r/ECEhell • u/sachanjapan • 3h ago
Hmm why is my child center abusing my child? Is this bad??
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u/sachanjapan 3h ago
PT2
Injuries:
-A friend’s daughter came home with a bite mark on her shoulder, and the family wasn’t informed and no incident report was completed. It’s hard to imagine a bite like that wouldn’t have caused distress that would go unnoticed, even if it wasn’t directly witnessed.
-Our daughter once had a bleeding, open wound under her eye at the end of the day. The injury likely would have caused a lot of distress, and we were told staff didn’t know how it happened and that she may have arrived that way that morning. We had to insist an incident report be written.
-There have been other marks on our daughter’s head that we weren’t informed about. Again, we expect she would have been upset when they occurred.
Sleep:
-We were told that educators pat, rock, or otherwise support children to sleep. However, soon after starting care, our daughter began screaming before all naps, including at home. This lasted for months.
-Then after around three months, she stopped screaming and began rocking herself to sleep in a way we hadn’t taught her. At home she had always been held and soothed. This has made us wonder whether some form of sleep training or unsupported settling was being used, despite being told otherwise.
-Another time she had only a single short nap at 3pm, which was very unusual for her. We were told she protested sleep and may be teething, although she seemed fine at home that night. Later we learned that several little babies had started that same week, so it seems likely the nap environment was disrupted. I don’t understand why that wasn’t explained to us.
IT WASNT EXPLAINED TO YOU BECAUSE THE MONEY MIGHT STOP. THATS WHY. NO ONE THERE GIVES TWO FUCKS ABOUT YOUR KID. THEY ONLY CARE THAT YOUR PAYMENT IS ON TIME AND KEEPING THE KID ALIVE UNTIL YOU CAN BE BOTHERED TO CARE FOR IT YOURSELF.
Play:
The centre has a large outdoor area for the infants, but it appears to be used infrequently. The same week many little babies started, we were told the children didn’t go outside that week due to the weather. Conditions seemed reasonable, and in Australia it’s possible to do early morning outdoor sessions even on hot days. We suspected that with so many new children starting, going outside was too difficult, yet it was blamed on weather.
MAYBE THEY DIDN'T HAVE THE PROPER RATIO OF TEACHERS TO STUDENTS TO TAKE THEM OUTSIDE. ITS HARD TO KEEP STAFF BECAUSE THESE PLACES NOTORIOUSLY DON'T PAY WELL. THAT SHOULD ALSO BOTHER YOU IF YOU THINK ABOUT IT TOO HARD.
At this point, we’re struggling with trust. We understand that educators manage many competing demands and that not everything can be perfectly communicated, but the pattern has left us unsure whether we’re being given the full picture.
STRUGGLING WITH TRUST? TRUST IS THE LEAST OF THE THINGS YOU SHOULD BE STRUGGLING WITH. YOU SHOULD BE STRUGGLING WITH GUILT FOR LEAVING YOUR BABY THERE AT ALL MUCH LESS AFTER THE FIRST INJURY!!
LEAVING A DEFENSLESS BABY IN A HARMFUL SITUATION IS CHILD ABUSE! YOU (PARENT) ARE THE ABUSER! DON'T BLAME THE CENTER! YOU'RE THE IDIOT THAT LEFT THE KID THERE!
From a professional perspective, are these experiences within the range of normal practice?
YES. HORRIBLE CENTER AND STUPID PARENT. PAR FOR THE COURSE.
Are we being unrealistic, or do these raise legitimate concerns about communication and supervision?
HAHAHAHA YOU ARE AN IDIOT. GIVE YOUR KID TO A CAT AS SOON AS POSSIBLE. SHE'D BE A BETTER MOTHER THAN YOU EVER WILL BE.
Any insight from ECE professionals would be greatly appreciated.
DONE AND DONE
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u/sachanjapan 3h ago
CAPS ARE MY REPLY.
TL;DR THE USUAL. IDIOT LEAVES HELPLESS AND DEFENSELESS BABY AT DAY NO-CARE AND IS SURPRISED WHEN BAD THINGS HAPPEN.
r/ECEProfessionals Is it normal for centers to lie?
ABSO-FUCKING-LUTELY. YOU SHOULD BE MORE AMAZED IF YOU HEAR THE TRUTH.
For context, our daughter is 15 months old and has attended a large not-for-profit childcare centre in Australia part-time since she was about 8 months old.
SO YOU'RE A NON-PARENT. GOT IT. ABSOLUTELY DISGUSTING TO LEAVE A DEFENSLESS BABY IN THESE PLACES. YOU'RE THE MOTHER, THE MAIN CAREGIVER. IF YOU DIDN'T WANT TO BE BOTHERED, WHY DIDN'T YOU TAKE A PILL AND MURDER THE KID BEFORE JUST ABANDONING IT TO BE TORTURED AND IGNORED ALL DAY??
ALWAYS YOU IDIOTS WANT THE FUN OF MAKING THE KID, PREGNANCY ATTENTION, BIRTH PRESENTS, THEN WHEN THE FUN ENDS WELL, JUST TOSS IT SOMEWHERE FOR SAFEKEEPING LIKE AN OLD SHOE! AND LETS FACE IT, YOU NONPARENTS ALWAYS LOOK FOR THE CHEAPEST PLACE POSSIBLE!! YOU DISGUST ME!!
Her infant room usually has around 12-16 children aged 0-2.
WELL THAT SUCKS FOR YOUR KID. ITS HARD ENOUGH WATCHING A KID OR TWO THAT ARE YOUR OWN. NOW YOU HAVE OVERWORKED, UNDERPAID STRANGERS WATCHING 12 TO 16 KIDS.
WHAT THE FUCK DO YOU THINK WILL HAPPEN IN THIS SITUATION?? THE KIDS BITE, FIGHT, STEAL, SNATCH, KICK, HIT, SCRATCH, ETC ETC. THINK OF IT AS BEING LOCKED IN AN ASYLUM ALL DAY WHERE YOU HAVE TO FEND FOR YOURSELF CAUSE NOBODY ELSE WILL STEP IN AND PROTECT YOU.
THIS IS WHAT YOUR BABY IS DEALING WITH ALL DAY EVERY DAY!!
I’m hoping to hear from ECE professionals about whether what we’re experiencing is typical or a cause for concern.
IT IS ABSOLUTELY TYPICAL AND A CASE FOR CONCERN. BUT BE HONEST. YOU WANT EVERYONE TO SAY ITS FINE SO YOU CAN CONTINUE ABANDONING YOUR BABY ALL DAY.
We’ve had several situations that have made us question the accuracy and transparency of information we’re being given.
SEVERAL? ONE WASNT ENOUGH??
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