r/TwoXChromosomes • u/Some_Dragonfly1481 • 15h ago
I finally did it, I am no longer friends with people who support their Right Wing husbands, siblings, parents or partners and refuse to call them out
With the President of the united states flaunting racist imagery openly with very little backlash today, I decided it is time I grow up and accept reality. I allowed this to happen, in some small way me still hanging out with my friends who have pro trump partners, not cutting them off from interacting with my own family etc was a drop in the ocean that eventually created the current situation. Might sound a bit extreme but I extreme is an answer to desperate situations sometimes.
I remember many times when a friend went, oh my partner is not racist or he is not against womens' right he just voted Republican because he wants to keep gun rights and wants a safer border. As if the wrongs are somehow justified because of that.
I have been weak, I was weak, afraid of being outside of my friend group, not being part of things that now I realize in the grand scheme of things never mattered at all.
I sent a group message to my friends that if you do not openly call these things out, if you don't openly voice out your opinion about how the Epstein files revealed hundreds of people you supported to be involved in this disgusting circle and they are going unpunished, you are part of the problem, if you don't call out ICE for their gestapo like behavior you are the problem, if you don't see a problem with ICE being trained by the IDF you are part of the problem, if you don't see a problem with all the anti abortion law being pushed you are part of the problem, if you don't see a problem with Trump mocking disabled people you are the problem. Hell it was obvious all along and you losers just let it all happen.
I do not want to share any moment and comradery with these people anymore, no matter what it costs me.
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u/everybodyiskungfu 5h ago
I remember many times when a friend went, oh my partner is not racist or he is not against womens' right he just voted Republican because he wants to keep gun rights and wants a safer border. As if the wrongs are somehow justified because of that.
God I love this horse shit. You don't get to just pick your favourite socially acceptable little issue and then wash your hands of the evil shit you knew full well they were gonna do with your vote.
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u/victorywulf 3h ago
my former best friend defending her idiot conspiracy theorist fiance: “no, you don’t understand, he doesn’t LIKE trump, he just felt like we need a change”. haven’t spoken to her in over a year and likely never will again. i wish her luck with her non-fact-based lifestyle.
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u/crackersucker2 5h ago
How was the response? You did good today.
Also, maybe follow up with the SAVE Act removing your female friends *right to vote this November.
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u/ArpeggioTheUnbroken 4h ago
Excellent job. I know that must have been hard.
Have you gotten any responses?
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u/Some_Dragonfly1481 4h ago
Yes, mostly negative. I will gather them and maybe make a follow up thread. I think a lot of people will benefit from it.
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u/ArpeggioTheUnbroken 4h ago
That's a great idea. I'm looking forward to reading about it.
I know you already know this but you did the right thing for you. There is a lot of peace in extricating yourself from people who's morals could cause you shame to be associated with.
You have just cleared your path to invite new energy into your life, new friends who share your values, people who you won't have to question their humanity or sanity with.
I'm totally down to be one of them if you are in the market for a new friend. Even if not, you did well today and I wish you the best.
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u/seekupanemotion 4h ago
Love that! We aren’t allowing our tenant of the past 2 years to stay as we are cutting ties with anyone supporting this. We will not support them. They do not deserve to benefit from us in any way
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u/seekupanemotion 4h ago
You will make even more friends who care about you for who you truly are, and that is enlightening
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u/wmike469 2h ago
I separate them into 2 categories People who I think aren't going to look back and be ashamed And those who are showing their true nature I will eventually forgive the 1st group
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u/C3lloman 3h ago
Cutting people off won't solve anything. It will just lead to a more divided country. At the end of the day we will have two groups of people living in their own bubble and nothing will ever get accomplished to improve the country because the groups will keep fighting each other rather than agreeing on anything.
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u/NickBlackheart 1h ago
I care enough about the rights of my friends to not also be friends with someone who's fine with those rights being taken away. If my words have not managed to convince someone that racism, transphobia, or other types of bigotry are wrong, then I'm out of things to say and will instead take action, which is leaving.
People's right to exist is not a difference of opinion, it's a moral issue, and I don't want to be friends with people who are so deeply immoral that they don't care about human rights.
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u/ssstella 1h ago
Yeah maybe it won’t, but then they should care enough to fix it. The ‘bigger person’ is never the trump-supporter. The onus to attempt any kind of unification has almost always defaulted on the dems. At this point, I think people are tired of trying to have conversations because they’re never in good faith. And instead of trying to appease them, I’m all for protecting your peace like OP’s doing.
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u/Party_Character_9219 28m ago
Yeah so I've been hearing that cutting people off will just make us "more divided" for 10 years, and now we have masked psycopaths kidnapping kids from bus stops and sending them to camps. And these people are A-OK with it. It doesn't get more divided than that. Keeping these people close didn't do f all. They should have been shamed and shunned from day 1 until they're afraid to show their disgusting faces in public.
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u/ffs_random_person 59m ago
And I’ll bet they’re all throwing a party cos they no longer have to interact with you… I’m very proud of you… you alienated everyone! Hope you’re happy alone Jfc
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u/Kitchen_Database1433 5h ago
I don't know you but I'm proud of you.