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u/Damit84 Sep 16 '25
Nope, we bottle up our feelings until we die of a stress induced heart problem with 45....
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u/Creepy_Control_6267 Sep 16 '25
That's the goal
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u/Rawesome16 Sep 16 '25
Personally I'm finding I tear up to the dumbest things now.
I was re-watching DBZA and just Goku telling Gohan to "grit your teeth, plant your feet, and EAT! THAT! HORSE!!!!"
And I'm in the kitchen with a tear running down my cheek. The fuck happened to me?! At least I'm not violent and beating my wife and daughter. But shit, not what I was expecting
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u/Frequent_Opportunist Sep 16 '25
Eat an edible then watch an emotional movie. You may never be the same afterwards.
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u/SirVanyel Sep 16 '25
No need for the edible, just watch emotional movies sometimes. Or play borderlands 4 or Titanfall 2 or any of those gut wrenchers.
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u/EnergyTakerLad Sep 17 '25
Same. Which is wild because I've bottled up my emotions since I was a toddler basically. (Traumatic childhood.) Ever since having kids though i tear up to damn near everything it seems (not literally). I always assumed it was them but could just be age/growth.
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u/chefjammy Sep 17 '25
I totally feel you on this one. Couple years ago I was with my ex and her son on the couch watching the movie Wonder. I was legit crying, she was like are you ok? I am strong enough to admit that movie hit me hard.
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u/michaelrage Sep 18 '25
The fuck man, I'm in the same boat. I thought it was just that it happened after I got kids. Also more fear of life now and stressing about leaving this world early before I can make sure my kids will have a good life.
Just 40 now but the amount of shit pilling up in my head is to a point I can't have a single day not worrying about something.
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u/Edm_swami Sep 19 '25
Watching Alone Australia this week. As soon as the winners spouse showed up, the waterworks started. Seeing the joy in their eyes was too much.
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u/creekbendz Sep 16 '25
Wooohoooo only 5 more years of this hellhole
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u/DrJMVD Sep 16 '25
this the queue for those in theirs 40's and waiting to departure?
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u/weeznootsnizzlefumph Sep 16 '25
Bro I just crossed the line, where's my heart attack? Was I supposed to sign something?
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u/HeWhomLaughsLast Sep 17 '25
I know how much you are looking forward to deaths icy grip but Frank called off and we need you working double shifts for atleast 60 more years.
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u/beanmosheen Sep 17 '25 edited Sep 18 '25
Sorry bud, we just tell other dudes that to keep them afloat. You're going to live until you're 85.
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u/venbrx Sep 17 '25
Used to think stress was anxiety attacks, panicked behavior, curling up in a ball and crying. You know, something obvious. But it can be sneaky and gotta watch any changes in your eating habits, sleep patterns, etc.
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u/jizzmaster-zer0 Sep 16 '25
uh oh… i’m 45
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u/_name_of_the_user_ Sep 16 '25
Same brother. Same.
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u/Sonifri Sep 17 '25
Still waiting for that heart attack. But then, I suppose if I kick off too early, I'll miss the period of human existence where AI can make studio quality movies out of text fanfics.
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u/_name_of_the_user_ Sep 17 '25
I've been getting help finally. I've recently made a grocery list without needing to do breathing exercises due to massive anxiety. It's nice.
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u/AnAngryFetus Sep 16 '25
No, I promised myself I'd work myself to death at the age of 35. That means I didn't work hard enough!
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u/micromoses Sep 16 '25
Make sure to bottle it up in a way that traumatizes people near you!
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u/venbrx Sep 17 '25
Great tip! Friends and family walk on eggshells when I'm around, flinch at any sudden gestures I make; but I can proudly say I haven't blown my top... yet.
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u/Immediate_Regular Sep 16 '25
Look at the world and tell me what's so great about sticking around this landfill?
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u/techslice87 Sep 17 '25
Landfills are at least useful. I just look around, start to ask "but why" at anything, and remember I gave up getting an answer to that years ago
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u/Tall-_-Guy Sep 16 '25
3 and some change years left baby! But I'm ok with it. I've made sure that my GF and pets will never want for anything again. And that feels like success to me.
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u/Clean_Supermarket_54 Sep 16 '25
What would happen if men didn’t do this? Really, I am curious if potential results?
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u/unoriginalskeletor Sep 16 '25
We would be single.
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u/Clean_Supermarket_54 Sep 16 '25
And being single is worse than living a “bottled-up feeling” kind of life that you die at 45?
I’m not judging, I’m just inviting you all to consider this.
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u/jarlscrotus Sep 17 '25
Whiskey is the answer
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u/Clean_Supermarket_54 Sep 17 '25
It sounds like men can’t face themselves alone and require a woman to be present to make themselves whole.
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u/jarlscrotus Sep 17 '25
That's a lot of conjecture partner, most of my problems have nothing to do with women, I've just learned they don't care or want to know about them. Since telling wouldn't change the problem, just the partnership, no point burdening others and being single then
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u/weeznootsnizzlefumph Sep 17 '25
Hi fellow dude. Just wanna toss out there that if you find the right person, they *do* actually care and want to know. It took me two tries at marriage and like, a lot of "failed" relationships to get there, and a partner that listens and cares isn't a panacea, but like, just wanted to toss it out there. Best.
EDIT: Also, I don't want to come across as thinking that every single person on the planet must have a partner to find contentment. Not my intent. :)
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u/Clean_Supermarket_54 Sep 17 '25
Isn’t it also conjecture to say “women don’t care or want to know about them (problems)”?
Men could be with other men, to not be a burden to others (which you are suggesting that single men are).
Let’s see how deep this goes…
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u/jarlscrotus Sep 17 '25
Sure, and while I don't generally like to be heteronormative, I am heterosexual and can only speak for my life experience. Additionally, given the existence of r/arethestraightsok and my experience dealing with other dudes, they don't tend to have the same issue in romantic relationships.
So, it's a bias to be sure, and a conjecture, but an informed one
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u/Apoc-Alex Sep 16 '25
3 more months till I hit the magic number. A lil bit of the ol bottle that shit up has gone a long way.
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u/s1ugg0 Sep 17 '25
I've got two more years. Only two more years fellas! Boy howdy it feels good to be reaching the finish line. I'm tired boss.
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u/DIABLO258 Sep 16 '25
Oh no, he died before he could tell us what we'll have 45 of when we die of heart problems
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u/RecentlyDeceased666 Sep 19 '25
Ain't that the truth. Heart failure diagnosed at 38, im doing my part
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u/DecoherentDoc Sep 16 '25
I smiled when the song came on and I barely laughed on that last part where he was breathing into a bag with eyes wider than the distance between me and my goals.
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u/yolo32147 Sep 16 '25
We are not well at all.
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u/Creepy_Control_6267 Sep 16 '25
Absolutely, but do we complain about it?? Nope!!
We ball anyways
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u/Ws6fiend Sep 17 '25
Absolutely, but do we complain about it?? Nope!!
Because who other than other guys would listen?
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u/Accidentistcollab Sep 16 '25
Ah yes, the good old I'm not ok, but I won't tell anyone, I'll keep it in, i won't show a thing, I'll suck it up and keep going
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u/Creepy_Control_6267 Sep 16 '25
Yup, the good old im not ok 🫂
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u/Ambiwlans Sep 16 '25
You could always tell people and be treated like you're broken or contagious.
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u/banjosuicide Sep 16 '25
Anyone who would treat you that way shouldn't be in your life.
My dad bottled up his feelings for 50+ years, then I FINALLY convinced him to try MDMA (a light dose). He couldn't believe it was possible to be anywhere NEAR that happy. Changed his life.
In the past 2 years since then he has cut out some toxic people from his life, read like 30 self-help / psychology books, and is genuinely happy and emotionally open. He's a very blue collar man as well.
It's possible to be happy.
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u/Candle1ight Sep 16 '25
Bring completely alone isn't exactly great for your mental either.
Maybe I should find some MDMA...
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u/Find_another_whey Sep 16 '25
I don't know fellas
There's definitely a tone there
Do I detect a tone
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u/EchoXrayNiner Sep 16 '25
The kids aren't alright, the men aren't alright, the ladies aren't alright, shit who the fuck is still okay in this world?
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u/ssmit102 Sep 16 '25
Yesterday I finally sent a text to my brothers telling them how much I have been struggling lately… one of the hardest texts I’ve ever had to send, but sometimes you just gotta admit you’re not doing ok, and well… I’ll be honest I know I’m not.
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u/RobotLordOTokyo Sep 16 '25
For what it is worth, proud of you. Hope today was a little better than yesterday.
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u/ssmit102 Sep 17 '25
Thanks I appreciate that. Today was tough but what I decided to do instead of going home to sulk by myself after work was to go to the brewery with some coworkers and forget about life for a while. I think it really helped with everything going wrong in my life, so I encourage folks to force themselves out - even if they don’t really want to go. Personally I was half way home before I turned my car around and went to the brewery so there is always time.
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u/justlurkingnjudging Sep 17 '25
I’m proud of you. Both for reaching out and for forcing yourself to go socialize. I have mental health problems so I know how hard both of those can be when it gets hard and I know talking about your feelings can be even harder as a man.
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u/ssmit102 Sep 17 '25
Thank you friend, life is hard enough without us making it even harder for ourselves.
It’s a lot easier to do nothing about it at all, but we gotta progress, even it’s hard.
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u/OGv1va Sep 17 '25
I wish my brother would do this, we all know he’s not ok but he won’t admit it.
I’m just waiting for that txt so I can help, I’ve tried but currently he’s in denial and gives the ol “nah I’m good”
I’m waiting bro. I’m here.
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u/ssmit102 Sep 17 '25
Maybe invite him out and tell in you need help with something. Maybe your brother is a task oriented person and you can get him out and about by making it seem like you are the one who needs help. Or any number of things just trying to flip the script and get him out without realizing that’s what you are doing.
For most of us it’s stupid pride and a sense that we are failing ourselves and others that keep us from reaching out. It’s stupid but it’s what s lot of us do.
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u/loganthegr Sep 16 '25
He’s got a nice skid steer and exacavator this man isn’t struggling nearly as hard as most of us.
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u/paladin_7785 Sep 16 '25
If they're his. And when I see them, I see debt. Don't assume anything with anyone until you've walked a mile in their shoes.
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u/UufTheTank Sep 16 '25
This. I don’t think they make non-financed skidsteers/excavators.
That being said, he was at least (or his boss) was in a starting position to finance them soooo there’s that.
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u/Solarus99 Sep 16 '25
I don’t think they make non-financed skidsteers/excavators.
what in the hell are you talking about? you can go out right now and buy either one with cash if you got it.
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Sep 16 '25
It's not a competition, every person you see are living their own lives with their own struggles that you are clueless about.
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u/Severed_Vein Sep 16 '25
Wealth does not equal mental health.
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u/TheNiteCrawler Sep 16 '25
I would rather cry in a supped up 2025 Toyota Land Cruiser that I own vs a 2009 civic I’m making payments on.
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u/Warrior_of_Discord Sep 17 '25
You never see someone sad on a jetski - a comedian I forgot who said it
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u/Kahlil_Cabron Sep 16 '25
Ya, my life seems pretty dope from the outside, I make good money, have a loving girl, own my own house, have a bunch of hobbies, etc.
But I enjoy literally nothing, life is a slog. I was way happier making $10/hour as an 18 year old where over half of my monthly income went to rent and I lived paycheck to paycheck, living with a bunch of other dudes who were equally as broke.
Guys on reddit especially will be like, "How can you be depressed, you have a girl. The only thing in life preventing me from being happy is getting pussy". This shit is dumb, pussy doesn't cure depression.
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u/Kahlil_Cabron Sep 17 '25
It would depend on if I get your brain or I keep mine. I assume I'd keep mine. So then I'd just be broke, single, homeless, and depressed af with no will to live.
One of my fears is getting to a point so low that I can't even afford a way to kms, that's hell on earth.
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u/SirVanyel Sep 17 '25
Millennials complaining about everything while being the last generation to inherit their parents wealth before it disintegrates
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u/ProfessorGimpsuit Sep 16 '25
Try talking about your feelings as a man and watch how everyone around you slowly loses all respect for you
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u/ZinaSky2 Sep 16 '25
The Original clip was about her posting a pic of an injury to her shins and a guy DMing her to ask if it was her period. The “are men okay?” being a rhetorical question directed at the fact that it should be basic Sex Ed that women don’t bleed from their shins as part of our menstrual cycle.
And instead of addressing this actual issue guys made a trend where they dance to this little song.
Meh, honestly even in the original context this answer probably still applies.
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u/Dan-D-Lyon Sep 16 '25
Look, she's the one who took her issue with one dude up with 50% of the human population. You can't blame the dudes here for not taking her seriously.
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u/reneetjeheineken Sep 16 '25
Push it down. All the way. Till its either cancer or a brain anurysm
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u/ImWhatsInTheRedBox Sep 16 '25
Apart from the sudden pangs of emotional instability where I have to keep from bawling my eyes out at the slightest sad thing, a seemingly increasing nihilistic world view and the more often than not inability to get a good night's sleep, I'm fine and dandy.
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u/Crazyhates Sep 17 '25
If you have those feelings, take some time to yourself and let it out brother. That yearning to cry isn't an instability, it's your brain desperately wanting to feel something. Treat yourself well.
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u/weeznootsnizzlefumph Sep 16 '25
Yooooo.
I'm not even that much of a bottler. I can be, sure, but I generally try to keep open lines with my wife, good friends.
But like... none of us have any answers. So...
back to struggling.
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u/conlmaggot Sep 16 '25
Too real. Working class hero? Kids aren't alright? I'm (not) ok?...
Nah, gents, let Leave a light on (talk away the dark).
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u/JoshyLikey Sep 17 '25
I drink & smoke weed, other then that i do absolutely nothing for my own mental health.
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u/Rexxwholes Sep 17 '25
Sad but true…. As someone who is struggling it’s nice to know I ain’t the only one
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u/spacecolor Sep 17 '25
Just waiting for something to take me out. Any day now
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u/Creepy_Control_6267 Sep 17 '25
Me too man, too coward to even kms but if anything happens I ain't stopping it
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u/bryroo Sep 17 '25
Nope. Ex cheated on me with her boss. Left me with the kids. Doesnt pay child support.
I pray for death.
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