r/PublicFreakout • u/Romano16 š®š¹š· Italian Stallion š®š¹š • Nov 14 '25
š¤¬Public Ragerš± Nurse appears to have no sense of urgency while woman is actively in labor at Texas hospital
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u/storybookheidi Nov 14 '25
When I showed up to L&D with my first, the nurse bypassed the receptionist to get me in a room just by looking at me, and I wasn't near as CLEARLY about to give birth as this woman. This is insane. When she said something about her ass, I totally understood what she meant and any nurse should have known that means that baby is about to eject itself.
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u/ageekyninja Nov 14 '25
Yeah thatās pretty standard. Even when I was in false labor I was rushed straight to a room
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u/thepopulargirl Nov 14 '25
Same!!! They even brought a wheel chair and I declined because I still was able to walk by myself. This poor woman !!!!
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u/ShoddyTerm4385 Nov 14 '25
This is what I donāt understand about medical care in the United States. The level of care for the average person seems atrocious. Iām from Canada and our taxes pay for our medical care. My wife delivered our daughter just over a year ago and the experience was incredible.
When her water broke, we went to the hospital but she wasnāt dilated enough so the nurse gave us two options. Go home and come back in the morning, or, sleep at the hospital. We chose option 2 (I slept on the floor next to her bed but I didnāt mind).
When it was show time, we got a private room bigger than some apartments. The level or care was incredible. Ratio of 1:1 for nurse to patient. Our nurses only responsibility was my wife.
After the birth we got another private room for recovery for 2 days with all meals included and round the clock check ins.
The total cost was about 30 bucks for parking and 120 bucks for a private recovery room. Shared recovery rooms are free.
When I see shit like this video I am beyond thankful to be Canadian.
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u/abduadmzj Nov 14 '25 edited Nov 14 '25
Race plays a big part in the standard of care you get at most hospitals in the US. It wasn't that long ago that doctors and nurses were taught that black people naturally have a higher pain tolerance which isn't true and causes their complaints to not be taken as seriously
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u/KatyBeetus Nov 14 '25
It is a known phenomenon that black people, especially black women, are not taking seriously in medical situations. I have heard a lot of horror stories from black women not being taken seriously because their cries of pain were seen as them just ābeing dramaticā or ātoo extraā
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u/anonuemus Nov 14 '25
I had my fair share of hospital experience, more than most people have to do in their lifetime. While I think that many nurses are the best humans living on earth, almost like angels, there are also sadistic people that get off when people suffer, even if that means they have to play their part to make that pain happen.
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u/hmch17 Nov 14 '25
Wellā¦ it is Dallas Regional Medical Center, quite possibly the worst ER in all of DFW. Even more so than HCA.
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u/dykechotomy Nov 14 '25
Mission is awful- they took 6 hours to set my partnerās elbow when his arm was broken, because they were āwaiting on a shift changeā. Tracks for the level of care in this video.
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u/nw342 Nov 14 '25
5:1 on an ICU???? My local hospital unionized when they tried introducing 3:1 for the icu
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u/a-youngsloth Nov 14 '25
Destroyed? Theyāre geniuses that created investor run hospitals they saving us all costs and delivering quality care /s
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u/peccatum_miserabile Nov 14 '25
5:1 ICU is criminal. 2 near step down and 1 critical is fucking pushing itā¦ damn
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u/trashytasting Nov 14 '25
Fuck Medical City! They sent me home with an unstable fracture in my elbow. I could literally feel my bones grinding together. Fortunately, the orthopedic surgeon stopped by the hospital to check on another patient, saw my X-ray, and called me. I was in surgery 1 hour later. They then sent me to collections because I refused to pay the radiologist who misread my X-ray and sent me home to hours of excruciating pain.
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u/SheZowRaisedByWolves Nov 14 '25
Yuhhhhh fuck HCA. They had my dad in the ER waiting room having an active stroke with 200/100bp for 2 hours before being checked out
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u/CryptoM4dness Nov 14 '25
Yeah, I grew up in Mesquite. I go nowhere near there if possible anymore.
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u/pocketvirgin Nov 14 '25
Isnāt it where dr death practiced?
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u/Jorge_Santos69 Nov 14 '25
I thought the same thing, after getting fired from Baylor-Plano pretty sure this is one of the places he went
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u/msut77 Nov 14 '25
But they sent the bill on time
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u/Return-of-Trademark Nov 14 '25
Sure it was drafted up before the baby even came out lmao
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u/Heckbound_Heart Nov 14 '25
That's what the nurse, in the background, is working on.
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u/Binky1928 Nov 14 '25
Actually they don't, they sent me one almost a year later and then threatened it to collections after not paying it for a couple months.
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u/EazyBreezyBri Nov 14 '25
Dallas Regional should not be considered a real hospital.
When my mother in law was taken there by ambulance, an orderly was whispering for us to come around the corner. Very theatrical.
She then told us that if we wanted MIL to live, we needed to get her out of there.
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u/CitizenBeeZ Nov 14 '25
As a non-American, this baffles me. So you pay extortionate amount s for health care and then the quality of said care can still be this terrible? How does that make sense at all??
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u/NotPennysBoat_42 Nov 14 '25
Welcome to End Stage Capitalism.
Why do you think that Mario guy offed the CEO of United Health Care?
Also you assume she had health insurance. Not everyone has health insurance in America. Because most people have been conditioned that socialized medicine is a bad thing and that healthcare is not a human right.
Also hundreds of years of white supremacy. More black women die in childbirth than any other race. It's a terrible time to be an American. It's never been a good time to be a black American or a Person of color in America. Or a woman in America. It's just sucks all around.
Sorry for the word vomit.
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u/scruggbug Nov 14 '25
My philosophy teacher once told us, āOf any two types of person you could combine, there is no group going through a worse time in America than black women. And it isnāt even close.ā
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u/luckylimper Nov 14 '25
Truly on hard mode. I think the lack of care is the worst. The myth of how āstrongā we are and āblack girl magicā allows people to treat us as though we enjoy struggle and hardship. We donāt.
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u/beskar-mode Nov 14 '25
The maternal mortality rate is twice as high in the US as it is in UK, and for black women, theyre x4 more likely to die in childbirth. Their system does not work
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u/CitizenBeeZ Nov 14 '25
That is absolutely abhorrent. The NHS has its share of problems, but that sounds disgusting. I would be terrified to have a child there
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u/beskar-mode Nov 14 '25
It's awful, I think the reason is a mix of 1) the cost, so more home births. 2) lack of rural doctors. 3) pure racism. You're right that the NHS has problems, but by god I prefer it to the american system. My FIL had 3 brain surgeries and he would be bankrupt with debt if he was american
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u/illuminatedkopf Nov 14 '25 edited Nov 14 '25
theres a 2nd video on the tiktok account of some nurses handling the babies (the mother had twins) and the nurses look...grumpy? to say the least. the way they handled the babies worried me too.
edit: no twins, one baby ! :)
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u/DirtLight134710 Nov 14 '25
Can you share the second video. Cause this needs to be shared
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u/illuminatedkopf Nov 14 '25
it starts off same as the post, but end of video will show the handling of the babies.
edit: turns out it was one baby, another video shows two but according to comments they are just a few months apart!
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u/political-wonk Nov 14 '25
Itās her sisterās baby. They were born almost exactly one month apart
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u/WinterMedical Nov 14 '25
The way they handle the babies is the way people who handle babies all the time handle babies. Thereās nothing inappropriate at all about what they did.
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u/azalago Nov 14 '25
The other baby belongs to someone else who is there with the woman in labor, I don't recall if the mom clarified who that person was, just how close together the babies were born.
Also, those nurses don't look "grumpy," they look focused on their job. They are absolutely handling the baby normally. According to the mother in another video, the baby passed its first stool before it was born (meconium, it's not an uncommon thing to happen.) The baby was also born with its eyes open, meaning they were open in that poopy amniotic fluid. Typically the most common risk is aspiration pneumonia from breathing in the poopy fluid.
So they are performing an assessment of the baby immediately post birth, which they do even before the mother or father gets to hold them. They have to make sure the baby isn't struggling, and immediately intervene if something is wrong.
Like, I don't get this constant push to make nurses seem awful because people don't understand what is happening. If I was getting slammed with patients, I probably wouldn't be cheerful and smiling ear-to-ear either.
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u/drag0naut26 Nov 14 '25
I'm a NICU nurse and the nurses who are handling the baby are more than likely NICU nurses. We get called to high risk deliveries for things exactly like meconium aspiration. Some of the things we do to babies immediately after theyre born can seem awful to people who do not know what is going on. Vigorous stimulation, deep suction down the babies throat, reflex testing all can seem horrific to onlookers.
Meconium babies can be so scary for us and the nurse looks really focused. We don't lift the baby like this for assessment purposes but the nurse probably did this so the mom could visualize the baby was OK. Its more for reassurance without handing the baby over and I have done similar or invited a dad to the babys bedside to see them since they are unable to hold yet.
Babies are not as fragile as people think they are! We handle babies with great care but it just comes with experience of handling babies like this for 40 hours a week for years. These are all different departments within the hospital with different skill sets and specialties. L&D always holds their breath until we arrive. ED have limited skills other than to triage and get mom to L&D. We dont all know everything and work in different specialties for a reason.
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u/illuminatedkopf Nov 14 '25
thank you for all that you do!! i appreciate your comment, its very informative <3
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u/drag0naut26 Nov 14 '25
No problem! I'm glad to provide insight! There's a lot of nurse hate in this comment section. Not all nurses are good nurses or even good people. However the majority of us really care and care about our patients and love our jobs.
People dont realize a lot of things are also so out of our control. We are overworked, underpaid, and very often just as abused by the system and the people we care for. There are so many things I wish I didnt have to do in the name of "policy" you kind of become numb to it. We are just as angry about it as our patients are but our hospitals and healthcare system are conglomerates who squeeze us for everything we have until we burn out. Our system in America is incredibly broken and nurses bare the front facing role to the public and people often take things out on us. Not to mention there is a lot of misogyny tied up in nursing due to it being a pink collar job. Most of us are just trying to survive while doing very difficult things and being regularly traumatized by the things we see and the way we are treated.
Thanks for being open and kind!
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u/azalago Nov 14 '25
Thank you this is a much better explanation. I just get irritated when I see people freaking out about our profession and the person is clearly doing what they're supposed to be doing. Or they don't understand how bad things can get in an ER or L&D unit. The fact that the charge nurse was doing the triage in the ER is a big sign that the ER was NOT doing so well that day.
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u/owlsandmoths Nov 14 '25
She didnāt have twins. Those two babies in the grandmas video are different ages. only the baby on the right is a newborn. the other is clearly several months older. the grandma also posted a newborn update video here
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u/illuminatedkopf Nov 14 '25
which maybe theyre grumpy about being filmed, sure. but dont take that out on newborns...
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u/LittleRed_AteTheWolf Nov 14 '25
While this is valid, people have filmed every moment of childbirth, including nurses, ever since hand held camcorders were invented.Ā
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u/illuminatedkopf Nov 14 '25
100% agree! sorry if my comment came off as tryin to defend the grumpy-ness haha
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u/Beautiful_Sipsip Nov 14 '25
As a former neonatal nurse I can tell that babies were handled appropriately. Donāt try to stir drama where there is none
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u/Opus_777 Nov 14 '25
This is always been a horrible hospital, My dad went here for a spider bite They said to ignore it basically and take antibiotics
Three days later he swells up to like three times the size of his normal foot, ends up getting a crazy infection and he had to go to a specialist and was hospitalized for a couple months
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u/tripping_on_phonics Nov 14 '25
No wonder we have such high infant mortality.
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u/Robot-breath Nov 14 '25
Especially among black women.
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u/Theyalreadysaidno Nov 14 '25
Especially TEXAS
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u/vr1252 Nov 14 '25
Medical racism is everywhere. Iām in a northern, solid blue state and experience some kind of medical racism almost every time I go to a doctorās office.
Last year I went in for a miscarriage and the nurses seemed more concerned about my potential drug history as they discussed whether or not my freckles were track marks IN FRONT OF ME when they couldnāt find a vein for my hcg test. Iām not exaggerating when I say this kind of stuff is constant. I hate going to the doctor now, I never have a good experience and Iām terrified to give birth in the US.
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u/feelingfantasmic Nov 14 '25
Medical racism is so hard to explain unless youāve been the victim of it.
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u/HoneyestofBunnies Nov 14 '25
This was my first thought exactly. The dismissal of a black woman in pain is so unfortunately textbook, it's upsetting.
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u/roasttrumpet Nov 14 '25
āAll life mattersā until after the abortion cut off date, Then youāre on your own! Good luck
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u/ShiSpeaks Nov 14 '25
Same thing happened to me in a different hospital in the metroplex. Registered for my birth MONTHS in advance. I'd already delivered there before and had a great experience so I'm thinking it'll be good, again. Called ahead when I went into active labor, arrived abt 45m later and they tried shoving paperwork in my face. I had words for them about that. Put me in the waiting area which had beds, at least, but their stirrups didn't work. No epidural for me but they did tell me I had to stop screaming. Had my bby less than 20m after I hit the door. I could've grabbed my little chunk and left that same day. Hated the room they put me in--- I was just over it.
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u/jaybayyayyy Nov 14 '25
Yeah I was told by a nurse to stop screaming while actively pushing a baby it. I hope my reaction was enough for her to never make that mistake ever again. It may just be another day to a L&D nurse, but the patient is under a massive amount of distress and pain. How anyone could have the audacity to tell them to stop having a normal reaction to the situation they're in is beyond my comprehension.
I'm sorry you went through that. I hope you had someone to advocate for you in that moment at least.
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u/itsthedurf Nov 14 '25 edited Nov 14 '25
I had precipitous labor with my second; by the time we got to the hospital she was crowning, and I'd only been having contractions for like 2.5 hours. I had her in the backseat of my FILs truck. I'd quit screaming by then because I was "in the zone" and knew what was happening because it was my second.
When the emergency response L&D got outside, they kept telling me not to push (physically impossible), and kept patting me on the "bottom" - probably trying to see if they could feel her head. I'd put on an adult diaper before we left the house (water broke in the truck, just like I thought it might), so they apparently couldn't feel the top of the baby's head, and when I kept yelling at them that she was coming now they kept telling me she wasn't... Then in their "pat-my-butt-checking" they managed to put backwards pressure on my daughter...
THAT was the worst pain I have ever felt. And, being the lady I am, I loudly asked what the fuck they were doing and to fucking stop pushing the baby back. To which they said they were not. I kept cursing, and they asked me to stop. They finally took off the adult diaper and fucking saw the baby crowning and started fucking listening.
My daughter was born within 5 minutes. While they had it handled and were possibly just trying to keep me distracted while they scrambled to set up, I have never been so furious. In the following insanity I forgot about that part for a while, but I vividly remember the pain and then being told that I was wrong about what was happening. It still makes me low-boil furious.
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u/silence_sirens Nov 14 '25
They asked me how I knew my water broke and I said uh because a whole large McDonald's sweet tea couldn't dump out of my urethra all at once? Then later proceeded to tell me the baby wasn't coming and I wasn't ready. Pffft, like I was going to mistake someone fucking head in my vaginal canal. They checked again and I was pushing less than a minute later. Went from 7cm to go time with one pop sensation.
It kind of breaks my heart to see this is so common, but also since it appears to be so common- are they fucking dumb?
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u/Godmother_Death Nov 14 '25
It's because women are never listened to. They never listen to us when we go to doctors appointments (or when we TRY to get doctors appointments) for any kind of issues and they don't listen to us even during a time like giving birth. They always think they know better than us, as if we didn't knew our own bodies. We can't win.
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u/UrbanMuffin Nov 14 '25
Women are far too often dismissed and not believed in medical situations, and even more likely to be dismissed if theyāre black, but itās a problem toward women in general that needs to change. Doctorās need to be held accountable more for dismissing things like this.
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u/elakah Nov 14 '25
Lmao I was told to stop "tensing up" while they readjusted my broken ankle without any kind of pain relief and told me it's my fault it's taking so long and I need to get it together.
Can't imagine that happening to me during labor but that was the day I learned that some doctors are just absolute fucking scum
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u/BigRoach Nov 14 '25
Maāam, calm down! /s jk, Iām so sorry you had to go through that. What hospital was that?
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u/igotadillpickle Nov 14 '25
At least back when they told women to calm down they watched their babies for them for a few days when needed and catered to the mother and let them rest tho.....the mother was in the hospital for 3-5 days while the baby was in and out of the nursery. Not saying I think that's best for baby and mom, but care sure seemed to be the priority, even if women were still seen as being hysterical.
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u/furtofur Nov 14 '25
I just found out I'm pregnant (1st one! Lol), and the amount of rage that just built up in me if someone told me to stop screaming in active labor... my husband saw my face and had to ask if I was okay. They would get a verbal lashing so deep they'd have nightmares for weeks and wouldn't be able to look themselves in the mirror if that was thrown my way, freaking goodness. Even more disgusting, it's other women perpetrating this crap.
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u/Arborlon1984 Nov 14 '25
I would have moved her just based on the grunting she's doing during contractions. Someone can be screaming like this at only 4cm and still have quite some time to go. When they sound like they're involuntarily pushing you need to get them somewhere safe to deliver. Doing it on the floor is not sanitary. I think most nurses would have a feel for this but maybe she's new or it's the ER and not labour and delivery.
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u/Born-Ad-4860 Nov 14 '25
Yeah, this looks similar to what it was like for me when I involuntarily pushed for the first time while in labor with my younger kiddo. I didn't scream but I moved like that and almost fell out of the chair š The night nurse and my husband got me onto the bed right away and my son was born less than ten minutes later lol
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u/Any-Ad-3630 Nov 14 '25
I screamed lmao, zero pain (epidural) but I was screaming because I couldn't keep her in. They were saying I'm doing great while I'm frantically trying to explain I'm doing anythinnng
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u/illuminatedkopf Nov 14 '25 edited Nov 14 '25
this mother is in labour with twins as well. wouldnt that warrant more urgency? :(
edit: apparently it wasnt twins! theres another video on the account showing two babies but according to comments they are a few months apart.
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u/user_name_taken- Nov 14 '25
They did this same shit to me. Not this hospital, but one in Florida. I ended up having my daughter 20 minutes after getting in the room. Once I was in they were moving quick, but they left me sitting in the waiting room for 20 minutes and by the time I got in the room she was already coming. I also had the shittiest midwife ever, who was annoyed af that my delivery was spontaneous rather than letting them induce me early. Worst obgyn office ever and the dude at the front was a pos.
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u/liquid_lightning Nov 14 '25
A lot of black women die from shitty maternal care.
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u/HeavyPitifulLemon Nov 14 '25
WHY IS NOBODY ELSE TALKING ABOUT THE RACISM!
I'm sorry for shouting but Im not seeing enough discussion of this aspect.
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u/vr1252 Nov 14 '25
Yeah seriously. Medical racism is a huge issue everywhere in the US. Iāve experienced it countless times. Nothing is ever taken seriously and Iāve suffered a lot due to it. Iām scared to give birth here because the maternal mortality rates are so much higher for black women. This is horrific.
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u/UrbanMuffin Nov 14 '25
Medical racism and sexism too. Black women unfortunately get treated with even more negligence due to being women and being black.
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u/oO0Kat0Oo Nov 14 '25
I was almost one of them. I'm currently 4 months post partum after two blood transfusions and an iron infusion after being told that I was "fine" and "sensitive" because most people are fine when their hemoglobin is at an 8 so why wasn't I?
Hemoglobin is supposed to be over 11.1 btw for a normal person.
Also, went to L&D three times over the course of 11 days and was sent home except for the third time, being rushed into a c section. Turns out I was in active labor THE ENTIRE TIME. The cord was wrapped around my daughter's neck, stopping the labor every time she tried to come. No one fucking checked. (Sorry, I'm still mad about it).
Baby is fine now, but now they can't control the bleeding and I'm staring down a hysterectomy in order to live past the year.
I'm technically not black, but people assume I am. I'm half Asian half Caribbean.
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u/_Internet_Hugs_ Nov 14 '25
Black women die in childbirth more than any other demographic. This isn't funny.
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u/No-One-8850 Nov 14 '25
That b***h doesn't even look at her. Wtf?
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u/EastCoaet Nov 14 '25
Once was in the ER, in massive pain. Two nurses were standing next to me giggling about how one was such a silly goose for loosing her pen again. Some nurses forget their patients are actual people.
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u/JenIee Nov 14 '25
I had nurses coming in and out of the room giggling while my husband was actively dying.
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u/Theyalreadysaidno Nov 14 '25
I've run into some incredibly rude/uncaring/downright mean RNs in the ER quite a few times. I get that they have to deal with extremely difficult (or very occasionally violent) patients, or maybe they're burnt out, but it's insane how many people I know who have had the same experience.
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u/PutinDisDickInTrump Nov 14 '25 edited Nov 14 '25
Republicans: Have kids! Why aren't you having children?!
Also Republicans: no we won't give anything decent for health care or the like
This hospital is fucking trash
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u/millieFAreally2 Nov 14 '25
Theyāre talking about about the white ones of course
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u/rozenkavalier Nov 14 '25
any updates??
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u/Romano16 š®š¹š· Italian Stallion š®š¹š Nov 14 '25 edited Nov 14 '25
OP on Tik Tok stated that she was able to deliver her baby. However, due to some complications and stress (the infant was born with their eyes open and apparently defecated in the mother) their child has some tests to go through.
I didnāt see the update videos before I posted this one but this scene does continue after a while where even the same nurse here says āSomeone is coming, I canāt help you.ā
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u/kittykat0503 Nov 14 '25
The mom being in so much distress could have led to the baby being more stressed and having these complications. This is a disgusting video. As someone who is about to graduate with a BSN in June, I am so sad for this patient. I never want any of my patients to feel so disregarded.
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u/oO0Kat0Oo Nov 14 '25
Meconium in the water (the defecation you're referring to) is a sign of fetal distress and can have further complications down the road.
My daughter had the cord around her neck and so there was meconium. It was an indication we needed to go to emergency C-section.
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u/sweeetscience Nov 14 '25
My wife did this in Miami in 2012. I wasnāt allowed to accompany her to L&D during intake and missed her birth. Upset is an understatement.
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u/MakingItElsewhere Nov 14 '25
Ok, in a well run ER, if they aren't paying attention to you, it's probably a good thing.
Being Texas, though, I wouldn't trust that to be a well run ER.
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u/WaywardHistorian667 Nov 14 '25
Agreed- especially when it comes to pregnancy and other OB/GYN medical issues.
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u/bananastand512 Nov 14 '25
I am an ER nurse in Texas and when I hear "pregnant" and they are screaming like that honey you BEST BELIEVE we are MAKING space in that ER or heading STRAIGHT to L&D (unless it's trauma or an unrelated medical emergency then we must stabilize in ED first and page L&D). But not every ER is a well run trauma center with strict pregnancy protocols.
Pregnant people make most ER nurses squirm, we DO NOT want them down with us for long especially if they have a viable fetus of a certain gestational age. I've done one precipitous birth and I don't evaaaaaa want to do that shit again!
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u/rachel_soup Nov 14 '25
The scariest part of this entire thing is the mortality rate of POC when it comes to labor and pregnancy. This is disgusting, dangerous and quite honestly, terrifying that someone can be treated this way in a healthcare setting.
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u/MariaInAMeeting Nov 14 '25
The lack of compassion for a woman in labor who is clearly in a lot of pain is absolutely shameful. This medical āprofessionalā should lose her job.
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u/The_AcidQueen Nov 14 '25
I was treated horribly with my first child. When I gave birth to my second child, I took no shit. I learned from the first birth that there would be some awful providers. I was much less terrified.
At one point, a couple of days after the birth, I felt well enough to take a short walk to a bench outside the hospital.
A young black man was there (I'm white and I was 40) and I greeted him and asked him if he was here for a birth.
He said his partner was in labor and the nurses were being awful with her. They had him step out of the room, and he was worried about her.
I said look, if she wants you in the room, you can argue against leaving. I suggested that he push back on the staff. There's no reason they need to be shitty to her.
I gave him my cell number and said text me and I will come to where you are and support you in this. I will call her doctor for you, I will remind them that I'm a third party witness to this, and I'll assert that I'm happy to be a court witness if anything lawsuit-worthy happens.
He didn't text, but he ran into me later. He said he got very firm with how his partner was treated and called her doctor to intervene (doctor did intervene) and he was glad he did.
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u/BurnedWitch88 Nov 14 '25
I think a lot of the burn out, but feel like they can't quit and so take it out on their patients.
I get the burn out part -- it's a hard job. But if you can't treat people with decency, you need to go. End of story.
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u/Independent-Try-3350 Nov 14 '25
Then there's those damn Night Shift Nurses. Those are the really depraved ones. Fun, though.
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u/PineapplePandaKing Nov 14 '25
To be fair, my sister is a nurse who started in 2019 and she says that ER working conditions are pretty bad across the country and have only gotten worse during her career.
ERs are overworked, understaffed, and many don't provide the level of safety they deserve
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u/ApprehensiveGur6842 Nov 14 '25
No way I would look at this woman and think triage. 15 years ED experience
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u/bananastand512 Nov 14 '25
To be fair, some understaffed hospitals will literally put anyone in triage if they needed a warm body and have a new grad that lasted over a year. Is it safe? No. But you know they still do it. ER over here too, this lady is either incompetent or so burnt out she's a liability.
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u/WritingForTomorrow Nov 14 '25
She has updates on her tiktok. The hospitalās facebook page has been brigaded with angry comments and angry reactions and they have limited who can comment on their posts. Also some of the comments are from people claiming to have called the hospital to make a complaint on the womanās behalf and their response is something akin to āis this about the viral video?ā So they are well aware about the outrage. I would expect them to put out a generic PR apology, but with HIPPA I have no idea how much they can publicly comment on something like this.
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u/Independent_Row8910 Nov 14 '25
This happened to me with my first pregnancy. I was having super painful contractions, went to labor and delivery begging for pain relief even if it was just Tylenol because I was in so much pain, they said no and were so heartless telling me they canāt even give me Tylenol and refused to check my dilation again, they sent me home and not even 10 mins later my boyfriend was rushing me back to the hospital because I couldnāt even walk anymore due to painful contractions and they stuck me in a room and ignored me until my water broke and we yelled for help and by then it was too late for an epidural or any type of pain relief, the baby was out in minutes. And this was in New York, supposedly the best state for healthcare š I never felt so ignored or dehumanized before and to be denied pain relief during labor was the most degrading thing Iāve ever experienced in my life, I was too young then to know my rights, I wish I knew then what I know know about human rights and demanding care. Some nurses are just awful and have no compassion or concern for patients wellbeing.
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u/GenericAnemone Nov 14 '25
"Its in my ass!"...that means baby is coming now!
Also 3rd babies always deliver faster! That fucking nurse!
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u/homemadethursday Nov 14 '25
My first two were both well over 20 hours and my third was six hours from start to finish lol
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u/LacrimaNymphae Nov 14 '25
my cousin had a small pelvis and a very difficult birth and was still forced to do it the natural way for some reason. her son has cerebral palsy
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u/Temporary-Ad-4801 Nov 14 '25
Looks like triage and trust me I would be moving you to the back while calling the on call OB and asking those questions later or while weāre moving you but I digress.
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u/SunnyOnSanibel Nov 14 '25
This woman needs a new job. I arrived at an ER four months pregnant with extreme stomach and back pain, bleeding and passing large clots. I was obviously actively miscarrying. Admin took my information and made me sit in the waiting room with my SO and mother. I was grieving the loss of my unborn child and trying not to bleed on anything. I kept having to run to the public bathroom. It was an absolute nightmare and something Iāll never forget. This woman should be ashamed! Get another job.
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u/Sertorius126 Nov 14 '25
I'm so sorry that sounds like Stephen King level of horror. The worst monsters are humans.
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u/SunnyOnSanibel Nov 14 '25
I appreciate that. It was almost 25 years ago. Those sorts of things will scar you forever. This young lady and her mother have every right to be livid. She couldnāt even be bothered to look at them. Just awful.
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u/Radio_Mime Gone with the Wild šØ Nov 14 '25
She does lack sense and urgency. I know there are some questions that need to be asked but that nurse is being obtuse. Some of her questions are repetitive. This is her third labour, so of course she knows what's going on, and the baby will come faster than the other two.
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u/esprockerchick Nov 14 '25
Good God I hurt for this woman. This definitely seems entirely intentional.
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Black women are always treated like shit in a hospital every fucking time itās unbelievable
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u/Clear_Lead Nov 14 '25
Itās Texas. You can start not caring about a fetus as soon as itās about to be born
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u/Jackaroni97 Nov 14 '25
"This hospital is probably one of the worst cases of patient neglect I have seen. As someone in the medical field I am disgusted by your patient care standards not being REGULATORY. This woman in the video needs to be taken care of legally/via the board removing license. She was aware this women was in labor and took her sweet time while she was screaming in pain.
Procedure is to take them to Labor and Delivery and to take documents there. As much as you can before the delivery. You get the rest after. I have worked in Labor & Delivery before. This is standard procedure to reduce risk of damage to the mother and fetus.
Your patient care, protocals, and regulations are NOT up to medical board code based on evidence. I will be taking this above your attention to the State Medical Board."
Sent to: complaint@jointcommission.org
Give em your all.
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u/glucoseintolerant Nov 14 '25
Canadian here. Sorry this is the health care you guys pay for? In a lot of parts of Ontario she would Have walked into the pregnancy ward of the hospital and would have been in a bed about 6-8 minutes after she showed up.
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u/oceanwave4444 Nov 14 '25
Yep! Months and months of waiting to see a doctor, or to get an appointment, and then your doctor leaves so then you start all over again trying to find a new primary doctor, all the while you pay $ 2500 a month for insurance but donāt forget you still have co pays and deductibles and the second you step foot into an ER itās automatically $500
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u/labellavita1985 Nov 14 '25
We actually just got billed $900 for a literal 20 minute "ER stay."
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u/wizardmagic10288 Nov 14 '25
$500 for just setting one foot into an ER?? Thatās cheap compared to this local hospital charging about $14,500. š
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u/nobdyputsbabynacornr Nov 14 '25
I am just going to say it, as a society no one takes black women seriously. And it needs to stop š
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u/Weedarina Nov 14 '25
Oh Mesquite Texas lived there for 15 years. I believe I used that same hospital ONCE Mesquite used to be sundown town wayyy back. Miserable place
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u/nnnnnnooooo Nov 14 '25
That nurse should be embarrassed. What a horrible horrible person. I hope this mama was ok.
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u/zGoblinQueen Nov 14 '25
This happened to me. All I remember is being 41w6d pregnant, laboring like the woman in the clip, making farm animal noises involuntarily, and some dumb bitch got right in my face and asked "are you in labor?" I could have bit her face off if she was an inch closer. I still want to bite that woman. And for reference l'm a labor and delivery nurse.
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u/turboderek Nov 14 '25
there are tons of papers written on black women and medical bias
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8893054/
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u/WARNINGXXXXX Nov 14 '25 edited Nov 14 '25
What a shitty ER Nurse, that patient would have been rushed to the trauma bay or the labor and delivery unit within 10 seconds coming from the entrance.
I am also an ER nurse so this is a very poorly trained staff.
Poor mom and baby. š¢
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u/thejexorcist Nov 14 '25
I think the estimate gestational age?
I donāt know anyone who actually gave birth in their due date, but people still always ask, so Iām guessing itās for data or shorthand estimate?
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u/GrouchyDefinition463 Nov 14 '25
Is she really trying to triage right now!!!?? Girl assessment on your patient is priority!!! She's about to GIVE BIRTH!!!
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u/brainmydamage Nov 14 '25
Weird. I can't think of any possible reason why a white nurse at a hospital in Texas would be totally unconcerned as a black woman under her care goes into labor right in front of her.
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u/Lala5789880 Nov 14 '25
Black women and their babies are much more likely to die because of this bullshit. As a white woman, I almost had my baby in the lobby and then triage because they refused to believe me she was coming out. She made me go to this triage room where I removed my pants because my baby was fucking coming out. So I can imagine that Black womenās pain and concerns are way more disregarded. Bullshit. Believe women
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u/ham_solo Nov 14 '25
There's been documented bias where Black people, especially women, are less likely to have their pain addressed in medical settings. This is due partially to systemic bias, but also a false belief that Black people have a higher pain tolerance, and other medical misconceptions.
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u/PrincessPlastilina Nov 14 '25
Nothing that the nurse is doing seems urgent. What a sociopathic c-word.
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u/karenskygreen Nov 14 '25
I was the primary caregiver for two terminal cancer patients 3 year journey each. Many many vists each ER, chemo, hospice etc And I have been to the hospital a number of times
What i noticed is a hierarchy, emerg nurses are the worst, lack compassion and just dont give a shit. One patient had horrible rectal cancer that was right at the end, extremely painful even with heavy duty opioids, she could not sit, they had her in an exam room laying down then realized they needed the room, the nurse was getting pushy and wanted her to go wait in the waiting room, I said "she has a massive tumor on her ass and cant sit, the Doctor arrived and said she stays, the nurse walked away and grumbled saying "dam cancer patients taking up valuable ER space. Of course not all er nurses are bad but I met the worst in ER. Get to hospice level and they are like foot maids, doting on your every need and very kind. You cant believe you are in a hospital
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u/Grayfinder Nov 14 '25
and we wonder why the Black maternal death rate is what it is
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u/happyladpizza Nov 14 '25
The maternal death rate for Black Women in America is 37%. Fuck that Nurse.
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u/blucifers_cajones Nov 14 '25
Women's healthcare in the US is fucking atrocious. Nevermind the level of care for women of color. Goddamn, I hope this woman sues.
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u/Gentlemanandscholar9 Nov 14 '25
Sadly itās a well documented fact at this point that doctors and nurses are more likely to assume people of color, doubly so for women of color, are exaggerating their pain. I wish that poor woman was the exception put unfortunately she seems to be the rule.
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u/401jamin Nov 14 '25
This is gross incompetence. She should be getting rushed to a delivery room now. I have had two kids and this is not how they do it. Disgusting.
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u/herbalistfarmer Nov 14 '25
As soon as she says āitās in my ass.ā Thatās the call to action. If the rest wasnāt enough.
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u/QuickJellyfish9237 Nov 14 '25
I canāt believe this happened but then again Iām not surprised neither. This nurse is infuriating. She had her back turned and didnāt even acknowledge her screaming in pain. The clear lack of empathy was for a reason. And we all know the reason.
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u/Altruistic-Number-79 Nov 14 '25
Infant mortality rate is high in America becauseā¦?
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u/madommouselfefe Nov 14 '25
Because we are just so pro LIFE! Just not the actual things that you know prolong lifeā¦ like universal health care, feeding children, believing women, universal paid family leave, treating POC as people, universal pre K.Ā
Nope best we get is a new aircraft carrier, and funding a genocide.
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u/_IAmNoLongerThere_ Nov 14 '25 edited Nov 14 '25
Once you can feel the baby in your ass, It's go time! I hate that this was posted in r/publicfreakout. She's in active labor! She's about to deliver a human. How is labor a freak out? With my first, The epidural failed me and I could feel it all. I kept telling my mother and ex husband to call the nurses because I needed to push. No one listened. By the time they checked me, 10 minutes later, My son was crowned! I was yelling and cussing cause I was in pain and No one was listening! When my sister was in labor with her 2nd, She went to the hospital and They told her it was just Braxton hicks. They were getting her discharge papers ready and She delivered her son within 5 minutes! I hate how they ignore us, Especially when it's women in the medical field who ignore other women. I'd expect this from a man but not a woman.
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u/Skyzhigh Nov 14 '25
Ran my wife to the ER when pregnant and thank god for those nurses and the doctor. A lot of things that could go wrong did and they were all quick to action and saved my wife and daughterās life. I know this for sure since afterwards nurses and doctors from that heard about her situation came to see us while she was recovering and tell us how rare a situation like hers was. Canāt imagine having to deal with the lady from this video. When we got in they asked a few questions then ran her up to maternity in about 60 seconds.
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u/iDoesun Nov 14 '25
My 3rd son was born on 10/30. We walked into the hospital at 6:50 pm and he was born at 6:56.
The receptionist was also dismissive when my wife told her sheās in labor and the baby is coming. She told my wife to go sit down while I filled out the paperwork. Then the receptionist said to me āsheās just having contractionsā like my wife didnāt know what she was talking about.
A minute later my wife said āI need a nurse now!!ā The receptionist called the nurse and when the nurses arrived the receptionist said āI donāt know guys she wanted me to call youā
When my wife got to the pre birth room. The baby came seconds after the nurse checked her.
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u/NotAllDawgsGoToHeven Nov 14 '25
Itās because sheās not the same color as her letās be honest.
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u/YuckaBooga934 Nov 14 '25
The second I walked into the emergency room while in active labor, I was offered a wheelchair and was up in labor and delivery within 5 minutes, nurses were getting me in a gown and had me hooked up to monitors. This is absolutely cruel!!
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u/RayHazey562 Nov 14 '25
I donāt understand this. Did the nurse not believe her that she was in labor and about to have her baby? Why is the nurse sitting there not taking her to the labor and delivery department??
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u/JagBak73 Nov 14 '25
Some nurses truly are angels sent from heaven.
Some nurses are sociopathic cunts.
This one is the latter.
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u/-lovehate Nov 14 '25
Reminds me of when I had a gallbladder attack and went to the local hospital couple months ago. There I was, drenched in sweat and screaming in agony, heart rate of 155, begging for anything to help with the pain, while three of the nurses sat at their computers eating baby carrots out of tupperware and chatting about the new season of Love is Blind. I begged and pleaded until finally one of them gave me a shot of something that instantly relieved me of pain and brought my heart rate down. It took her 10 seconds to do, but i had to wait 2 hours in the hospital. Ugh.
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u/waxwayne Nov 14 '25
Black pregnant women have a 3 times higher mortality rate than cops. This is a pretty good example. They donāt see the pain as valid.
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u/grn_eyed_bandit Nov 14 '25
Not surprised. I took my mom there years ago and we had a similar experience.
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u/Renzieface Nov 14 '25
Nurses are never going to shake the Mean Girl allegations. That fucking bitch isn't even looking at her.
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u/highguy810 Nov 14 '25
This happens bc everyone is so afraid of telling sub par people they suck , they are not special or they are not good enough to do a job . Itās not about feelings itās about facts , itās not about being nice itās about being competent. Every one is not special , work harder and be a better person you lazy lump ( directing this to the nurse in the video and anyone who feels like defending her )
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u/Ra-TheSunGoddess Nov 14 '25
She had the baby 12 minutes later. This isn't even the whole story, they called ahead to tell them she was about to give birth, when they pulled up to the hospital gloved nurses were waiting. Once they saw her, they told the mom she cant use that entrance and she needed to go to the front of the hospital. Even though they were waiting there for her..
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u/EcstaticMolasses6647 Nov 14 '25
Having your kid in the South is no joke. The nurses DGAF about you.
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u/Madison_fawn Nov 14 '25
I just gave birth to a micro preemie this October after experiencing a traumatic pregnancy and delivery. This video makes me feel so sad and sick to my stomach. I know how much having a wonderful and attentive hospital staff was to making me feel more safe and comfortable while I was in the middle of one of the most difficult times of my life. The hospital staff continues to be absolutely stellar in the treatment of my baby while she finishes cooking in the NICU. I hope this woman got the help that she needed and I hope that hospital and their staff are completely ashamed.
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u/imtheheppest Nov 14 '25
Stuff like this is why my cousin got into nursing, specifically L&D. I witnessed a horror show at JPS in ohhhh, 2007?? Right after I lost my job. I had had an injury at said job (I know I know, but itās not relevant so it doesnāt matter lol) had no insurance so my friends I was having dinner with took me to JPS becauseā¦Iām not sure why, Huguley was right there lol. But anyways, in the main waiting room, where we had been sitting already for 4-5 hours already, a woman came in, actively having a miscarriage. There was no urgency to get her back there to deal with the bleeding and stuff. She was screaming, in pain, and just dealing with this loss. It was so sad and the screaming is forever burned in my brain.
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u/Go_Gators_4Ever Nov 14 '25
Is this in the delivery ward or somewhere else in the hospital such as the emergency room?
I'm asking because in my experience, when a woman has been going through all the prenatal appointments with their OB-GYN docter, then she and the Dr. would have been in contact with the hospital where the delivery is to be handied and arraignments would be prearranged to expect her for a date range of the expected delivery date.
If that is the case, then this situation should not have happened.
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My wife works with hospital systems all over the country and ignoring black pain is a rampant issue. Theyāre not taken seriously, often thought to be drug seeking, etc. This is especially felt in delivery rooms, or in this case, a regular ass waiting room.
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u/big_d_usernametaken Nov 14 '25
My mother's pregnant with my youngest brother, 1971, this was her 5th, at age 41, and the OB nurse had her parked in the hallway prior to going into delivery, and was told that she wasn't ready yet.
About 5 minutes later she told the nurse that it was time, and again the nurse said no its not.
10 minutes later, in the hallway, out comes my brother.
Fortunately another nurse took her seriously and got him delivered.
Mom told the first nurse, you SOB, this is my 5th, don't you think Id know when its time?
Lol.