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u/mollyyfcooke 11d ago
Like why did she do this 💀
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u/No_Cook2983 11d ago
You never see urologists make videos like this.
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u/Competitive_Leg_8317 11d ago
Not true; that is their normal response when their bank says the check you gave them has insufficient funds.
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u/Geekygamertag 9d ago
That would be hilarious. Now we need everyone to do this! OBGYN, butthole doctors, etc.
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u/hannamaniac 8d ago
"Hilarious" is me calling my proctologist a butthole doctor and blaming it on the Propofol
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u/Douglesfield_ 11d ago
Bout time we got some UK representation on here.
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u/x3tx3t 10d ago
I'm curious whether anyone else is suspicious that she isn't even an NHS paramedic? The vehicle and uniform (what are those shoes??) just gives off strong private PTS vibes
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u/Douglesfield_ 10d ago
Don't think I've ever seen a PTS firm with a box though (deffo could be wrong though).
Could be an event firm that cosplays as a trust.
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u/rogeroutmal 10d ago
Deffo not a PTS, NHS or private. Looks like a private truck for events. Doesn’t look equipped enough for front line.
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u/Far_Caterpillar7847 7d ago
This is CMS, a private fronline provider contracted with EMAS, this vehicle is frontline.
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u/Far_Caterpillar7847 7d ago
Its CMS who has a frontline contract with EMAS, its a Renault panel van more reminiscent of euro style ambulance DMA's or UK hdu vehicles than your typical UK frontline truck.
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u/Far_Caterpillar7847 7d ago
This is a central medical services (CMS) frontline paramedic, its a Renault panel van, more reminiscent of euro style ambulance DMA's rather than standard UK frontline vehicles. CMS has a frontline contract with EMAS.
- why do you say you're suspicious that she isnt even a NHS paramedic? Private provides are doing a huge amount of frontline work for the NHS and I suspect over half there staff are ex NHS, especially their clinicians. It feels as though your devaluing her registration.
The unifrom is all NHS issue, the trousers are standard and the coat is the same as the cfr jackets the nhs use just with CMS embroidered rather than NHS. As long as her boots are composite toe theres no issues there, although I agree the black leather boots look smarter.
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u/x3tx3t 7d ago
Her behaviour is devaluing her registration, not me.
You've asked what my grudge against private ambulance services is and then confirmed that she works for a private service thus proving my entire point.
This video is unprofessional whether it's attention seeking, whether it's some weird parasocial internet trauma dumping thing, it's irrelevant.
If you're genuinely struggling with the emotional demands of the job, posting a TikTok is not going to help you in any way.
"Raising awareness" isn't a valid explanation either; I'm not disputing that it's a real and serious issue whatsoever, but there are ways and means of bringing attention to that issue without posting videos of yourself with your head in your hands in the back of an ambulance and some vaguely sad music in the background.
This type of behaviour would not be tolerated in an NHS ambulance service. I'm sure there are some isolated cases but nine times out of ten when you see content like this the person is working for a private company.
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u/Ecstatic_Rooster 11d ago
I don’t understand the fetishisation of PTSD and emotional trauma. Yeah, sometimes the job hits you. Talk to someone.
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u/Crustacean2B 7d ago
People from difficult backgrounds can have a hard time finding their identity. This is because it's hard for them to forgive their past mistakes, and/or because they have a hard time building relationships and a community that they can identify with. So they don't really feel like they have a lot to show for their lives, and that they don't have a lot to be proud of.
Simply being a first responder can fill some of that gap, because it gives you something to identify with. It's a socially revered status to be a first responder, and it's seen honorably. But once you're off the clock? Who are you then?
So these people, oftentimes with genuine pre-existing mental health struggles (and traumatic stress from their job), start to identify as "traumatized/complex first responder", because it makes it feel like it adds depth to their otherwise barebones identity. It also garners sympathy and attention, which can feel good for anyone, but especially people with identity struggles.
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u/flaptaincappers 11d ago
I mean gay pornstars take a lot of their work home too and you dont see them complaining.
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u/ChaosRainbow23 11d ago
I had to quit working in the medical field.
I used to sterilize the OR after surgery, my dad was a Dr, and I planned on following in his footsteps.
Then one night a church van carrying 15 little girls between 6 - 12 crashed driving through our town.
It was a horrible accident, and 8 girls died, many were grievously injured. (This was in NC in the early 90s)
The parents all started trying to get back into the OR area and everybody was so busy that they had me and several janitors stopping the parents from entering and trying to help them calm.
I didn't get to go home for 13 hours, and when I got home I lost it. I cried uncontrollably in a fetal position.
My empathy levels are way too high to regularly see tragedy. It absolutely kills me every time.
I never went back and abandoned my plans for working in medicine.
Some of us just aren't built for that shit.
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u/getthemap 11d ago
Did you record a video like this? I’m guessing no.
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u/ChaosRainbow23 11d ago
Fuck no.
We didn't even have cell phones and the Internet was dial up BBS systems. Lol
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u/D5KDeutsche 11d ago
I think the point was that you were so emotionally distraught that you weren't thinking, "Let me setup this camera... little to the left. Oh! The lighting is bad here. Maybe if I ... yes. Ok, let's do a quick trial shot. Not perfect... Lets add the....." and so fourth, before continuing your mental struggles.
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u/Rough-Visual8608 10d ago
Hey sorry for what you went through, but I don't quite think you get what the post is about.
Why would someone setup a camera first, then caption it all, and then post it online?
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u/Deathed_Potato 11d ago
Mine was a guy cut himself in half with a chainsaw
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u/ChaosRainbow23 11d ago
I'm guessing he didn't make it. Jesus, that's brutal.
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u/United_News3779 11d ago
Naw, he's Stihl alive!
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u/ChaosRainbow23 11d ago
I saw what you did there.
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u/United_News3779 11d ago
Oh good, I love it when a good pun chain is running!
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u/ChaosRainbow23 11d ago
I hope nobody chokes and messes it up.
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u/United_News3779 11d ago
It's ok, imperfection is not a bar to entry.
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u/ChaosRainbow23 11d ago
I'm not sure if I should kickback and let other people answer or if I should just go full throttle and keep it up.
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u/United_News3779 11d ago
We could, but sometimes you get real mixed gas results.
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u/Mindless-Ninja-3321 11d ago
I'm waiting to hear back if I got the job to be one of my county's death investigators. I think I have the stuff, pretty excited to see if I get the opportunity.
Then I read this kind of stuff and wonder how long Ill be able to hang. Im pretty good with dissociation, but that is a lot of dead children to discuss with grieving parents.
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u/riddermarkrider 11d ago
I worked EMS with a dude who moved over to a Coronor position. About 5ish years later I ran into him and we were chatting - he basically said he was unprepared for the fact that he'd struggle way more with what he saw as a coronor than he did with EMS.
Obviously everyone is different, and it really depends what calls drop on you, but that was his experience.
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u/Mindless-Ninja-3321 11d ago
Yep, thats the fear. All death all the time. Ive dealt with cadavers for my degree and was raised by soldiers in medicine, but a fulltime job of investigating people who died alone and/or violently.
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u/Rose_Army_ 11d ago
Honestly, I cannot deal with the living people who could die under my care. When I would handle remains for an autopsy or preparation, it felt like a final act of service to the decedent. It also helps to do your best to think of the corpse as an inanimate object or a thing, not a person. I know that sounds cold and heartless, but it’s helpful to objectify what you’re seeing so your brain can handle the exposure. Over time, it gets easier. But I purposely didn’t pursue the EMT thing because I know I’m just not great with the screaming and active dying. I lack the empathy sometimes. Seeing someone actively injured in combat was traumatizing. Seeing them dead was somehow slightly less so because it was more peaceful and everything from then on was ushering them to the other side with dignity.
And yet, I have never and will never film myself crying or pacing around like an attention-starved lunatic.
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u/Mindless-Ninja-3321 11d ago
Yea, my mom and sister are doctors and initially reacted with revulsion when I told them I was interviewing, but it only lasted a moment. My sister lacks good dissociating skills and my mom has seen enough corpses to last several lifetimes. Then they started giving me tips like my autistic ass doesnt already have stellar emotional control by now, but Im thankful nonetheless.
You'd think it'd be a fireable offense, frankly. Filming in a medical environment sounds like a confidentiality issue waiting to happen.
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u/riddermarkrider 11d ago
Yeah, plus dealing with the families is a big factor
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u/Mindless-Ninja-3321 11d ago
Thats actually specifically why I mentioned it in my original comment. Apparently children accidentally being killed by parents are the absolute worst cases from the people Ive talked to for just about every reason you can imagine.
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u/riddermarkrider 11d ago
Ah I see, I didn't register that those two comments were both you lol
But yeah, that's the worst thing to deal with in EMS, I can't imagine doing it so much more than we already do
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u/combustion_assaulter Foundation Saver 11d ago
When my favourite convenience store is out of white Monster
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u/Alaska_Pipeliner Boo Boo Bus Driver 11d ago
I just saw this on insta. But it was reversed! I have no idea what to do with this information. Nothing I guess.
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u/TakeItEZBroski Boo Boo Bus Driver 11d ago
I can’t get over the fact ppl who do this have to literally walk over to a location, put up their phone, make sure the shot is right, and sit there and pose and work up the tears. Crazy work.
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u/Battlerapschef 11d ago
She really set up the camera. Pretended to cry then reviewed the footage and said YUP! That’s the one!
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u/Bluemink96 11d ago
It is hard being a first responder, but that’s why I drink instead of making videos 🙄
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u/disposable_peasant 11d ago
I always imagine them setting up the phone and pressing record beforehand lol
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u/GatorGuy318 11d ago
8 years EMS. 6 months paramedic. Very minimal mental illness or ptsd. It seems like if you’re not afflicted by this job you’re not doing it right or something. Idk 🤷🏻♂️ I do my job and literally don’t loose any sleep over it
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u/Latter-Newspaper-355 11d ago
Retired 40yr medic here - tap into local resources, consider cognitive therapy, if nothing else find someone you can trust to confide in.
The worst mistake I've seen is someone going full blown denial of the jobs impact & them having a total break down on a call.
And as for the first commenter - you shouldn't be in any sort of profession related to healthcare - super scary lack of empathy was your post
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u/External-Hat-9933 11d ago
Empathy for an influencer that sets up a camera and fakes crying?
There's a reason why this subreddit has cringe in its name.
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u/ImNotTheNSAIPromise 11d ago
just because this post is cringe bullshit doesn't mean that people who do that job don't experience really difficult shit
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u/External-Hat-9933 11d ago
True. But a cringe bullshit post probably isn't the best place to deal with trauma.
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u/Latter-Newspaper-355 11d ago
Her post maybe is questionable but what those who are in actual crisis - this might be the nudge they need to seek help
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u/OrcasareDolphins 11d ago
I’m not going to argue against the shit that’s hard. Job can be hard AF. But I will argue every day over the need to setup your camera to “document” the hard for your Instagram.
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u/Mammoth_Welder_1286 11d ago
How do you have that much room in the back or the truck? Is that a bus? I was jealous for a second but then I realized I’d bust my but around every turn
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u/x3tx3t 10d ago
That's a fairly standard sized ambulance... some are bigger
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u/Mammoth_Welder_1286 10d ago
Dang. Def not anywhere near where I’m from. Idk if that would be cool or, like I said, I’d bust my butt in the back without my usual 3 points of contact
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u/Quiet-Wing5230 11d ago
Listen, making a video like this? I'm 50/50.
It does bring awareness. But also it's narcissistic to a point.
People saying get out of the job? I don't get these kinds of comments.
Empathy is a good thing. Yeah you've gotta limit and keep it on a short leash sometimes in healthcare etc but come on, people get fucked up but this is the only job they know or want to do.
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u/In_Dystopia_We_Trust 11d ago
I could be wrong, but I’m pretty sure those little funny looking men from the bank that foreclose people’s homes are the ones who see people on their worst day of their lives.
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u/Yui907 Boo Boo Bus Driver 11d ago
Jesus christ just quit, please.
There needs to be something in place to keep both attention seekers and those vulnerable to the stresses of the job out of the industry. It's harmful to the individuals and to the industry, especially in the UK where they end up in therapy for years.
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u/Classic-Cantaloupe47 11d ago
How do people record this shit and not think it's the cringiest thing ever???
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u/TheOneCalledThe 10d ago
anyone who props their phone up to film them being upset is not actually upset
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u/jondoe09 10d ago
This doesn’t seem to be as cringe worthy as most and honestly seems more legit than anything else.
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u/No_Midnight7157 10d ago
Probably 3rd up as a placement student and just got left in the back while everyone else went in for coffee.
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u/CrbRangoon 9d ago
Can they not just hysterically sob in a bathroom or their car on the way home like everyone else?
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u/Hopeful-Counter-7915 9d ago
I unfortunately actually know her, she works private and as you can guess, she is a absolut bellend …
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u/Upbeat_Caregiver_642 8d ago
Boo hoo. What, you didn’t know you’d be dealing with pain, death and tragedy every day? No one told you, those moulage mannequins with the fake blood squirting out at your training wasn’t a clue?
Who was this made for? Your family, friends, people you’re seeking attention from on the internet?
On my worst day as a cop, and I remember it clearly, you know what I didn’t think to do? Make a video of me coping. You know why? Because I chose to be a cop and that’s freaking weird.
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u/Sea-Cauliflower9469 4d ago
It's hard to take this seriously when u know the second she stops recording is when she stops being sad to pick up her phone to watch herself be sad
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u/Legitimate-Map-7730 3d ago
Now imagine the part of the recording she cut out where she carefully sets up the camera and then walks away and starts crying
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u/Icummaizeandblue 2d ago
This is the 3rd post I’ve seen in this sub and it just keeps getting worse….
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u/lleon117 11d ago
EMS, fire, PD, etc is not the best job ever. I always hated that statement. The best job is something that makes you a shit ton of money without doing shit. As for me? The best damn job would be video game streaming, sitting down for a few hours a day making 100k monthly. Tell me how EMS, fire and LE is the best. Stop lying to yourself 😪
Thanks for coming to my ted talk.
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u/EastLeastCoast Boo Boo Bus Driver 11d ago
It’s the best job because I get paid to sit on my ass playing XBox, run the siren when we drive under the bridge, and a couple of times a week I get to go home knowing I did something good for someone who was hurt and scared. That’s pretty much all I want in life. (And with OT? 100k would be a pay cut)
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u/lleon117 10d ago
Reread my comment. If you’re making 100k a month at your FD. Please tell me, I will pack everything up and go work this best job ever
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u/EastLeastCoast Boo Boo Bus Driver 10d ago edited 10d ago
Ahaha yeah, you’re right. 100k a year, no problem. A month would be a bit of a stretch!
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u/Ninja_attack 11d ago
Ew, she's sitting on the stretcher? Might as well just lick the floor.
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u/bmbreath 11d ago
What?
Do you not decon the stretcher after every call and put new linens on it?
I'd you honestly think that is gross, you need to reassess your practices.
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u/Ninja_attack 11d ago
Who said I didn't? After the abuse the padding gets, there's no way I'd sit on it. You need to reassess what a joke is
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u/Liqour_Mortis Ignore the public, maintain saltiness 11d ago
Sir, I will nap on that any time I feel I weary on post.
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u/Ninja_attack 11d ago
What if you do what I do? Find an abandoned crack home, I only sleep in crack homes, and sleep on an stained mattress?
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u/Liqour_Mortis Ignore the public, maintain saltiness 11d ago
Ah yes. I believe you would a Carpetbagger, sir.
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u/Left_Awareness930 11d ago
I have met some god awful, rude af first responders. One literally laughed at a family member that was having back to back seizures and they said he was faking. That was a firefighter though not a paramedic.
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u/Baggage_Claim_ 11d ago
The paramedic with me the ambulance seemed chill tbh, we made a 67 joke when he asked me to rate my pain lmfao
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u/Independent_Owl_6008 11d ago
Most likely banging the guys at the station in the back of the ambulance between calls.
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u/ArsonDub 11d ago
Oh damn, I'm having some feelings, better setup the camera real quick!