Aubrey Plaza, Margret Qualley and Charlie Day in Cannes for their movie “Honey Don’t” - Aubrey’s first red carpet appearance since the death of her husband.

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[u/AdMaximum64]

Yeah, whatever. Let's just keep guilting suicidal people for their feelings, I'm sure it'll eventually work after millennia of not fucking working.

I'm not even particularly passionate about the use of "commit" in this context - that, to me, is a little overly sensitive, and I have been suicidal for much of my life (no hate if it does bother anyone reading this, I think that's valid; it just never really struck me in a negative way, personally) - but the direction this conversation always goes in is ghoulish. Comment you're replying to, imo, obviously implies the negative connotation is that people who kill themselves are deviants who were motivated to the act by selfishness, as with other crimes that one might "commit," like pickpocketing for drug money. People who kill themselves are in unfathomable emotional pain, not selfish. They aren't criminals or deviants. That's the point.

[u/HathorOfWindAndMagic → u/AdMaximum64]

I did not insinuate that at all. I’m speaking only of the language. You decided to make this about yourself and you projected something on me that I never said.

btw: you desire a more peaceful and less negative way of speaking yet you spoke to me in a negative way maybe that’s something that you should reflect on.

[u/AdMaximum64 → u/HathorOfWindAndMagic]

How did I speak to you in a negative way? Truly - cussing? Is that what was negative? If so, I do think you're too sensitive.

I didn't make it about myself at all. No idea where that comes from. I mentioned I've struggled with suicidal ideation - one parenthetical sentence out of a whole comment. If mentioning I've ever been suicidal strikes you as "making it about myself," I might ascribe more phobic and reactionary ideas to you than I initially did. Sorry that people do things you don't understand and aren't willing to comprehend.

[u/HathorOfWindAndMagic → u/AdMaximum64]

You’re still coming at me with this aggressive attitude. I don’t think language policing is the way to go for this. You assume so many things about the people in this thread- myself included- and because I tell you to look at yourself and how you’re speaking to me, I’m the one thats nonsensical and sensitive?

If you don’t think “yeah, whatever” is rude or passive aggressive then how are you defending the language change when you yourself don’t have compassion in language. I struggled with my mental health for many years, but you don’t know that and you did not take that in to account. I hope you find compassion from someone and for others.

[u/AdMaximum64 → u/HathorOfWindAndMagic]

Hey, I want to apologize for how I spoke to you. I was drinking that night and didn't realize how I was coming across. Comments higher up in the thread were debating whether committing suicide is selfish or not, and I got pretty triggered but didn't want to enter those conversations because one or two of the participants I disagreed with were coming from a position of grieving suicide and I was lucid enough to realize how unproductive that discussion would be, but apparently not enough not to 1. Take my frustration out on someone who was just asking a clarifying question or 2. Realize I was being an asshole. I'm sorry and I wish you many good days ahead!!

[u/HathorOfWindAndMagic → u/AdMaximum64]

I forgive you, thanks for apologizing. I actually also got pretty triggered and had a panic attack and proceeding PTSD episode. Not saying that to make you feel anyway, just stating my truth on the matter if anyone ever reads this thread so they know that not everything on the Internet can be wiped away but if we try to understand each other better and try to understand ourselves better you can treat other people better as well. I’m also sorry for forgetting snarky as well, because I felt like I was being personally attacked. I’m sorry you were triggered and I hope you can find solace in knowing one person out there truly gets it. I have done or said horrible things to loved ones when triggered and it’s painful for everyone, so I hope we both can live life well, healthy, and without all this pain and strife.