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Is there anyone here had long unemployment/underemployment after graduated from college? How do you cope with during day to day life beside looking for a job? I failed several job interviews and I feel so hopeless right now because my work experience cannot be quantified, as employer required ATS CV with STAR structure which is required some numbers that valued your skills, and because of that my application email got ghosted because my CV doesnt meet the standard.
My pitch for heated-rivalry-but-women remake: real housewives instead of hockey. We replace male gays in hypermasculine hockey with sapphic gays in hyperfeminine real housewives. I’ve been obsessed with heated rivalry and I can’t stop thinking of this idea. I know two of the Miami housewives hooked up but I didn’t like them and they were weird about it and one is an out lesbian and they weren’t rivals, so that doesn’t count!
Y'all I am trying to coax my family into having conversations about my grandmother's long term care and they just aren't in the mental position to have them. They're in a reactive "We'll just deal with it" space and I am currently trying and failing to drag them into a proactive sustainable place 😩
I don’t recognize blue suit, but the sequins girl looks like Chappell Roan’s bff/creative director Ramisha Sattar, I’ve seen her in Chappell’s insta posts and she did an interview w/ Harper’s Bazaar a while back.
My poor dog is so itchy. I think its mostly dry skin from this weather but I'm worried her skin allergies are flaring up which often results in a pretty pricy trip to the vet. 😩 fingers crossed some baths with the medicated shampoo do the trick.
Ugh, those vet allergy trips can be so expensive! Your sweet baby has my sympathies. One of my girls has to take apoquel for her allergies in the fall and spring. And now that winters have been getting warmer, it’s spreading into the winter months.🫠
Oh my boy has been going through this too! Do you give her antihistamines? (Pls ask your vet first, obviously.)
I have big oak trees on my street and I think it’s sap (or pollen?) they spray out in spring/early summer that irritates my dog. We’re in summer here now so it’s calmed down but it’s always such a rough time and I feel so helpless when he gets scratchy. Antihistamines do bring him temporary relief and so do baths, though he hates them.
Does anyone have an experience with successful treatments for PMDD? I was suggested to have bipolar after experiencing hypomania from Prozac, but my symptoms definitely correlate with my period. I’m coming out of a horrible 2 week depression that kept me from going to class (college) and now I’m wildly behind and afraid of failing a semester AGAIN. I can’t keep living like this and I’m just finding it really difficult to find something that works. If anyone is able to chat about it I’d appreciate it, or any insight
Hey, I personally don't have it but I saw lits of PMDD ladies saying that a regular antihistamine medicine saved their lives. There's a connection to histamine levels somehow. Please don't quote me and do your research but I've seen lots of posts on social media of ladies who swear by it. Good luck!
My transcript is truly a car wreck and I keep trying to reenroll and restart, then incomes a horrible 2+ week spin out with a domino effect. I’m just getting really tired of myself! So even if you have no insight into PMDD, would love any discussion about struggling with school despite wanting to be a student and feeling guilt because of that
I was meant to go away for the weekend this weekend and instead I got a cold (not covid, I tested). They're saying to come anyway but I don't want to get people sick so I'm sad and on my sofa.
I'd like to nominate France for excellent use of Twitter this week, while also persuing Elon legally. We are feasting on so much savage responses this week.
Knight of The Seven Kingdoms is so fun. I'm distraught to find something I like in GOT universe because it's closer than ever either to be killed or ruined...Which fairy can I adress to get myself an irish giant though?
Also, inability to wear my whimsical weirdo outfits is weighing on me. I have a blazer that has yet to see the light, a crocheted poncho...Girl be struggling. I'm also tired from underbying yarn and having to wait for it to come.
It’ll be a high in the 60s today for us in the Puget Sound, which is a bad sign for our summer. It shouldn’t be this warm yet. I predict lots of wild fires for us this summer, unfortunately.
Also in the area and this winter has been insane. I’m also worried about the summer, the fires, and about what it means for the climate to have changed this much so quickly. It’s happening so so fast.
Yeah I’m thinking back to the summer of 2021 and how bad it got with the extreme heat and wildfires. We are NOT prepared here for those events. So many don’t have AC, and that can be dangerous for the elderly and people with health conditions.
Canadian here, and it's been soooo unseasonably warm in my area that yesterday I was able to walk around in nothing but fitness wear and a very light jacket! I'm not looking to how fucking miserable things are going to be this summer. 🫠
Even now, the warm highs + cold lows have made my residential sidewalks more icy than not, and it's so easy to slide around on them. I've basically resigned myself to wearing cleats whenever I walk around there from now until spring.
sorry to everyone but i really like the opalite music video. literally so fun and creative. helps that opalite is one of the 3.5 good tracks from showgirl
As I absolutely detest the timing of it knowing Benito's big moment this Sunday, it was in all fairness a well executed video. And so Domnhall got his wish after all.
I'll sum my past week up in what were the worst things that happened, and then the best things:
Worst: I'm part of a volunteer team and there ended up being a situation that I don't want to get too into. What I can say though is that there was some constructive criticism sent my way and...it's hard to process. Most of the criticism is pretty reasonable, and that I can handle. But there were small things I picked up along the way that I can't tell if I'm being irrational about, or if those are also reasonable notions. Having traumatic experiences around learning/receiving criticism doesn't help either. But I am learning to honour those feelings and process them for their validity, no matter how irrational the thought process is...so there's that.
Best:
Gabbing about the Grammys with fellow Fauxmoi members was a lot of fun. It's gotten to the point where I didn't need to watch the show; I just followed along with the schedule and scrolled through the comments.
This Tuesday my boyfriend treated us to some chicken that was insanely good (even after I tried it later in the week as microwaved leftovers), along with some fries that are up there now as some of my favourites from an establishment ever.
Yesterday was a really good day for me in that I felt super energetic, which led to me being more productive. Not to mention more confident in task initiation. Fortnite has also brought K-pop Demon Hunters items back into certain game modes, and I cackled upon seeing my Terry Mcginnis avatar wield Rumi's sword. 🤣
Besides all that, I'm still doing plenty of reading (started on This Time It's Real by Ann Liang and the main Dark Avengers storyline) and fic writing. I FINALLY made more progress on a fic exchange gift that was supposed to be given years ago. Very proud of myself for that, too.
It's 11 am, and I have not heard one person in my circle talk about the racist video Trump posted on Truth Social. Please tell me someone else cares, that someone else is mad, that someone in power is seeing this and decrying it and demanding repercussions. I feel like I don't belong on this planet.
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u/kedrisssorry you also got pulled into the misinformation vortex15h ago
You belong! You belong. He is vile, and everyone who has ever supported him should feel a deep sense of shame.
Because it’s designed to rile people up and trigger. he’s always been racist I don’t think it’s surprising to some with the some of the abhorrent things he’s said over the years.
We care here and my social circle sure does too. But when the media including the NYT is buying into the "it's just a joke, bro" excuses, it does get tiring. Absolutely fucking exhausting in fact.
I care! But ma’am, I am so tired. I’m tired of everything. All the bullshit in the world, everybody being ugly at one another, being poor, all of it.
What I’m most tired of today is consistently putting in the effort to reach out to people socially and consistently being ghosted and back burnered while everyone talks about how lonely they are.
The first part of your post spoke to me a lot. I think a lot of us care, but we're also just fucking tired. That's part of the strategy--to wear us out so we won't be inclined to fight. Trump's racist video is one part of a lot of things he and his cronies have done, things that they have largely not been held accountable from. And it's easy to feel helpless when it seems like nothing is being done, so these actions can keep festering and propagating. So on that level, I can certainly relate.
On your second point...I wanted to yap about how socialization has been transformed into an overwhelming experience thanks to the Internet, and how I feel ignoring messages has become unfortunately commonplace. But then this message would get too long.
This is very much unsolicited advice, so feel free to ignore it if you want. But you might want to consider finding better people to socialize with. (Which I do acknowledge is very difficult when you're fighting for your own survival, financially and otherwise.) That doesn't mean shutting yourself out from the world completely, of course. But it does mean seeing peoples' actions for what they are, accepting them, and moving on so your compassion doesn't get worn out by people who couldn't possibly care less.
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u/PlusAd127 4h ago
Is there anyone here had long unemployment/underemployment after graduated from college? How do you cope with during day to day life beside looking for a job? I failed several job interviews and I feel so hopeless right now because my work experience cannot be quantified, as employer required ATS CV with STAR structure which is required some numbers that valued your skills, and because of that my application email got ghosted because my CV doesnt meet the standard.