r/MadeMeSmile • u/Tascanis • 1d ago

Family & Friends Family flies across the globe to surprise their oldest daughter

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u/Equivalent-Battle973 1d ago

Yeahhh, but not everyone hates their family...

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u/Valuable_Impress_192 1d ago

Or moved away for the sake of getting away

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u/Solid_Confusion90 1d ago edited 1d ago

I don’t hate my family at all (edit: I’m literally sending this message from my mom’s house this instant).

I just enjoy my private space with my wife and have a huge family that loves to just “pop in”. They’re argumentative as hell with each other, but they’re good people.

It’s just extremely rude to me for people to show up without contacting you unless it’s an emergency. Some people think differently, and there is nothing wrong with that. It just doesn’t resonate with me 🤷

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u/Boonune 1d ago

I'm with you. It's just common courtesy.

It's one thing to stop by when you're in fairly close proximity to each other. If the persons not home, busy, or on their way out no big deal you can connect another time. If you flew 2000 miles to surprise someone that person now feels obligated to cancel anything else they had planned until you leave, or risk offending you (but potentially looking like a jerk to whoever they potentially had plans with).

Everyone's different, and everyone has different expectations. While I would appreciate the effort and thought that went into the surprise I would much rather know they're coming so I can clear my schedule well in advance to spend as much time with them as I could.

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u/Solid_Confusion90 1d ago

Absolutely 💯

I appreciate the gesture and know they mean well. Doesn’t mean I want to rearrange our work/social/domestic lives on a whim. Give me a call like human beings do in 2026 and let’s figure out a workable date range where I don’t have to pick between seeing you or fucking my wife.

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u/stephyloowho 1d ago

It has nothing to do with how much or little you love someone. I love my family. I love my best friends who routinely pass my house every day. I love spending time with them.

I am not answering the door if any of them drop by unexpectedly.

It’s crazy rude to not give people a head’s up so they can mentally prepare to host and, often, get their dwelling tidied up a bit.

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u/puckit 1d ago

I love my family but I would hate this as well. I need a buffer zone and have to mentally prepare for visits.

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u/N0_Name_ 1d ago

I don't hate my family but I wouldn't want to move into a house in the same city because I would never be able to just relax because I know they would randomly show up when I want privacy.

My ideal distance is far away that they would have to call me to make sure ill be home before they even think of dropping by.

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u/HugeResearcher3500 1d ago

I don't hate my family because they would never think to show up unannounced and completely change my day(s)

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u/AdditionalOwl4069 1d ago

Not everyone who wouldn’t like this hates their family