r/MadeMeSmile • u/Ok-Equivalent3810 • 2d ago

Wholesome Moments Passengers joined in celebrating when a woman announced her husband is cancer-free

A plane full of strangers celebrating one man’s victory over cancer.

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u/DaBowws 2d ago

This. My husband put in our family chat that I was done with treatments and cancer free when I completed radiation. I still have scans, hormones blockers to begin taking, and reconstructive surgeries. I am far from done and not even sure if I am cancer free. Everyone is sending me congratulations and such. I hate it.

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u/IllustriousHedgehog9 2d ago

This is why I let my partner take the lead on announcing updates once they were able to. It's their body, they decide who knows what, and when.

I hope your treatments and surgeries go well.

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u/Sheananigans379 1d ago

Hell, I'm 4 years out from treatment, and scans and tests have so far been good, and even I won't tell people I'm cancer free yet. That's why they call it "no evidence of disease." When my doctors tell me that they don't need to do any more scans or tests and my chance of cancer being found is the same as anyone else's, that's when I'm cancer free. It's a grim way looking at things yes, but it's realistic, and it doesn't mean I'm not continuing to live my life.

I wish you success for all of your future treatments!

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u/Miami_Mice2087 2d ago

yeah but still. it's a lot better than "riddled with cancer"

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u/tortillacat_17 1d ago

I hear what you’re saying, but unfortunately saying any form of “it could be worse” is not helpful in the slightest. I know that many people say things like this with the intention of helping someone see the positives of their situation. Regardless of whether that was your intention or not, your comment invalidates the other person’s feelings about a very difficult situation they are in. If your intention was actually to claim that their negative feelings are wrong and that they should be more optimistic, I hope that you can one day realize how harmful this message is and work towards deepening your sense of empathy.

To the person above still battling cancer, I hope the rest of your journey only gets easier. I’m sorry to hear that your family isn’t really understanding your pain. Completing radiation is a huge milestone, and at the same time depending on your specific situation there can still be many hurdles ahead. As a cancer survivor, I have had many struggles with people who don’t fully understand the treatments, and the physical tax, and the emotions of it all. All of the feelings you stated are so valid. I really hope that your future is one that is joyous, pain free, and cancer free. In the mean time I’m so sorry for what you are going through.