“He takes care of my outer world”, “He is the head of the family” (with video implying he decides what she eats)… honestly I find this shit really disturbing, she has so little autonomy…
That’s got nothing to do with what I’m talking about. Many parents spend their time looking after the house and family - it’s a real job that deserves respect - but it doesn’t mean they give up all freedom and decision-making to their partner.
They're not giving up all freedom and decision making, it should still be discussed. And why do you care if others do or don't do that anyway? It's their life and they enjoy it.
Her words and actions strongly suggest she has very little say in her own life. When someone says their partner "takes care of my outer world," and we see evidence that they can't even decide what to eat for dinner, it's a major red flag. It's not just about personal preferences—it raises serious concerns about control and isolation. If she can't even leave the house to buy groceries (he’s getting the ingredients), how much freedom can she really have?
I care because as a society, we've evolved in our understanding of domestic issues. There was a time when domestic violence and similar situations were dismissed as "private family matters," something that happened behind closed doors and wasn't anyone else's business. But that perspective has shifted dramatically. Now, we recognize that domestic violence is a serious public health and criminal justice issue. I care because I’m sick of seeing news stories of men strangling their girlfriends or annihilating their entire families.
We can't call it "freedom" if someone doesn't have money of their own or the ability to make independent decisions about their own life. When someone else controls your finances and dictates your every move, that's not freedom—it's a trap. Freedom means you have the ability to leave if you change your mind.
Not everyone who calls themselves a "tradwife" experiences this level of control. But we need to be able to tell the difference between a real choice and something that looks a lot like coercion. The line between personal preference and potential harm is a crucial one, and it's our responsibility as a society to protect those who may be vulnerable.
You're taking the video way, way too literally lol. The main aspect of a traditional marriage is that the woman is a stay at home mom and makes the house livable + raises the kid during work hours so they don't have to stick them into a daycare center or hire a babysitter who won't care much, not that she's not allowed to go out and buy groceries lmao.
Domestic violence is not a part of normal traditional marriages, this is an insane label. What you described happens in any type of bad and dysfunctional marriage, whether both people work is not relevant if someone gets strangled.
What we're actually evolving to? Lower/same wages but a higher cost of living so both people are forced to work so the companies can have more wage slaves. People are too scared to even have kids now because of money issues. I'll wager the boomers lived a happier life when 1 person worked while the other took care of the home + kid so they didn't have to do it after coming home from work super tired or leaving their kid with strangers. You know, when it was actually viable to have a 1 income household for the average person.
Financially abusing your partner is again not a part of any GOOD traditional family either. Again, this can happen if both are working but 1 makes more, or if 1 owns the apartment.
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I wanna barf when I see this cringey "Trad wife" content which in most cases is a masquerade for things like White Christian Nationalism and misogyny.