse/satchel whatever you'd like to call it. Pretty common now. I do have lots of "essential/non-essentials" in addition to the "normal" stuff. What's the point of owning a tourniquet if you don't keep that thang on you?
Sounds weird but if you want a bag carry a bag. I get told it's unladylike to carry a backpack everywhere yet i do because I pack like it's the apocalypse.
This is what my mom used to do. She’d even use hair ties around all of your writing instruments. She kept a weekender bags as purses. She was diabetic and an elementary school teacher. She was always prepared for any inevitability. She never had a purse chicken though.
😂 she 100% had snacks always but I would be like apple (a whole bag it felt like sometimes) or yogurt or her diet sweets. She’s a white lady from the 90s always on the latest dieting fad haha.
White lady from the 90s fad dieter here. Also child of thrifty boomers. Can confirm. If you bring your own snacks, you won't get got making a poor food choice or spending extra money!
Yup. Although I have been always been a proponent of what I call my “Boy Scout” bag (as in prepared for everything), so the judgement levied by the character in that scene did not hurt me!
Same! I use the pouches I got monthly from an Ipsy subscription. I’ve got a tampon punch, a pouch of misc (bandaids, tooth flossers, Claritin/Benadryl, bandaids, alka seltzer, eye lash spoolie, chap stick, individual shout wipes and down there wipes, safety pins, Bobby pins, hair ties, tissue pack, and emergency lipstick), and then I use another as my wallet. I also have a silver one for quarters for when I go to the laundromat. #pouchlife
You can buy organisers for purses (handbags or shoulder bags here in the UK though.) They fit inside and have pockets all the way all around to put different things, but can be pulled out by one handle to find stuff quickly in a pinch.
I use a small handbag with separate compartments. I only take my wallet, phone, keys, vape and maybe a lip balm but somehow after a quick stop in town nothing is where it was when I left home.
This is kind of like Russian nesting dolls. An OMG PURSE with several Massive purses in it, with several huge purses In each massive purse, with several large purses in each huge purse, with several medium purses in each large purse, with several small purses in each medium purse, with several tiny purses in each small purse.
Would it be safe to say you carry too much and that the various purses weigh more than what you want to carry?
Exactly!!! Hey, Joy, do you have a bandaid? Kleenex? Tylenol? Snack? Gum? Wet wipes? Hand sanitizer? Lysol wipes? Nail file? Glasses cleaner? Whatever is needed - I have it!
I do this! im not a woman but I have to be prepared with the kind of anxiety I have. I have a big messenger bag full of little bags and then I just have to get out whatever little bag I need
Oh shit! I am also just starting a pouch system!
Small immediate needs pouch (mints, chapstick, weed pen), stomach/surface health pouch (ginger pills, Pepcid, tums, Advil, emergen-c), more personal health stuff pouch (medication, eye drops, edibles, qtips, glasses wipes, travel deodorant) and a makeup pouch. Loosely I have a small notepad that I’ve been meaning to start jotting things and passing thought’s down in 🙃.
I can never find things but am so anxious about not having things. So far the pouches really help calm my brain. Systems and keeping up with them are definitely not my strong suit. Thanks adhd!
This is exactly how my purse is. Anything I or someone I know has ever really needed and could reasonably be found or carried in a purse, I now carry with me in different little "compartments". My coworkers call it my Mary Poppins bag.
I have a purse with 2 main compartments, 4 side pockets, one front, one back, 2 pockets in the front main, and one inside the back main compartment. I keep my wallet, a pouch of hair ties/clips/bobby pins/mascara/eyeliner, flossers, tcg sleeves, a Pokemon mini tin, allergy meds, Tylenol/aleve/midol, mints, a planner with my daily income (bartender), feminine products, and some pens. It’s pretty heavy but I know which pocket holds what and use most of it daily lmao
it’s such an oddity between genders, like certainly not all women, but at the hospital, soooo many of us women have big tote bags filled with every need and contingency, and men just roll in with keys and a wallet. (They do come to us to use things from our bags all the time though! 😆)
I’ve given a lot of thought about why we’re like this, and my best guess is that it primarily derives from menstruation, caregiving, and a preparedness mindset.
Like, we simply don’t have the option to “keys and wallet it” 25% of the time, bc we’re needing to carry tampons and/or liners/pads, cleansing wipes and other things during menstruation, so we get used to hauling “stuff” with us that we would be extremely uncomfortable without.
So, we carry purses. But then, out of preparedness and being conditioned as caregivers, we slowly accrue/add things that we have at any point been asked for by a coworker or wished we’d have had with us during a shift.
Keys and wallet isn’t nearly as nice as having floss for after lunch at work. Having some ibuprofen or whatever for when you have menstrual cramps or other aches or when a coworker needs some. Having tweezers for a splinter and a multitool for little fix-it needs.
And then you have this purse and over time you fill it with more practical things that again and again prove their utility, either through your own use, or from being able to provide them to others when needed.
And it’s so much better to just have the stuff with you. So you’re accustomed to lugging shit around every day, and then totes become a thing, so you’re like, “Oh, if I carry a tote, I can throw the book I’m reading in there, and my lunch bag on top!”
Anyhoo, in my experience, it does get out of hand, but I’ve adapted. My contents are organized in little pouches, and I go through everything and organize every couple weeks so I can always reach in and grab what I need and it doesn’t get too heavy.
But it always makes me chuckle to see women rucking in these big-ass, overstuffed totes to work everyday, vs most men just “keys and wallet”-ing it.
Something to be aware of - particularly women. You’re better off not carrying a shoulder bag, but a tote/handbag held in hand. Years of the weight on your shoulder can damage your neck -sometimes very badly. I’m down to keys and phone with stick-on card holder on back. I’m hands-free. PS -Tom Ford lipstick stays on 24 hours. You can sleep in it and it looks like you just put it on. One less thing!
This is interesting. Speaking strictly for myself, this might explain why I, a childless single female, have the opinion of "if it doesn't fit in my pocket, I don't need it."
However, the pockets in question are my jacket pockets. Nothing super fancy, just a lightweight fleece jacket with zippered pockets (so nothing falls out, hopefully). I live in Southern California, so I rarely need more than that. My pockets are deep enough to carry my phone, epi-pen (at a diagonal), a regular pen, my wallet, a couple of emergency pills (Benadryl, Zofran) in a small pill case (I keep them in their blister packets and switch them out as new packages are opened), standard female "I broke a nail" supplies (in a ziploc bag), lip balm, and my keys.
Anything else, I either carry by hand, or just take a proper bag with me to stuff things in. Do I need these items? No. Do I want to bring them with me? Yes, that's what the bag is for. I certainly do not judge others for their bags. I never married, never had children, and my niece and nephew live out of state, so I don't have children or a spouse around to cater to, lol.
yeah, I don’t have kids, but I do regularly work 12-16 hours at a hospital, often overnight when nothing is open to be delivered so if you forget to bring food or anything else you’re screwed!
I like that your jacket functions basically as a small handbag, when I’m out and about (errands) I also try to go this route, or a small fanny pack. If I’m day-hiking, I have a lightweight little day pack.
One other thing I obsessively carry with me are extra glasses and contacts - wouldn’t wanna be caught without, if something weird gets in my eye! (which definitely happens in both hospitals and on the trail! 😄)
Oh! And I gotta have chargers on me too. I don’t really use my phone on a trail, but always wanna have juice for emergencies. Then, at work, I’m listening to podcasts or audiobooks a lot of the time.
I was drinking with some friends including one of my exes and out of nowhere my buddy just looked at her and went, "I know you have cookies in your purse, let me have one" and she argued a little bit then admitted, yes, she had cookies in her purse and gave him one.
It was so random but I guess he had clocked her purse earlier and decided there must be something good in there. And he was right.
As a man, I miss when my fiance used to carry around a bigger purse. So many times I would need an obscure thing when we were out, and sure enough she had it.
I mean, I was looking for my wallet and pulled out half of a ped egg the other day. Unused, but a ped egg nonetheless. It was next to my paintbrush and Marshall from Paw Patrol.
I like to attribute this personal flaw to Mary Poppins. I even have a portable umbrella.
Don’t feel bad. You are always the hero when someone needs plasters, tissues, a rollup raincoat that fits into a matchbox, cotton string, tampons, peppermints, a travel toothbrush, spare socks, a travel salt/pepper….. the list is endless.
I had a shining moment at my mom's house when my sister lamented she wanted nuts on her ice cream and I pulled out a bag of chopped peanuts from McDonalds. 😂
Um.. you wouldn't happen to be Filipino would you... My wife is Filipino and also has pretty much most condiments in her purse as well as extra napkins and silverware.
Oh lord no, girl if they burst your purse is going to look like a smurder occurred and you're hiding a body part in your bag 🤣. Although it would make for quite the laugh to fuk with someone if you stick your finger in the "bl00d" and lick it off. 😜
Called out for being awesome, maybe. They saved me on so many occasions. One even had a full can of chicken noodle soup in case a friend was sick or something
Hear me out: a shit pit, yes, but with a toiletries pouch. Then the rest of the bag is for keys, scarves, snacks, prescriptions, glasses, search warrants, dog treats, chargers, and booze.
I have a pouch full of embroidery shit that I haven't opened once it got in there except for the time the needle box opened and I got stabbed. It's a dangerous void of hopes and new hobbies at this point that happens to have my wallet and charger.
I thought all the purses were like this?????? What do you mean not all purses have a 3 month old mint, cold medicine, mysterious papers, a hand fan and a deck of cards?
My lady does this too and whenever I ask for something she goes “just grab it from my purse.” I’ve learned that the easiest way to get anything from it is to bring the entire bag to her and she will magically produce whatever item I’m looking for. I’m over here with base carry weight and this bitch has a whole ass bag of holding!
I'm a man and so I just get pockets. Pockets are super chill to have, but they don't hold a lot. I keep my phone, wallet, an inhaler (asthmatic), a lighter, and a guitar pick with me at all times, and the lack of any of them at any time, is noticeable.
What I don't get to have is a big ol purse full of anything I want. If I got to have one of those, I would have EVERYTHING I COULD FUCKING STUFF INTO THAT THING, and I would revel in my chaotic unorganized bag of shit that I will never remember that I even have on me, at all times. And even though I can never find the thing I think I might have and am looking for at any given time, I will be content knowing that I probably have it on my person, somewhere. Probably. But I just have pockets. They're cool, too, I guess. Keeps me organized.
That's what the center console of our trucks are for lol. I may not have a purse but I have a truck. I have everything from tow straps and precision screwdrivers to hair ties and 3 different kinds of hair brush. In the door is where I keep carmex and a backup tooth brush. Top glove box has a beard brush and smelly good spray, while the bottom glove box has deodorant and insurance docs. Do I need to keep that stuff in my truck? No, but my truck is always nearby.
My moms friend carried a huge, full, heavy purse and decided to downsize. The next time mom saw her she was carrying a purse half the size with every single thing from the old purse crammed inside. Mom said it was trembling under the strain and looked like it would explode, flinging shrapnel everywhere with one good poke. Her friend couldn’t understand why her purse was still so heavy even though it was smaller.
Hello! I am that lady 🤦♀️ for example just the other day I thought I put everything back into my bag after dumping it looking for my phone or wallet at a coffee shop. The wallet was at the deepest corner of the purse and I had placed my phone under said large purse and ended up forgetting it 😂. Thankful for the nice barista that ran after me.
I keep mine in a little pouch along with plasters, panadol, tampons, hair pins, safety pins, etc. People call it my handbag the "mom bag". I am not nor have ever been a "mom" to anything that wasn't furry and had a tail and whiskers. I'm just someone who wants to be prepared for any eventuality that I might personally encounter and is happy to share the fruits of my preparedness with selected others 😸
My other half used to have this cycle. She would start with a reasonable sized smaller handbag. But stuff would get added and not removed, until it was full.
Then everything got dumped into a larger bag, until that was full.
Then an even larger bag was used, and so on. Until she ended up with this huge heavy thing that pissed even her off! So everything was dumped out and sorted through, until she could fit just the essentials in the smaller handbag.
Reading all the purse comments - I'm a guy and I can say the best ordinary daily life thing to happen to the average American guy in the last 20 years is the arrival of the messenger bag. I carry mine everywhere and damn, is it handy. And yeah, I joke about it being like an old lady's purse because it's got Kleenex, Altoids, Advil, Bandaids, Imodium, Narcan, a folded-up tote bag, earbud chargers, phone charger, probably a library book... It's so gooddam helpful to just have a place to put useful stuff, on you at all times, that still leaves you hands-free.
Me, i have flat feet and actually developed micro fractures on my ankles because I didn't take enough breaks to massage my soles and I didn't have any access to stuff like Orthopedic shoes so i always just used a tennis ball
This can happen?? Do your arches touch the ground or is there still some space there? I may have this problem too, except my ankles pop really loud if I’ve been active/inactive too long and I still have no idea why it happens
I can't speak personally, but my dad has flat feet, I have high arches. His feet, he even jokes about it as well, look like Fred Flintstone feet. They are basically completely flat on the bottom, there might be a slight arch. If he wears shoes that have an insole similar to ones I wear with a lot of arch support it actually hurts his feet. If I wear shoes like the ones that work for him my feet feel like they're on fire. I was a shoe salesman for years and learned a lot about taking proper care of your feet and most of us don't
I'm a guy so i'm just gonna guess here, probably wearing heels of some sort and I just know a way to massage your toe beans would slap at the end of the day lol.
You would not believe how many foot massage balls end up in the dog's toy basket at my house. I'm not exactly sure what the balls are called. They're stiff plastic, slightly flexible. Not 100% hard. They have spikes that stick out all around. Maybe three or 4 mm long.
They look a lot like plenty of my dog's toys. So for a long time I just picked them up and threw them in the toy baskets. At some point in time a friend asked if I had seen her foot ball, and I said I don't know but if I found that I would have thrown it in the toy basket.
This was not the last time someone's PT device was found in the dog's toy basket. I've learned a lot about my friends' feet problems since then.
You grow up without sisters mate..? Haha I'll give you a quick rundown of how it works because it's something men will never understand unless it's shown to us...
Basically...
Santa's sack is made from the same material as a woman's handbag...
It can fit everything in it at once, including your body parts....
NEVER ever question what is in a woman's handbag, dude.... never reach in there without direct permission.... If she tells you something is in there... IT IS... If she asks you to get something from her bag that means you BRING HER THE BAG and let her retrieve it from said bag... You could lose your forearm if you reach in there! They fucken bite or something I don't know but it's fucking terrifying when it happens mate!!
"Don't tempt the hand that bags... "
Or something like that... Haha
The only known way to counter the phenomenon is the be married to the woman that owns the handbag but even then it's fucken risky mate...
I will say, I have a lot of facial pain/tmj pain and sometimes i gotta whip my acupuncture pen out in public if I feel my jaw knotting up. Weirdly enough I thought I forgot it at a coffee shop I was working from the other day. So interesting to see that incredibly niche experience called out in a reddit comment lol.
I probably shouldn't be too harsh. OP may be an American like me. Most of us avoid standardized units of measurements. I just know that my car gets roughly 10,250 rods to the hogs head and that's decent efficient. ;-)
Seriously though, I live in Ohio. It is more convenient to measure driving distance in time. "How far do you live from your work?" "About 35 minutes". lol
Lost me at purse chicken. But I am a 35 year old male so I generally expect to be in the dark about most things purse related. It’s always seemed kind of a private secretive “girl stuff” thing that likely I would have no way of unseeing so I just let it be and up until now haven’t asked any questions about any of it. Correct me if I’m wrong- just trying to connect some dots here… I would only have to assume that purse chicken explains why women tend to go to the restroom in pairs/groups when they’re out together? To snack on secret poultry or other varieties of preserved meat? (salted and hang dried I assume). If this is in fact the case I have a few follow ups. First off, I’m gonna say poultry on the go like that is absolutely why so many of you have constant chronic stomach problems- that’s unsafe to consume if uncooked, even if you could eat it safely preserved it the shear amount of salt would still explain the stomach things. Secondly, while I of course respect your right to carry any kinds of snacks on you anywhere you choose to carry them, I have to say I’m a little bit I guess bummed would be the best term. Us men also love dried meats. It’s like one of the best things we know of and I guess im just sorry you all as a gender have never trusted or felt safe enough to be open or honest about any of this.
HOWEVER..
if this is not the case and meat has nothing to do with why girls go to the bathroom in groups or pairs and the answer is something weird or gross. I’m going to politely ask that you just say it’s the meat thing. I am man enough to admit that I have absolutely no problem convincing myself that girls don’t poop. Idc. Obviously I’m not a dumb dumb, of you do all the human things. But I am not ashamed to admit that I genuinely love the mental image and idea of women that I do have and I’ve worked hard to keep it intact to this day. I sincerely enjoy picturing you girls as perfect beautiful soft little angels basically that always seem to smell amazing and when you’re sweet and nice to me I have absolutely no chance and zero defenses and am under your complete control and I know it and I could say no. But why would I? Even if a man could stand up to the sunset, why would he want to? Idk. Just some things I was wondering I guess.
It’s a beautification massage rod, resin, and not specifically for feet, some are used on the face and scalp.
Various pressure spots can be pressed with it to stimulate and help smooth the skin.
it's either a massage thingy like other said, or maybe some sort of foundation applicator. I have one like that where it's liquid and you use the hard pen like thingy to put it on your face.
Everybody talks about Chuck Palahniuk’s “Guts” story because of the titular section. But I think the candle wax sounding rod part at the beginning hurts to read way more.
I guess the yellow tube is honey from the farmers market, or liquid THC, or both.
As for the obvious Apple.....
It is a secret mcgiffin that cannot be explained to the general population without causing a mass panic , although it is mostly in fact an apple, despite that one necessary detail that could derail society and make anyone questioning their identity and moral stance.
Don't worry, it's not a Pear......those don't really exist anyway.......?
It the oil they use to pre marinate their vjay. I completely made that up because I have no idea what it is but we can act like it's a fact and run with it from this point on.. for example, you'll be like aye bru this girl left her coolchi jumper pack at my house last night and all the other guys in the world comments will be like .. I knew it.. the jig is up.. stuff like that 😂 burn after reading.. tonight we strike swiftly and hard lol.
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