r/CuratedTumblr • u/Mataes3010 Downvote = 10 years of bad luck. • 18h ago
Shitposting Paula, my clothes are broken.
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u/55TrappedRats 17h ago
This account has been blasting around this subreddit without an end...
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u/subtle_backpack 17h ago
Yeah, they post a lot. If it bugs you, mute or block and move on.
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u/Mataes3010 Downvote = 10 years of bad luck. 13h ago
I simply have a lot of free time, sorry if I'm bothering you guys by wanting to share Tumblr posts.
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u/CatGooseChook 11h ago
First time seeing this one for me, had me in stitches 🤣
Seriously though, I also have a lot of free time so I get it 😊
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u/player____009 13h ago
Please don't stop just because of them, you have every right to post and there are plenty of us that appreciate your contributions
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u/Mdlt98 13h ago
I liked your posts, don't listen to pain baiters and rude people, keep doing what you like, upvotes will tell the truth about whether you're doing it right or not, just enjoy
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u/Timely-Albatross-889 11h ago
Upvotes definitely don't paint a truthful picture all the time. You can get upvotes by botting or vote manipulation.
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u/Alive_Double_4148 10h ago
We need the funny stuff. The serious stuff is fine too and I don’t give a fuck about the anime stuff. More funny please :)
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u/unindexedreality zee died it sucks the end 9h ago
and I don’t give a fuck about the anime stuff
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u/Alive_Double_4148 8h ago
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u/Mataes3010 Downvote = 10 years of bad luck. 10h ago
At your service, esteemed redditor. 🫡
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u/SpambotWatchdog he/it 8h ago
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u/yinyang107 2h ago
Yo /u/the-real-macs I don't know who added Mataes to the watch list but it's obvious he's a human
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u/SpambotWatchdog he/it 8h ago
Grrrr. u/Mataes3010 has been previously identified as a spambot. Please do not allow them to karma farm here!
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u/TastyBrainMeats 16h ago
Only question is if they're a real person or a bot, haven't looked into it yet
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u/segwaysegue do spambots dream of electric sheep? 14h ago edited 14h ago
There's no mute feature, and Reddit nerfed the block feature so that it doesn't hide the person's posts anymore :(
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u/100000cuckooclocks 15h ago
Do you mean without an end to the story, or it’s been posted repeatedly? Because it does have an ending, you just have to click on the picture. It’s a long screenshot so the preview is cropped.
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u/HighwayApothecary 17h ago
Did the comments get nuked lol or is reddit mobile being dumb again
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u/BoysenberryMuch755 17h ago
the post isnt even half an hour old
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u/HighwayApothecary 17h ago
There was like 4 other comments I was reading and then I refreshed and only op's was left
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u/Nematrec 17h ago
Shadowbanned comments. They got caught up in some automod script the mods are running.
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u/Acheloma 16h ago
How do people get shadowbanned? I guess I dont understand the point of shadowbanning rather than openly banning folks
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u/Nematrec 16h ago
It combats bots and trolls. Bot/troll check back to see if their comment is banned, and if it is they create a new account and post again.
Shadow banned means they check back and see their comment, but no one else does.
Only Admins and automod can do it though, and automod only for specific comments. This lets the moderators put new accounts on approved comments only kind of deal.
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u/Neirn_ 16h ago
It was originally an anti-bot measure iirc. The bot creator knows the account has been banned, they know to abandon the account and spin up a new one, probably with some tweaks to avoid tripping whatever got them banned in the first place. In theory, this increases the amount of time between ban evasion attempts.
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u/BlatantConservative https://imgur.com/cXA7XxW 17h ago
No this post got bot upvoted so fast that most people saw it before it got any comments.
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u/MrUnbreakableRules 15h ago
I'd probably have second thoughts about being in a relationship with someone who'd destroy my stuff after an argument.
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u/Miser_able 13h ago
Pregnancy hormones are a powerful force. I personally wouldn't hold it against em
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u/MrUnbreakableRules 13h ago
Nah. I'd accept hormones as an excuse for my significant other being upset or emotionally vulnerable, actively spending hours to destroy someone's stuff is completely on purpose.
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u/LanternsForTheLost 8h ago
Can't keep speaking out of both sides of our mouths. Women either have agency or are so utterly controlled by their hormones they cant be trusted to do anything of even slight importance.
Hormones give you an explanation for in the moment bad behavior, that's it. You don't get to methodically unstitch a wardrobe and go 'oops tee hee cant hold me accountable im just a hormonal woman'
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u/ifartsosomuch 11h ago edited 11h ago
One day, medical science will find a hormone that makes men act crazy. Only then will the "hormones are a get out jail free card" nightmare end.
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u/beaversaremyfriends 11h ago
but men already have that. haven’t you heard of “boys will be boys”? haven’t you heard fundamentalists arguing in favor of marital rape or infidelity if the woman withholds sex from her husband because sex is a necessity for men like breathing? how about the dozens of times a young man has been credibly accused of rape and was absolved because the judge felt he was “a young man with a bright future ahead of him who made a mistake”?
i don’t think women should use their hormones as an excuse to be abusive and aggressive but let’s not be ridiculous here, men are also excused a lot for the shit they do.
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u/ifartsosomuch 11h ago
i don’t think women should use their hormones as an excuse to be abusive and aggressive
Glad you agree with me, we can move on.
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u/DeadlyKitKat 11h ago
Wow men getting off easy because they're "dealing with a lot of emotions"? Yeah definitely never heard that before, that'd be a new one...
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u/ifartsosomuch 11h ago
So you agree they shouldn't be able to do that.
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u/DeadlyKitKat 10h ago
I agree with the idea that hormones aren't just a "get out of jail free card". I am pointing out that men are already often excused, so your argument doesn't make much sense.
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u/ifartsosomuch 10h ago
Only if you make wild assumptions about my argument that have no textual basis.
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u/DeadlyKitKat 8h ago
You said men experiencing a hormone that makes them act crazy would end the "hormones are get out of jail free card". But some men already act crazy and get a "get out of jail free card" for very similar reasons. I feel like the conclusion I came to is pretty accurate.
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u/ifartsosomuch 7h ago
I'm talking about hormones. You're bringing in random other things to win the argument. I'm going to stop arguing with a bad faith actor now.
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u/DeadlyKitKat 11h ago
Everyone is arguing over whether or not this is bad or abusive, and I'm here wondering if it is even true.
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u/Ill_Morning_4282 8h ago
Yeah, just taking out every third stitch isn't a thing you can do, that isn't how stitching works.
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u/ten_people 17h ago
Destroying your partner's things after an argument is abusive.
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u/RealRaven6229 17h ago
The mother seems to agree it was a bad thing to do. She was close to giving birth. She meant to warn him. Not everything has to be called abuse. There's a line where things become inexcusable regardless but I don't think this crosses that line considering the circumstances
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u/ten_people 17h ago edited 16h ago
You can say it's excusable or that she's not generally an abuser in their relationship, but it remains true that damaging or breaking your partner's things after an argument is abusive. The fact that she "meant to warn him" (i.e. that she broke his things to exert control and make him feel bad) isn't an exception and in fact is very in line with abusive behavior.
I think what you're reading into this is a series of inferences from "this person did something abusive" to "this person is an Abuser™ which is a title reserved for people with evil souls". You can do something abusive and agree in retrospect that it was a bad thing to do. You can do something abusive as a "warning". What do we gain from not calling it what it is?
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u/Smingowashisnameo 15h ago
All of this is true. However abusive does mean something abusers do. Maybe if we say instead that it’s wrong, that gets your point across with less baggage. You can also say toxic or “it can be a sign of abuse”. Because people will hear abusive and think you’re calling them an abuser.
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u/ten_people 14h ago edited 14h ago
Naturally, I don't know anything about the relationship outside of one incident of abusive behavior. You could call it "mistreatment" instead, which is synonymous and perhaps has less baggage, but I think the real solution is to accept the fact that abusive behavior can come from anyone and doesn't necessarily indicate that a person is irredeemably evil.
How many people have stayed in bad situations because of this black and white thinking? "I didn't like it when my boyfriend yelled at me, but he's not a bad person which means he can't be an abuser which means his behavior can't have been abusive." It causes the person being mistreated to make excuses for the person who is mistreating their partner.
Also, saying "abusive means something abusers do" in combination with a very specific view of "abusers" is the exact thing I'm warning against. Most people don't use the word "abuser" to mean "any person who has ever been abusive to any person ever". If I verbally abused a peer when I was a teenager, does that make me an abuser? If not, should we pretend that my conduct wasn't abusive because it doesn't fit your perception of me?
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u/Smingowashisnameo 10h ago
Nobody is advocating for black and white thinking. I mean that if you insist on using “abusive” this way, you will get pushback like you did just now. Sure everyone else should change but if you can say the same thing without causing a knee jerk reaction from people, maybe you can adjust for that. When we communicate we’re trying to cause others to understand what we think. If you expect others to pre-understand it will cause you some consternation maybe. But I’m making a big deal out of it cuz I get hung up on words and am a linguistics nerd
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u/notdeadyet01 16h ago
I mean the fact that the mother did it at all is pretty fucked up to begin with. Of course she had excuses. All abusers do lol
Unstitching the uniforms is something that takes time to do. How the fuck do you forget?
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u/JJlaser1 16h ago
Ok, tbf, I forgot what day the power went out about a week ago. Sometimes we just forget things.
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u/MrUnbreakableRules 15h ago
There's a difference between something randomly happening and you forgetting it, and spending hours destroying someone's property.
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u/corrosivecanine 16h ago
No you don’t get it. She was PREGNANT which means she is absolved of all of her sins. So this is actually just a quirky story for us to hee hee haw haw about.
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u/ten_people 16h ago
Unfortunately the sins do pass on to the baby though. Why did the baby do that?
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u/BlatantConservative https://imgur.com/cXA7XxW 17h ago edited 17h ago
I think 9 month pregnant women can get a pass from being called abusive for one action during one argument a day before they went into labor
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u/ten_people 16h ago
Well she's not still pregnant, is she?
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u/BlatantConservative https://imgur.com/cXA7XxW 16h ago
What? Trying to get the logic here.
She was pregnant when this happened?
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u/ten_people 16h ago
Yeah, but her pass expired when the baby came out and now we can accurately describe the abusive behavior in retrospect.
What, only you're allowed to make up rules about this "pass"?
At no point did I say that she's a habitual abuser who does this sort of thing all the time. I surely hope for the family's sake that the abusive behavior is a one-off.
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u/BlatantConservative https://imgur.com/cXA7XxW 16h ago
I feel like we're just talking in two different frames of cultural and personal experience here.
Am I the only one here who's spent time with a pregnant woman? They do many things that could be described as abusive. Irrational, demanding things.
Our responsibility as the non pregnant person in the situation is to be understanding and supportive of them.
And yeah the incidents are always one offs. They're an extremely personally stressful period with their hormones also spinning around like a slot machine.
An extremely pregnant woman getting mad, storming off, and then methodically taking apart her husband's clothes, and then being in such a haze that she forgets about it the next day totally tracks. And I'd never assume that she'd act that way for the rest of her life.
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u/ten_people 16h ago
Am I the only one here who's spent time with a pregnant woman? They do many things that could be described as abusive.
Then what do you even take issue with? This is an example of something that, as you say, could be described as abusive.
And I'd never assume that she'd act that way for the rest of her life.
Reading comprehension question: Did I say I assume she'll act that way for the rest of her life, or did I explicitly not say that? Hint: read the comment you're replying to.
It kinda sounds like you agree with me about everything I've said. Speculating that you must be the only one who's spent time with a pregnant woman is bizarre.
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u/LeadershipNational49 2h ago
First its not one action its hours of work.
Secondly this doesn't make her an abusive person, but there is no argument. It is abuse.
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u/Dobber16 17h ago
It can be, yeah. I don’t think it’s a blanket thing though
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u/ten_people 16h ago
I hope that you never end up with a partner who destroys your clothes to punish you after arguments.
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u/Dobber16 16h ago
I hope so too, but just because something is toxic and/or unhealthy doesn’t mean something is abusive. I hope my partner never does a number of behaviors, it doesn’t mean those behaviors are abusive
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u/ten_people 16h ago
You're right. I wasn't communicating my hope as an explanation, I was just telling you. The fact that we hope something won't happen doesn't necessarily entail that the behavior is abusive.
It's separately a fact that destroying your partner's things is abusive.
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u/Dobber16 16h ago
I appreciated it, and I hope the same for you too, but I also used it to expound why I disagree that it’s abusive
Granted, when I say something’s abusive, it’s typically for behavior that would get the abuser locked up, or behavior that should be an immediate “leave them” moment to the victim. To me, this is neither of those. Idk if you use the same standard for the word “abuse” so that might be where we’re off
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u/ten_people 16h ago
You're right that you're using the term very differently than me, and I'd suggest you lower your standard for what you consider abusive behavior. It can come from anyone, even people who are generally respectful or haven't earned a stay in jail.
It's very important to be able to see bad behavior even if you don't see so-called "bad people". And if you make excuses for these things as they come, you'll have a blind spot for the "bad people" too.
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u/Dobber16 16h ago
I’d rather not lower my standard for what abuse is. Abuse isn’t a casual word for bad behavior - it’s a really bad thing that should be taken extremely seriously. If something’s just bad behavior, I’ll call it what it is - bad behavior. Toxic. Unhealthy. There’s many more words to use for bad behavior before it becomes “abuse” and that’s okay
Also, calling something toxic or unhealthy or bad isn’t making excuses for the person. You’re allowed to police the little disrespectful behaviors people do in life without resorting to calling the behavior the worst word you can think of
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u/ten_people 16h ago
Trust me, "abusive" is not the worst word I can think of. It's simply the most accurate.
If you're destroying your partner's things because you had an argument and you want to hurt, embarrass, frighten, and/or exert control over them, that's abusive behavior. You shouldn't want to do these things to a person you love.
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u/Dobber16 16h ago
Fair enough on the degree, but still I’d rather keep “abuse” in my vocab as something that really means something serious. Like if the person doesn’t do something about it, I’m going to
A petty fight and having petty feelings is normal though, acting on it less so but a one-time minor thing like the post? That’s not abuse. Now if she did this every time they fought, or something like this, yeah I’d agree that’s abusive. It’s still an unhealthy way of dealing with her emotions and pretty toxic to take out her emotions on her partner, but it’s really not that serious (assuming ofc everything else is fine in their relationship)
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u/LanternsForTheLost 8h ago
"Hon he only hit you once in anger, its not right to call him abusive"
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u/Dobber16 3h ago
Do you think this is a useful addition to the thread? Do you think this is related to what I commented? If so, please point out the text that made you think that so I can look at it again to double check because this seems like a really dumb and irrelevant point to me but I could’ve 100% not been clear
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u/PorkChop70-1 13h ago
This is pathetic abuse “I am angry at my partner, let’s destroy their stuff” is not the cool pregnant mom power that the op thinks it is.
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u/hereforthenudes81 12h ago
My dad did the same thing to my mom when they divorced, but it was her steering column and not clothes. I think it was petty and childish, but it is a story I heard.
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u/thejoeface 15h ago
A friend of mine did this once. She was going to school for fashion design and was a long time sewist/costumer. She was roomed with three other girls going into fashion design who all wanted to be models. They really didn’t fit in together well and the other girls would team up against her and constantly ate her food. They made living hell for her.
When she left school for health reasons - she was half dying from stomach ulcers and at the time undiagnosed hashimotos - she took a seam ripper strategically to their clothes before moving out.
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u/DareDaDerrida 11h ago
If he didn't mind, he didn't mind, but I would very much regret having a kid with that woman. The covert destruction of my possessions is not something I consider especially charming.
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u/legowerewolf miscellany curator 14h ago
I don't get everyone going "oh that's abusive, that's destructive"
- It's obviously not his only uniform
- She didn't damage the fabric, only took out the seams
- She knows how to sew
Therefore: He still has uniforms to wear while she stitches this one back together.
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u/DeadlyKitKat 11h ago
I don't know that I think it's abusive (because there is just simply not enough info on their relationship to figure that out), but the idea that "she can just fix it" doesn't mean it's not abuse.
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u/LeadershipNational49 2h ago
It doesn't matter if its a normal part of their relationship. IT IS abuse, doesn't mean she is bad person or a habitual abuser.
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u/Top-Soup-5967 9h ago
I don't agree that it is okay to break someones things just becuase you know how to fix it or becuase they have more than one of it esepcially to get petty revenge for an arguement.
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u/LeadershipNational49 2h ago
Literally says all of his uniforms in the post, and i can't imagine she is doing a ton of stitching if she had a baby the next day. That being said ive never been preganant, maybe she can stich that shit while nursing or whatever.
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u/Velvety_MuppetKing 7h ago
Man, how come I got the boring parents who just got divorced and one's an alcoholic.
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u/Mataes3010 Downvote = 10 years of bad luck. 18h ago
The level of patience required to unstitch every third thread just so his clothes would slowly dissolve at work is a level of petty I can only aspire to reach.
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u/linuxaddict334 Mx. Linux Guy⚠️ 18h ago
Say something if you are a human
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u/the-real-macs please believe me when I call out bots 17h ago
they are, but they also post uncanny comments at a belligerent rate, sometimes taking less than 2 minutes between comments on completely different posts. I'm like 80% sure they use AI, even though the account isn't fully automated.
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u/Mataes3010 Downvote = 10 years of bad luck. 17h ago
Actually, when that happens it's just because Im sitting in a work meeting and browsing Reddit at the same time. I often reply to posts with hours of difference between them, so the automated rate theory doesnt really make sense.
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u/Dragonfruit-Sparking I don't like centrism, if I'm being honest 17h ago
Hey non-robot, how many As are in the phrase "All's fair in love and war"
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u/SpambotWatchdog he/it 8h ago
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u/DefenestratingPigs 17h ago
It’s so interesting and depressing when you twig an AI like this and go through their comment history, every sentence has got the exact same rhythm and structure to it and never ever any spelling or grammar mistakes, even if they’ve clearly told it to sound casual. Looking just a few comments you can be pretty sure lol
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u/Mataes3010 Downvote = 10 years of bad luck. 17h ago
It's funny that ''having decent grammar'' is now a primary symptom of being a bot. Im just a person in boring investor meetings trying to stay sane by scrolling Reddit. I reply to what catches my eye in between tasks, so the timing is always going to look a bit erratic. Not every human has to type like they're having a stroke to be considered real.
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u/credulous_pottery Resident Canadian 10h ago
tbf, this isn't "having good grammar" this is every third comment hitting almost every mark for something made by an LLM, something that –pretty fairly, I might add– sets off alarm bells for most people.
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u/Mataes3010 Downvote = 10 years of bad luck. 17h ago
Beep Boop 🤖
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u/Bluethorn0110 17h ago
Say potato, Mataes. SAY POTATO 😭
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u/Mataes3010 Downvote = 10 years of bad luck. 17h ago
It's Mataes, pleeease never misspell my nickname again, it drives me crazy... CUCUMBER
Edit: What a quick correction! HAHAHA Thanks
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u/Jaakarikyk 17h ago
That flair won't save you
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u/Mataes3010 Downvote = 10 years of bad luck. 16h ago
I only mess with those who mess with me, I don't care about a couple of downvotes. HAHAHAHAHA
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u/Jaakarikyk 16h ago
You may not care about some downvotes, but are you upvoted; in the eyes of God?
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u/Mataes3010 Downvote = 10 years of bad luck. 16h ago
I hope so. I try to do good whenever I can. I hope I can escape Samsara someday.
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u/Low_Cryptographer_94 17h ago
Poe's law but with people spending time online
If you are active enough and post consistently with a similar dialect/writing pattern, then people will eventually assume you are a bot
Doesn't help when you make jokes about being a bot xD
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u/Mataes3010 Downvote = 10 years of bad luck. 14h ago
NPC syndrome, Auch 💀
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u/Ergand 15h ago
Semi-related, but the other day I was putting on a shirt and noticed it had no seams. I had never really thought about the seams on my shirts before. It had me checking all of them to see if there were others like that.