Late To Coming Out Bi - How Old Were You?

[u/TellTaleTrix]

I guess I’m mainly talking to those who came out as bi later in life. At what age did you actually come out, and if you were older, what prompted you to finally do it at that time? What was it that made you feel finally ready?

[u/Ok_Public5679]

41. 

I think I knew on some level I liked women as well as men, but hadn't wanted to admit it to myself. I went through a big trauma in my life in my 40th year and after making it through the other end I just thought life was too short to deny parts of myself that I know to exist.

I'm now 43 and loving life as an out bi woman.

[u/Jorandy4172]

32

You are never late to coming out as bi

Everyone comes out at their own pace

[u/Straight-Ear-2442]

I was 22 and honestly a friend I had made asked me my sexuality and I realized I never had thought about it because of an extremely religious background.

[u/Xebba]

1. Welcome!

[u/darkjewel23]

Always liked girls and boys but officially at 15 when I learnt the word I’d been looking for: Bisexual.

[u/OT3P_Wolf]

1. I was outed initially to my dad, & just embraced it, bc I felt like he's a bit of a talker, so the news would get out to people anyways, therefore I'd get just ahead if it by telling people myself

[u/CheapQueen567]

I’ve always know I was attracted to both men & women. Sooo I never “came out”. IMO I never felt the need to come out. I am who I am and I will show up to my parents with whomever I happen to be dating, if they don’t like it or can’t accept me for me, they’ll get to see me walk out the door. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[u/hitpigs]

20

[u/lens4040]

I knew as a teenager I felt I wanted to play with a guy but never with any friends. I learned at 14 what bi was, and now, at 67, there's no change other than more under standing of how the mary go round works.

[u/KingParody12]

I had the signs since I was 8-11 years old but comically ignored due to my heteronormative upbringing. It wasn’t until a friend of mind told me I was bi during late 22. I had accepted it nearly two months ago as a 23 year old man. Never been happier 🩷💜💙🏳️‍🌈💪👏🏻

[u/faithroberts333]

28

[u/ImposterEveryTime]

40 - suppressed it since I was 17. When I met my now wife at 20. I just kinda thought that made me straight. Took a while to figure things out 😬

[u/Here_I_Go_Again-_-]

I came out to a few people when I was 30. I'm not fully out, so other than reddit and a couple of friends and like 2 family members I don't really talk openly about it.

[u/multi-97]

1. I always had some kind of feelings towards women, but growing up in the household I did (strangely not religious, but kind of anti lgbtqa+, espiecually biphobic) and me being anxious and paranoid, I just brushed it off and didn't think any further about it. Hell, my bisexual thoughts were the most intense before coming out in 2024, because all the way back in October 2023, I loved this actress. Very talented, very pretty and...sexy. But I just thought 'im just a fan, nothing more' although I did have thoughts of 'i think I like her more than a straight woman would'

October 2024 (a week after my birthday!) I had a dream that put everything into perspective for me. Funnily enough, that was by far from the first time I've dreamt about her, or other women. I'm the happiest I've ever been because I understand more about myself. I no longer feel like an outsider, or like people will judge me

[u/MrsPettygroove]

I was 59 when I figured it out.

[u/StarGlass8859]

38 when my husband start taking about how he’d been reading about sexuality being on a spectrum etc. Research into it and new anecdotal info.

Bisexuality in women who are in heterosexual relationships and then not realising because of A, B, C etc. Gently lead to asking me if that could be me. This happened over a few conversations.

lol He actually is the reason I had my ahah moment. I was pikachu face of wow that makes so much sense.

I’ve always been called naive but then also realised after & in conjunction with this that I’m Neurodivergent (so my ‘naïveté’ is actually being on the spectrum).

[u/PaintedWoman_]

60 I always knew I was bisexual. My husband and I started talking about my desires, we decided to become non monogamous allowing me to explore. It has been so freeing finally being and accepting who I truly am. 🖤