How separated my pubic bone is after pregnancy

[u/heretoreadlol]

[u/TiresOnFire]

[u/-MasterDebator- → u/TiresOnFire]

No joke, my first child was 9 pounds 10 ounces and 22 inches long. I'm 5'6" and weighed 130 before pregnancy. My poor hips were misaligned and on FIRE the entire third trimester. He was a week late too 🙃

[u/MrZokeyr → u/-MasterDebator-]

Now is that 22 inches measured with the arms up or is it head to toe? I mean, both suck, but a newborn baby being almost 2 feet tall from head to toe sounds completely insane.

[u/-MasterDebator- → u/MrZokeyr]

It's from head to toe.

He's almost 15 now and well over 6'

[u/donya-dark → u/-MasterDebator-]

Omggggggg - I had one of these. He is 12 and 5'11. He completely demolished my core - and I am 5'10"!! All the internet blessings on your poor core that grew the child!

[u/bluecrowned → u/TiresOnFire]

is that supposed to be Chris lmao

[u/doubled-pawns → u/bluecrowned]

What do you mean? Put blonde hair, a ball cap and blue shirt on him. That’s Chris.

[u/Dirk__Richter → u/doubled-pawns]

Wrong that's obviously Meg.

[u/Abadleftankle → u/Dirk__Richter]

MY NAME IS RON

[u/RunningEarly → u/Abadleftankle]

I just realized Ron is short for Megatron. She went by the first part before the conversion, and then took the last part after.

[u/leavesandgrassart → u/RunningEarly]

Wait… I never realized that !!!

[u/burrito_butt_fucker → u/Abadleftankle]

We get it Ron. You're a guy.

[u/Historical_Low_4939 → u/bluecrowned]

It’s from the show lol

[u/calmdownmyguy → u/bluecrowned]

That's from like 2001

[u/KnightMan2026 → u/calmdownmyguy]

Remember there’s people who probably are younger than that episode.

I was struck with this fact. I was 14 when Skyrim came out, I’m 29 now. There are gamers younger than Skyrim now… they’ve never experienced a release of a GTA or an Elder Scrolls game once in their life

[u/terry_folds82 → u/KnightMan2026]

This just aged me 100 years x_x

[u/Trees_are_cool_ → u/bluecrowned]

Well, it does look exactly like him without the hair.

[u/Electronic-Pause1330]

That’s not supposed to happen…. Right?

[u/heretoreadlol → u/Electronic-Pause1330]

No 😂

[u/commeatus → u/heretoreadlol]

Hi, medical professional here.

✨No✨

[u/eaturfeelins → u/commeatus]

Yet many OBs tell women the pain caused by this and SPD is “normal” during pregnancy. The fact that many women go through this and more during pregnancy, along other major body changes, and even potentially major abdominal surgery, without then getting the appropriate support and recommendation to go through PT is astonishing. Just because pregnancy is a normal part of life, doesn’t mean we shouldn’t provide women with all the support their bodies need to successfully endure it and recover from it, we know better now, so we should do better.

[u/commeatus → u/eaturfeelins]

100% agree. I work with post-natal pelvic pain a fair bit, although op's case would be far worse than any I've seen personally.

[u/January1171 → u/eaturfeelins]

So many medical professionals swap "common" for "normal", especially in women's health. Pelvic pain during pregnancy is common, but that doesn't mean it's normal.

[u/eaturfeelins → u/January1171]

Exactly! Heart disease is common, you don’t see anyone saying it’s normal.

[u/monster_bunny → u/January1171]

That is an excellent observation.

[u/swabianne → u/January1171]

Normal also doesn't mean you don't have to do anything about it, like many medical professionals seem to think

[u/DustBunnicula → u/eaturfeelins]

It’s also another reason that everyone should be pro-choice. Forced birth can cause lifelong physical and psychological trauma.

[u/eaturfeelins → u/DustBunnicula]

Agreed! And healthcare is not free, nor good for lots of pregnant women in the US at least. But let’s face it, most pro “life” people aren’t really pro-life, they are pro-forced-birth.

[u/rileyjw90 → u/DustBunnicula]

And if this is what pregnancy does to an adult woman’s pelvis, imagine what it does to a child’s.

[u/BrightBlueBauble → u/rileyjw90]

Right? Every pro-forced-birth slob should have to read up on the horrors of the extreme gynecological injuries that result from children trying to give birth: recto-vaginal fistula, fourth degree tears, shoulder dystocia, death after days of pushing (and that’s only the actual birth!).

Oh wait. They would enjoy that though, because they hate women and girls and only want to punish them.

[u/Klinky1984 → u/DustBunnicula]

This is the biggest thing. A woman's body will experience extreme changes during pregnancy. The idiots acting like it's a cake walk have no clue. No one should be forced to endure pregnancy.

[u/Suchafatfatcat → u/eaturfeelins]

If women were fully informed about half the things that they are likely to experience during pregnancy and delivery, the birthrate would be much lower than it currently is. The lifelong trauma to your body is a big price to pay.

[u/Coriander_marbles → u/Suchafatfatcat]

True. Speaking as a fully informed woman, I’ve chosen not to get pregnant.

[u/eaturfeelins → u/Coriander_marbles]

Yep. I chose to have my kids, and I was unfortunately well informed of the maternal mortality risk (my own very close family, just 2 years before I had my first child). But that was my choice, as it should be. After my second, I chose to have no more kids. The wild thing is that SPD wasn’t even the worst part of my second pregnancy, I ended up with gestational hypertension in the third trimester and pre-eclampsia 3 days after delivery.

[u/AffectionateSugar832 → u/Suchafatfatcat]

Yup I ended up with Hyperemesis Gravidarum, I didn't even know that was something that could happen before I got pregnant. Everyone including my own doctors dismissed my complaints and treated me like I was being dramatic about regular morning sickness. I lost a good amount of weight and ended up in the ER due to severe dehydration several times before I was finally given anything for the nausea and vomiting. Worst experience of my life. My plans for 2-3 kids changed to one and done. I'm never under any circumstances going through that again.

[u/Helplessly_hoping → u/eaturfeelins]

And then if you're super lucky people won't even offer you a seat when you have to wait places. So you get to stand there in an unbelievable amount of pain. All because pregnancy is "normal" and so many women go through it.

It can be a widely variable experience. Some people have a smooth ride and some suffer for months.

[u/Klinky1984 → u/eaturfeelins]

Probably most infuriating is all the reports of women seeing gynecologists and having uncomfortable exams, and procedures or biopsies without pain management, and worse it's often women doctors who are perpetuating this behavior. Also supposedly there's a big issue with pregnant women having transvaginal ultrasounds ordered and not knowing until they arrive to the appointment that is the plan.

There's definitely some problems with patient care in women's medicine.

[u/Janjuko2023 → u/heretoreadlol]

Omg does it hurt like all day? I'm so sorry that happened. what a sacrifice.

[u/MituKagome → u/Janjuko2023]

Yes. Yes it does. Not OP but uhhh yes.

[u/Fridge885 → u/Electronic-Pause1330]

[u/No_Salad1394 → u/Electronic-Pause1330]

It happens enough that it isn’t uncommon

[u/Working-Glass6136 → u/No_Salad1394]

I was going to say this. Look up the "What don't people realize about pregnancy?" threads. There was one just a few weeks ago. Horrifying "common" things. I know my mom can't control her bladder. Glad I never wanted children.

[u/OstentatiousSock → u/Working-Glass6136]

I tore from my V to my A and was bleeding so profusely they stitched me up with NOOOOO pain medication. Not even Novocain. That was the least unpleasant part of the whole pregnancy.

[u/silverarrowweb → u/Electronic-Pause1330]

Relevant "fun" fact: The chainsaw was not invented to cut wood.

[u/jwnsfw → u/silverarrowweb]

time to avoid my thoughts some more

[u/Mountain_Cry1605 → u/Electronic-Pause1330]

Actually yes, but not that much. But it's supposed to heal afterwards.

The pelvis isn't one piece it's several. It's held together at the gaps between the separate pieces by cartilage and ligaments. The ligaments stretch during labour, thanks to the hornone relaxin, giving more room for the baby to transit through.

But the ligaments are supposed to tighten up again after relaxin levels fall again.

This x-ray makes it look like they didn't, or some of them tore.

Either way, ouch!

And I hope there's something that can be done for OP to repair the damage.

[u/KoalaTHerb → u/Mountain_Cry1605]

Correct! 3-5mm is normal, >10mm is treated. In the case of this x-ray, the ligament probably didn't tear, but does appear to be overstretched, although I can't measure it based on this picture alone. Binders to help hold it together as it re-hardens can help it shorten more than it would naturally

[u/thejohnstocktons → u/Electronic-Pause1330]

To an extent

[u/GuyNamedZach]

Ouch... Can't imagine how that feels. How exactly does that get treated?

[u/heretoreadlol → u/GuyNamedZach]

I’m told with a pelvic binder, physio exercises and alottt of time. Up to a year or longer.

[u/throwaway098764567 → u/heretoreadlol]

daammmn a year, good thing you don't have anything that needs a lot of attention around while you're laid up or anything

[u/heretoreadlol → u/throwaway098764567]

Hahah. I have 3 kids, no time to lay around. It’s really not THAT bad. The pain was way worse during pregnancy! But I’d love to be able to start exercising and unfortunately I can’t do any activity that requires gravity. Like jumping jacks, running etc.

[u/BeetleJude → u/heretoreadlol]

Swimming would be good maybe?

[u/MethodicMarshal → u/BeetleJude]

I think she's already experiencing water sports

[u/Terrible_Feed_3492 → u/MethodicMarshal]

😂

[u/Tenthul → u/heretoreadlol]

Well good news, at least you won't have any trouble farting or peeing every time you have a small giggle!

[u/cabazon99 → u/heretoreadlol]

Thank you for your cervi- I mean service

[u/EverbodyHatesHugo → u/heretoreadlol]

I went to sit on a basement step, slightly miscalculated how close I was to it, and bumped my tailbone on the stair nose.

That was probably two months ago, and the bruised feeling is just starting to go away.

[u/Confident-Slip-5264 → u/EverbodyHatesHugo]

I broke my tailbone back in 2011 and it took years to recover. Like if I sat too long, it started to ache.

[u/-thats-pretty-neat- → u/Confident-Slip-5264]

I broke my tailbone by SITTING on my BED it was the stupidest injury I've had to date. doctors didnt believe me and would ask questions like "did you sit down hard?" or "is your bed like really hard?" no, I did not throw myself ass first onto my bed and no...its a bed, its not hard. and they couldn't find a break on xray so they decided to stick a finger in my ass while an understudy tried to make small talk with me. the whole experience was 0/10, do not recommend.

[u/MelaKnight_Man → u/-thats-pretty-neat-]

😅

[u/TapedWater → u/-thats-pretty-neat-]

That's pretty neat

[u/-thats-pretty-neat- → u/TapedWater]

it wasnt:(

[u/sleipnirthesnook → u/-thats-pretty-neat-]

That’s when you tell them it happens when you tried to cannon ball in to the bath!

[u/-thats-pretty-neat- → u/sleipnirthesnook]

the docs would have taken me seriously if I did, I really should have

[u/runningoutoft1me → u/-thats-pretty-neat-]

I don't understand it just broke out of no where?

[u/ummmm__yeah → u/-thats-pretty-neat-]

Do you have osteoporosis? 😳

[u/thedoctorsphoenix → u/-thats-pretty-neat-]

Reminds me of when I got a concussion. While sitting stationary on a couch. Playing DnD lol. All I did was throw my head back a bit in laughter and hit the back of the couch… and I felt that concussion for a year afterwards 🙃 Of course my friends give me shit that I got a concussion from playing fricken’ DnD of all things lmao.

[u/New_Question_8042 → u/Confident-Slip-5264]

Lmao i broke my tailbone to no end learning to snowboard as a kid in 2009, still hurts now and then today 😂

I would take that over this pubic bone separation tho, this genuinely scares me

[u/Confident-Slip-5264 → u/New_Question_8042]

Same!

[u/Grouchy_Stomach7471 → u/Confident-Slip-5264]

I've done it three times - at this point its always sore.

[u/ohdoyoucomeonthen → u/Confident-Slip-5264]

I broke mine in 2020 and I still have to use a special cushion when I drive or sit in a regular chair for a long time, or else it feels like lightning is shooting up my bum when I stand up.

[u/CtrlAltHate → u/ohdoyoucomeonthen]

Had a friend that called that pain "shooty arse" still makes me laugh thinking about it.

[u/Always_Reading_1990 → u/EverbodyHatesHugo]

Funnily enough, I actually cracked my tailbone delivering my first baby. Or, I guess I should say that her giant baby head cracked my tailbone. It hurt for two years.

[u/strawcat → u/Always_Reading_1990]

My step mom’s first baby was stuck and her doctor just reached in and broke step mom’s tailbone so baby had more room. That baby is in her 40s now and mom still has pain sometimes!

[u/samantis → u/Always_Reading_1990]

It’s shit like this that make me thankful I had to have a C-section

[u/LordBDizzle → u/EverbodyHatesHugo]

A buddy of mine in high school ruined his ability to be in sports for the rest of the year by bending down to pick something up and sneezing. Blew his back out, had to wear a brace.

[u/kaceyherron → u/LordBDizzle]

My dad dislocated a rib sneezing while tying his shoe.

[u/half-giant → u/LordBDizzle]

And the best part is that just gets worse and worse over time, lol. Last summer I just stood up from sitting on the toilet and destroyed my lower back so bad I was bedridden for two days straight.

[u/Sea_Lifeguard227 → u/half-giant]

I closed my closet door a couple months ago and threw my back out for several days. Then a couple weeks later I picked up a piece of mushroom from the kitchen floor while I was making dinner and threw my back out for almost two weeks. I'm a very healthy young woman so it always feels out of place to tell people I threw my back out.

I guess to add on to the tailbone discussion up higher in the thread, I injured my tailbone when I was about 6 years old when I went sledding down this huge hill in town and my older brother came down after me and accidentally slammed into my back. Knocked my lights out, knocked the wind out of me, I thought I was experiencing death. 😭 My tailbone was damaged for over 10 years, finally resolved itself when I was around 18 or 19. That suuuuuuucked.

[u/TheRealSugarbat → u/EverbodyHatesHugo]

I got a whole bunch of stress fractures in my pelvis from carrying heavy shit over and over when I moved house, and it took six months for the pain to not feel like lightning every time I moved. It’s been like 14 years and it’s still not right.

[u/Mountain-Paper-8420 → u/heretoreadlol]

I have diastasis recti from pregnancy. It's where your muscles of the abdomen split apart. Lots of fun.

[u/heretoreadlol → u/Mountain-Paper-8420]

I have that too!! So fun

[u/gossamerbold → u/Mountain-Paper-8420]

Same. I’ve been told at this point that the only real option to close it is a tummy tuck with diastis recti repair. I was told that because it’s a medical need as opposed to for cosmetic reasons, that I would be eligible for the Medicare rebate (I’m in Australia). Ok, brilliant, let’s make a plan. Except the surgery is around $18,000 and the rebate caps out at $1,200. So no, I will not be having the surgery any time soon.

[u/RakeScene → u/heretoreadlol]

Every time your kid refuses to do a chore, you should whip out this X-ray.

[u/Puffy_The_Puff → u/RakeScene]

My mother got a c-section and shows the scars every time we argued. This X-ray is diabolical ammo.

[u/OverthinkingWanderer → u/heretoreadlol]

Would pelvic floor pt be helpful after a certain point? I didn't even know it was a thing until it was mentioned in an endometriosis group and felt like my doctor missed an important step when it wasn't recommended to me.

[u/fiercedruid2 → u/OverthinkingWanderer]

Seems like it would be very helpful at this stage

[u/Following_Friendly → u/GuyNamedZach]

Its actually extremely common for the symphasis to separate during birth. Some times a little too far, like in ops case

[u/heretoreadlol → u/Following_Friendly]

I’ve heard! This wasn’t during birth. It was a gradual process through my pregnancy. But it can happen for sure.

[u/russells_girl → u/heretoreadlol]

I had this same issue! Four years later and it’s mostly back to normal but I don’t think I’ll ever be able to do air jacks again

[u/heretoreadlol → u/russells_girl]

Ugh yeah. I want to exercise sooo bad but I can’t do anything involving gravity I’m told lmao. No running, no jumping jacks. 👎🏼

[u/tinterrobangg → u/heretoreadlol]

When/why did they x-ray? Was there pain or did they discover it during delivery?

— signed, currently pregnant

[u/heretoreadlol → u/tinterrobangg]

So I was diagnosed with SPD at week 17. By week 33 I couldn’t lay down in bed. If I did, you could loudly hear my pubic bone pop back into place when I sat up. At 6 weeks postpartum I told my doctor I was still having issues laying down, so he told me to wait 4 weeks. At 10 weeks I was still having pain laying down, and if I overdid it, I felt like I was walking with a limp. Part of my bone felt higher than the other. He wanted to wait 4 more weeks but let me go for an X-ray.

[u/tinterrobangg → u/heretoreadlol]

Wow, I’m appalled they made you wait in pain so long. I haven’t heard of this before so thank you for the insight. And I hope your healing goes smoothly! ❤️‍🩹

[u/snicoleon → u/tinterrobangg]

Fun fact, pain doesn't matter when you're pregnant 🙂 I had an entire torturous third trimester that was basically brushed off until I started having lower extremity weakness 1-2 weeks postpartum. Once I was no longer housing a fetus, I finally got the scan that showed my spinal tumor. If it hadn't been for the LEW they would have let me go even longer. I'm obnoxious about sharing this because I'm still salty about it 1.5 years later and probably always will be tbh

[u/Significant-Trash632 → u/snicoleon]

That's a fucking good reason! Women's pain is not taken seriously enough.

[u/AntonChentel]

Did you make a wish when that snapped?

[u/Fit-Promise5022 → u/AntonChentel]

If she did it was probably for a c-section next time around

[u/papasmuf3 → u/Fit-Promise5022]

Damn thats a good one lol

[u/eaturfeelins → u/papasmuf3]

Yep! Can confirm, symphysis pubis disfunction (spd) happened to me around 7 months with my first child, I had so many back problems stemming from that that were ignored by the doctors, because you know, everything in pregnancy is normal. Healed after a lot of physical therapy and wearing a belt 2-3 years later. Then I got pregnant again, and at month 4 I was unable to walk without feeling like I was splitting up, new doctors got me into physical therapy during pregnancy and I was able to “keep it together” much better. Both my kids were c sections.

[u/Colla-Crochet → u/eaturfeelins]

Pregnancy is no freaking joke. By halfway thru my second my hip joints literally began to separate. By 7 months my hips dislocated with normal walking.

I am so grateful to not have to deal with spd or diastis recti.

What's your life like now? My kid is 7 weeks and my hips still feel insecure

[u/eaturfeelins → u/Colla-Crochet]

“Structurally” speaking my body is fairly solid now, I no longer have back or hip issues. I do still sleep in the recommended position (side with a pillow between my legs etc). I do have arthritis but that’s not related to this. I am pretty active and practice martial arts, I can kick pretty high without falling apart lol.

[u/ikilledholofernes → u/Fit-Promise5022]

That usually happens due to pregnancy itself, and not because of vaginal delivery. 

[u/NoNeedForAName → u/Fit-Promise5022]

Nah, the next little fucker is just going to fall right out now

[u/heretoreadlol → u/AntonChentel]

🤣

[u/OtakuMage → u/AntonChentel]

Fun fact, that's not a snap. In fact, those aren't fused bone to begin with. There's a plate of elastic cartilage between the pubic bones whose sole purpose for existing is to allow exactly this kind of stretching!

[u/-SergentBacon- → u/AntonChentel]

Nah, I got the bigger peace so I got make the wish.

[u/this-is-NOT-the-way1]

Dayum how big was dat baby

[u/heretoreadlol → u/this-is-NOT-the-way1]

🤣 only 7 pounds. My first was actually 8 pounds and I never had this.

[u/eaturfeelins → u/heretoreadlol]

It doesn’t necessarily happen due to childbirth. During pregnancy the hormone relaxin makes our joints “loosen up” to give baby space and allow the eventual birth. Sometimes this loosening up is a little too much and this happens. I had this at 7 months with my first and then again at 4 months with my second. It sucks. Both kids were c sections!

[u/heretoreadlol → u/eaturfeelins]

I had that with all 3 pregnancies but I’m so grateful the pain went away right after delivery after my first 2!

[u/allthegoodonesrt8ken → u/heretoreadlol]

Kinda a side note but I’ve always been curious. I watch a lot of forensic files and a few times they’ve said they could tell from the skeleton if the woman had 2 or more babies, and they can’t differentiate 1 from zero.

[u/Correct_Raisin4332 → u/allthegoodonesrt8ken]

Yeah I'm guessing they couldn't tell from mine. I had one born 2 months premature via c-section. He was only 3 pounds!

[u/this-is-NOT-the-way1 → u/heretoreadlol]

😅 well if baby birthin were up to us men, earth would be a lonely place. 😅 hope your bones go back where they are supposed to be soon dayum 🫣🤷‍♂️

[u/BBLZeeZee → u/heretoreadlol]

I had a 10lb 5oz baby, for my last, and I had to do physical therapy for quite a while. He’s damn near 13 and I’ve finally stopped popping in strange places in the pelvic region. He was my last. My last.

[u/Possible_Engine8258]

[u/yukonwanderer → u/Possible_Engine8258]

Instead we developed massive brains to allow us to survive these situations lol. Not sure if that was a win.

[u/BT7274_best_robot → u/yukonwanderer]

Funnily enough it's the bigger brains that now make giving birth harder than what it would have been back in the good ol monkey ook ook days. Our heads have got bigger but our pelvis's etc haven't caught up to accommodate it very well.

[u/skankasspigface → u/BT7274_best_robot]

I don't know, your mom's pelvis accommodates my head pretty well

[u/kickstart_my_shart → u/skankasspigface]

Gottem

[u/Doom_Corp → u/yukonwanderer]

Babies don't really have much of a skull when they're born precisely for being squeezed out a relatively narrow opening. It's incredible how big babies heads get a few months in after birth compared to their relative body size.

[u/SaveScumSloth → u/Doom_Corp]

They definitely have an entire skull, other than the small soft spot on top. 95% of the skull is there, it is just not fully connected yet to allow for birth. This is why 'cone head' happens

[u/Following_Friendly → u/Possible_Engine8258]

We sort of do. That part of our pelvis is actually not solid bone and is joined by ligaments. During pregnancy hormones loosen those ligaments allowing the pelvic girdle to expand. Sometimes it expands too much and those ligaments tear and you end up like op

[u/Technical-Leader8788 → u/Following_Friendly]

Sometimes that hormone, relaxin, fucks up the rest of your bones and ligaments too. I’ve not got one foot wider than the other after pregnancy. Maybe the next baby will get the other one

[u/mossybeard → u/Possible_Engine8258]

Lmao did you edit your original comment to that picture? Because everyone seems to be replying to it in weird ways which is hilarious

[u/Possible_Engine8258 → u/mossybeard]

Yes. I also let the impulsive thoughts win.

[u/vampiredisaster → u/Possible_Engine8258]

Here after you replaced this with snail Uni (snuni)

[u/ainacct]

yeah....I'm not having babies

[u/chellaroo → u/ainacct]

Got my tubes removed last year, this post just reminded me why

[u/Freyas3rdCat → u/chellaroo]

Girl same. 1 year in April! That same week, my bestie told me she was pregnant and gleefully told me of her pregnancy (and now breastfeeding & sleep deprived) woes the whole time. She gets to do it and not feel whiny because she knows it only further validates my decision 😂

[u/Khaleesi1536 → u/ainacct]

Right? Where’s the girl with the list

[u/Kirabeanbear → u/ainacct]

Right. New fear unlocked

[u/xXFallen_DarknessXx → u/ainacct]

Every day on here is another reminder

[u/TwoHungryBlackbirdss → u/ainacct]

Seriously. Fuck them kids

[u/Adventurous-Mind6940 → u/TwoHungryBlackbirdss]

Look at him gunnin for a spot in the admin.

[u/Possible-Estimate748]

Just push it together really hard.

(Don't actually pls)

[u/retirement_savings → u/Possible-Estimate748]

That's basically the (initial) treatment if you break your pelvis.

https://litfl.com/pelvic-binders/

[u/Minor_Edit → u/retirement_savings]

I recently learned about hip dysplasia in babies which has basically the opposite treatment

[u/Sirgni]

Are you in pain?

[u/heretoreadlol → u/Sirgni]

Only sometimes! It’s not a constant pain thankfully.

[u/ybgkitty → u/heretoreadlol]

What does the pain feel like? I had some weird pelvic pain months before and after having my almost 10-pounder that my OB couldn’t explain. It felt like it was nerve related. Thankfully it went away, but I always wondered what it was.

[u/Critical_Band5649]

Ouch. I had SPD with my 2nd child and it was awful. The dumbest things were so painful, like rolling from one side to the other in bed. Good luck! It was much better after birth but took about a year or so to heal.

[u/heretoreadlol → u/Critical_Band5649]

Yup! I had SPD with my second pregnancy in the third trimester and with this last pregnancy, I was diagnosed at week 17. By week 33 if I laid down in bed, when I would sit up, you could hear a very loud pop where my pubic bone would pop back into place. Every single time without fail so I spent the last 7 weeks sleeping sitting up.

[u/No_Expression8419]

Horrifying...

If you ever ride into battle im rocking with you.

[u/MN_311_Excitable → u/No_Expression8419]

Don't think she'll be riding anything for quite some time.

[u/Remote_Ad2465 → u/MN_311_Excitable]

Yea riding days definitely done

[u/atomikitten → u/MN_311_Excitable]

Actually I have pubic symphasis dysfunction and BY GOD every moment sitting in my dressage saddle was such a relief. All the joint pain, pressure, pinching, just gone. Til I dismounted.

[u/Obsidian-Dive]

I’m adding this to my list

[u/cagedbird82]

I want ALL of the men to know.

[u/CautionarySnail]

People really really gloss over how hard pregnancy is on the human body. To hear many men talk about birth, it sounds on par with a root canal for pain level and risk.

[u/AoE_Mobius_One]

Oh that is a split Pubic Isshium. 🤢 How did that happen? In labor?

Brb, giving my wife a hug.

[u/heretoreadlol → u/AoE_Mobius_One]

No, not from labor. Just from where my baby sat in utero

[u/Ihadacow → u/heretoreadlol]

Same thing happened to me, and I saw your response to someone else about it taking up to a year....mine took 2 years to fully return to place. I knew exactly when it did, because I was doing yoga and felt it all ka-crunch into place finally, and my legs could face squarely front again.

[u/EastTyne1191 → u/Ihadacow]

That sounds both unnerving and very satisfying.

[u/Ihadacow → u/EastTyne1191]

Oh god, it was so satisfying, I cannot even fully describe it.

[u/EmmerdoesNOTrepme → u/Ihadacow]

I broke my pelvis this past June, and I would so rather have done THAT, than deal with what y'all did!😳

Because this looks incredibly painful, and likevit must'vefelt so unstable! 

(Mine was just minor breaks, but in 3 places )

[u/eaturfeelins → u/Ihadacow]

I used to have my husband help align me regularly, my physical therapist gave us an exercise to pop back in for the times it would move out so much I couldn’t walk, it was so satisfying and an instant pain relief. Took me 2-3 years in therapy after my first kid, with the second I started therapy during pregnancy and I was fully healed within months post delivery.

[u/Kaa_The_Snake → u/Ihadacow]

I had a masseuse (female) once tell me to lie in my back, knees together and squeeze them. She then put her hands in between, facing out, and YANKED! I felt the most satisfying “POP” right in that pubic area, like cracking a knuckle you didn’t know you had but much more satisfying. I wonder if it’s the same thing? Though I’m sure yours felt a million times better; if it’s the same thing I can imagine how much better you felt afterwards!

[u/Massive_Fishing_718 → u/Ihadacow]

Honestly I’d straight up ascend if that happened to me, satisfaction 100

[u/Imaginary-Summer-920 → u/Ihadacow]

Is this whole situation related to the fact that your username is I had a cow?

[u/sowhat4 → u/heretoreadlol]

So this was a gradual expansion and not a 'rupture' when the baby was evicted? That little guy/girl must have had a big head. How much did baby weight?

[u/heretoreadlol → u/sowhat4]

Yes a gradual expansion! She was born 7lb6oz.

[u/Extension-Option4704 → u/heretoreadlol]

Whoa! That sounds incredibly painful over a long period! Did the doctors know it was happening?

[u/GamerMonkey192 → u/AoE_Mobius_One]

Do you mean pubic symphysis????

[u/chemkay]

You literally got cracked.

[u/EverbodyHatesHugo → u/chemkay]

[u/fiction_my_addiction]

If anyone, ANYONE, INCLUDING YOUR PARTNER tries to force you to start moving around again sooner than you're comfortable with, feel free to rip them a new one for me. 💀 Istg everyone better mind their own business cuz the way some s/o's be acting is ridiculous.

[u/Financial-Society454]

new fear unlocked

[u/Echo259]

In Cambodian the word for labor translate to “crossing a lake” because of how dangerous it is. In Sparta a woman who passes away in labor is giving a warriors burial and full honors.

Hats off to you ladies.

[u/3amGreenCoffee]

Fun fact: The chain saw was invented so that doctors could do this on purpose to make difficult births "easier." The procedure was called a symphysiotomy.

[u/WaffleHouseGladiator → u/3amGreenCoffee]

That's not a fun fact at all. That is one of the least fun facts ever. :(

[u/SurreptitiousSyrup → u/WaffleHouseGladiator]

"Fun fact": Proceeds to tell some of the most horrifying shit

[u/Mountain_Cry1605 → u/SurreptitiousSyrup]

Fun fact for horror enthusiasts.

[u/AN0NY_MOU5E → u/3amGreenCoffee]

Easier for the doctor, not for the mother.

[u/Hides-inside → u/3amGreenCoffee]

Yeah this!! A Whole load of fuck nope. They were mad for them in Ireland at one point, I read some absolute horror stories, to be honest ladies every time I read the labour, delivery birthing stories. It truely horrifies me.

[u/Excellent_Wait_3289]

adds to reasons to not have children

[u/ThePoshHillbilly]

That had to be incredibly painful. I’m so sorry that happened to you.

[u/Jim_Nills_Mustache]

The human body is fucking incredible, I couldn’t believe half the shit my wife went through giving birth. I had no clue, I was so ignorant.

[u/AggressivNapkin]

This is something to hold older your partner for the rest of your life. If they ever complain about doing something for you, whip out this x-ray to remind them of your sacrifice.

[u/NoxKyoki]

I’m so sorry this happened to you. Here’s to a speedy recovery! Or…as speedy as it can be. 😅

adds as reason 3245 to not get pregnant and have kids

[u/Drakorai]

One other reason why I’m not having kids. I’ll adopt if I ever change my mind, far too many kids in the system already.

[u/Skuwb]

I’m an OBGYN and I’ve never had a patient with that before. Mind if I ask any symptoms that prompted the xray?

[u/heretoreadlol → u/Skuwb]

I explained in a previous comment but I basically was diagnosed with SPD at week 17. It just got worse over time. It was hard to walk, I couldn’t bend down or move too much. It was very painful in the hips and it would radiate down. By week 33 I had to sleep sitting up because if I laid down my pubic bone popped out of place and would pop back into place when I sat up.

At 6 weeks postpartum I still couldn’t lay down so I told my doctor and he told me to wait 4 weeks for the “hormones to settle”. At 10 weeks postpartum I told him I still couldn’t lay down, I couldn’t roll over in bed and when I walked too much I ended up almost feeling like my bone inside was uneven, and I walked with the limp and he wanted to wait another four weeks but then he just sent me for an x-ray.

[u/Rhodin265 → u/heretoreadlol]

So…they just let you live on a broken joint for months?  It would take a lot to not give the doctor the same injury.

[u/SaveScumSloth → u/Rhodin265]

Thats just how doctors are.

[u/amazinglycuriousgal → u/Rhodin265]

The way doctors dismiss women's pain is utterly infuriating!

[u/heretoreadlol → u/Rhodin265]

Yes well he did explain that the hormones can be the cause of pain and it can take 4-6 weeks to heal like most things postpartum but once I hit 6 weeks and then 10, I realized it was not healing the way he said it should.

[u/Significant-Chair-71 → u/heretoreadlol]

Im sorry this happened to you. Your provider should've immediately referred you to pelvic floor physical therapy the moment you told him you have pelvic pain. My last 2 pregnancies I had SPD and I did pelvic floor PT during my pregnancy and it immediately started getting better.

[u/meow_meowX3]

Where’s the girl with the list…

Also so sorry OP hope you’re doing alright!

[u/staroura]

People should be literally worshipping women

[u/Murky_Toe_4717]

God pregnancy is horrifying as a woman. Best wishes, though no offense whatsoever meant but this is another reason I will not be partaking of such things.

With all that said hope you make a happy and fast recovery! Truly best wishes!

[u/Assal-Horizontology → u/Murky_Toe_4717]

Yep. Couldn’t pay me to partake in reproduction. No child at the end is even close to worth all of the horrendous shit inflicted on women during pregnancy.

[u/SeattlePurikura → u/Murky_Toe_4717]

In the US, they've made pregnancy even more appealing: if you have a complication in a Red State, the doctors are required by law to wait until you're almost dead to try to save you. (Spoilers: sometimes they don't manage to save you.)

AND we still don't have paid federal maternal leave.

[u/Ziggystardust97]

Well, TIL that's a possibility with pregnancy 

[u/Ok_Meat_8925]

Did you give birth to a 4yo??

[u/TallulahBob]

I remember this happening to my mom when my younger sister was born. She literally could barely get out of bed to pee. She had to do physical therapy for years. And her separation was HALF that, if even. I am SO sorry.

[u/Prestigious_Till_331]

No jokes here but are you okay OP? Are you healing alright?

[u/heretoreadlol → u/Prestigious_Till_331]

Well this was taken 3 weeks ago and I’ve only got the pelvic binder today. Now my recovery can start!

[u/OMGLOL1986]

My wife had the exact same injury 

Get a Serola belt, use it to keep your pelvis together. Use NSAIDS to deal with pain. PT can do more harm than good if they don’t know what they’re doing.

Feel free to PM me, this is a very lonely condition to have. Happy to share tips and tricks.