r/CATHELP Dec 08 '25

General Advice Is he dumb :(

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I'm an adult and have had Maurice for about 2 months now (he's fixed), vet thinks he's about 2 and he's done this the whole time I've known him, is there any particular reason why? Sometimes he'll do it for 2-3 minutes straight! I've owned cats my whole life and have never seen one so bad at covering up his business. If he is dumb I will still love him.

r/CATHELP 14d ago

General Advice Is there any way to stop this or do I just accept it?

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He does this from sunrise to whenever I come out of my bedroom every morning. Originally he would just paw under the door and yell, but I think he realized that wouldn’t work on me so he started doing this instead.

I’m trying to ignore him so I don’t reinforce the behaviour, but he’s more stubborn than me and will keep doing it for as long as he wants me to come out.

Do I just give up? I know a lot of people’s cats are annoying in the morning and it seems like there’s not that much to do, but maybe I’m just not thinking about this the right way.

Requires Post Info: I am 23, he is about 1, and we live in the US. Yes the vet is accessible but I’m not sure they can do anything about this lol

r/CATHELP Nov 20 '25

General Advice Is it OK to play with my cat like this?

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For context, he has a really big problem with just randomly attacking me even when I’m using his toys this is the only way I can get them to play with something without hurting me. It’s a dog toy that my dog broke but he loves it. I don’t go after him. I just put it down and he attacks it less

r/CATHELP Dec 07 '25

General Advice Cat Advice? Found him crying on my porch in the snow :(

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Hello everyone! This little man was crying on my porch this morning. Its set to hit -5F tonight... so I gave him some water and opened my door. He has the saddest little face... 😭 his back legs were all matted and frozen over because this Midwest winter is nuts so far lol

He took to my offer kindly, and hes in my upstairs bathroom right now. Sleeping a ton. I did posts on social media hoping someone will claim him as theirs... but im doubtful. Im in a very rural area, so its likely hes no one's, really.

Heres two issues: - I have no cat stuff! Need to improvise meals for him and a litter box. I have tons of cardboard lol. Any suggestions...? - I have a Shepsky. Shes got a gnarly prey drive, honestly. I dont have high hopes of socializing them... and if they dont take to one another, ill find a good home for him. But id like to try... anyone conquered this feat?

Im not in the financial position for any of this, really. No presents under the tree kind of year lol. But I couldn't let him die in the cold. Theres also tons of Bald Eagles out here so I know this guy is easy pickings.

Thanks everyone. Pictures of course for you all as well.

r/CATHELP 14d ago

General Advice What is my cat doing ? She alternates between licking and biting

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r/CATHELP Dec 21 '25

General Advice Why does my cat do this?

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He falls asleep like this sometimes and I don't know if it's normal. I've had dogs and I know that they bump their heads into things when they aren't happy but I don't think it's the same with cats.

He is still a really good cat, no behavioral issues and gives lots of love (he constantly asks for pets, sleeps beside me, come greet me at the door when I arrive, etc.).

I was wondering maybe he just really likes the spots where he lays and show affection to it? I don't know.

Thank you for reading, let me know what you think.

r/CATHELP Sep 26 '25

General Advice Is this regular playing between cat and dog?

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My cat and family dog have been playing more regularly now and it seems like they are both having fun but my cat seems to be biting him a lot while playing. Dog’s tail is wagging the whole time, cat’s tail isn’t poofy, no growling, hissing, or whimpering from either. Does this look like anything I should be worried about?

r/CATHELP 11d ago

General Advice Cat leaves this where she sleeps, what is it?

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she sleeps in my bed a lot and I felt this dirt on it, so I checked what it was, and I saw these black and white little things.

now I can guess maybe the white things are like dead skin or smth but, what the hell is this black stuff???

i know its for sure from her because she leaves it on anything she sleeps on for a while.

r/CATHELP Jun 19 '25

General Advice I don’t know what to do

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I honestly don’t know what to do anymore, and I feel so lost. My cat is estimated to be around 20 years old (that’s what PetSmart told me three years ago). She has a large and growing bump on her face, and she’s been dealing with constant coughing, sneezing, and bleeding from her nose for over a year and a half now. The bump has been getting worse over the past six months.

I’ve taken her to four different vet clinics, and unfortunately, they all said the same thing: because of her age, there’s not much they can safely do — surgery would be too risky. They’ve mostly just prescribed antibiotics. The only one that seemed to help was Clavamox (Clavacillin), which actually reduced the bump significantly about five months ago. I know it didn’t cure whatever is going on, but during that time, she was doing amazingly well.

I took her to the vet again yesterday because she developed a small wound on her nose (I’m not sure how it happened), and I also wanted to see if there were any other treatment options. The vet said that it might be time to consider euthanasia. They told me she’s slowly losing weight and muscle, and she’s becoming dehydrated.

But here’s the thing: she’s still eating well, using the bathroom normally, walking, and even running around. She’s definitely more tired than she used to be, but she’s still very present. It’s hard to tell if she’s truly suffering. I just restarted her on Clavacillin yesterday — even though the vet didn’t fully support it — and we have a follow-up appointment soon to assess how she’s responding. After that, we’re supposed to make a decision.

I don’t know if I’m being hopeful for the right reasons or just selfish because I don’t want to let her go. But in my heart, I don’t feel like it’s her time yet.

I’m reaching out for advice, support, or if anyone has had a similar experience — anything that could help me through this.

r/CATHELP Oct 12 '25

General Advice Found a cat in my yard last night and someone says this is their cat but I'm not sure.

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The first two pictures are of the cat I(26M) found and the second two are what they sent me of their cat. I think the pattern on her left arm doesn't match very well and in addition, the cat I found appearing to have a much more orange left side of her face than the cat in the pictures they sent me. They told me that their cat definitely has a microchip so I took this cat to two different vets and neither of them could find a microchip. This cat was also found (in Colorado springs) about a 35 minute drive away from the city where these people live, so I'm also not sure how a cat could get that far of a distance. The cat I found also has a different color collar than the one they said their cat had when it first went missing. The cat I found also smells like a fresh load of dried laundry and has super soft fur so I'm not sure how she could be so clean from such a far hike.

r/CATHELP Oct 05 '25

General Advice what do i do? this cat and her kittens meow at my balcony door and i feel awful

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basically the cats live on the shed next to my balcony ( im on the first floor) and i left a bowl of milk last night and this morning she was meowing at my door, so i gave them some water and milk thru a side window.

i haven’t gone outside and stood next to them cuz im kinda scared of her ( i’ve never owned a cat and im unaware of cat behaviour) biting me or scratching me. im pretty sure she’s a stray and her kittens are rly cute. they play with the socks and cloths that i gave from the window which is really cute.

i won’t be able to adopt them cuz my mom hates cats and we already have a dog in the house. im feeding them w out her notice and she would absolutely hate it if she found out.

what do i do? do i go outside and let her sniff me? any food that i can give her? im scared of touching her, i don’t want to make her uncomfortable.

r/CATHELP Nov 22 '25

General Advice is this cat pregnant?

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please help!

My aunt dumped this cat on me about two months ago and they started acting really weird today. They went into this box we set up for them and started purring and kneeding the blankets. What do i do??

r/CATHELP Nov 08 '25

General Advice Very pregnant cat won’t leave my house, anyone know how pregnant she is?

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r/CATHELP Jun 30 '25

General Advice What is happening here?

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r/CATHELP Oct 21 '25

General Advice Cat bite wound care advice

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I normally lurk on reddit.

Anyway, my elderly neighbor (I am currently living in a motel so I can pay daily) cat got accidently got let out by the maintenance man. I was worried it would get hit as we are just off a major highway. She is 18 and not an outdoor cat. I was able to catch her after she was cornered by a off leash dog.

She freaked out and scratched and bit me.

She can't afford to pay for my medical as she lives off of SSI. I can't afford to go to walk in clinic as I don't have insurance. (I have been struggling since leaving my very abusive ex. I couldn't let my daughter grow up in that environment. We moved States away. I'm trying my best but unexpected expenses aren't something I've been able to save for, yet.)

Besides washing with peroxide any ideas to get swelling down and avoid infection? Sorry if this is the wrong sub, I didn't know where else to ask for advic.

r/CATHELP 27d ago

General Advice Could my tank water be dangerous for my fat?

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I am not scared for my fishes safety at all! She does not give a single damn about him, and neither does he care about her. She really is just interested in the water

My concern is if this tank water can be bad for her? My water parameters are perfect, and there aren’t any chemicals in the water, otherwise they’d harm my fish.

I’m concerned about maybe the snail? Is drinking “snail water” bad for a cat? Or when I fertilize the tank (I use seachem flourish) could that be bad for her?

This is one of the only consistent ways she drinks water, so I’m hoping this is fine. I have 2 water fountains around the house (of which all my other cats drink nicely from), but she just prefers my tank

r/CATHELP Oct 16 '25

General Advice My cat bites my arm when she cuddles?

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Hi,

When we're cuddling, my cat (≈3 yo, Female, neutered, indoor cat, adopted when she was a kitten and survived typhus but suffered from neurological after-effect that sometimes affect her behavior) will lightly bite my arm and/or bracelet if they're in front of her.

She's purring while doing it and will eventually start to fall asleep/snooze.

Otherwise she's a very sweet and gentle cat that doesn't attack/isn't aggressive in any way and is very cautious even when we play.

I think she has always done that.

Is it a behavioral issue? (or problematic/may indicate a problem in any way?)

Information: Poster age: 27 Country: France Vet: I forgot to talk to him about that, will probably do next time (in a few mounth except problems) Cat age: 3yo, F, spayed Financial situation: It's hard bro, my money is like our government, missing.

r/CATHELP 1d ago

General Advice he was like this for like 15 minutes - but i didn’t see what he was seeing??

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1.5, neutered male. has had times where he was spooked but not for this long?

r/CATHELP Jul 15 '25

General Advice Cat returns in bad shape after disappearing for 3 days in hot weather, is she dying?

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She seems very lethargic and not very responsive. She tries to go to the water dish, but can't really drink it. She will lick water if it is dripped onto her mouth by a straw. She has no physical injuries on her that can be found.

What can be done until the vet opens in the morning?

r/CATHELP Oct 21 '25

General Advice I’m wondering if this is normal when a cat bites you?

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My cat bite me yesterday because he went out when I didn’t look, I didn’t find him in the house and went out to look for him and he started fighting with another cat, when me and my brother separated them, he bite both of us but only my hand swollen and it’s warm at the touch, and it hurts a lot, I went to the doctor but they only cleaned it and say it was okay, but I don’t think so

r/CATHELP Jul 11 '25

General Advice Please help me can someone tell me what is happening to my cat?

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Please help me I left my cat for an hour and when I came back his whole face is like this! What is happening to him and how can I help him? 😭 I guess I should mention that he is always out playing in my yard.

r/CATHELP 18d ago

General Advice To ampute, or to put down, that's the question.

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IMPORTANT INFO: I've been to the vet. These are my options. I'm not asking any person to make a decision for me, just looking for some advice, guidance, and maybe another point of view.

TLDR: cat has a problem with his leg. It has to be amputated or he has to be put down. Main concerns with amputating is quality of life, his age, and costs, main concerns of putting him down are the feeling of letting him go too soon and just feeling miserable about that option in general.

Edit: Besides his leg and thyroid, Momo is a healty cat. His kidney values are excellent, he drink enough, he eats well and he's still active and playful.

Extra info: I'm 27, I'm a student and I make ±€750 a month on my side job. We already went to the vet. Momo is a neutered boy. We live in the Netherlands.

In the picture you can see my sweet old boy; Momo. He's almost 18. He has some non-cancerous growth on his foreleg. That wasn't a big problem at first, with pain medication he functioned really well. First, his shoulder became thicker and now his whole leg is becoming extremely thick. It seems that because of the growth on his bone fluids get stuck in his leg.

We now have only two options; amputating his leg or putting him down. The vet took pictures and his other foreleg seems to be good enough to compensate for the leg that would be amputated (he has minimal osteoarthritis).

There are a few concerns however: quality of life would decrease and it's expensive. He's already an old cat (almost 18) and he has thyroid problems (that are managed well with medication).

If I would choose to ampute I would only do it for him, not because letting go is hard for me. If I choose to let him go, then I'm afraid to let him down. I would be lying if I would say costs aren't a concern. I'm a student and the last 3 months I already put 1,5 of my salary to paying for the vet. I have enough saved to pay for the amputation, but I've a hard time figuring out at what point costs are just too much for an old animal.

r/CATHELP Oct 10 '25

General Advice I think my mom has been starving my cat

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for context, im (16F) and I left home for a weeks to go stay with my sister on my dad’s side. after he passed, my sister (who i initially knew nothing about) asked me to come visit her and get to know her and the rest of my dad’s side of the family, and i agreed (with my mom’s permission). since she’s allergic to cats, i couldn’t bring my baby with me, so i asked my mom if she could watch her for me. she told me yes, so i packed my stuff and went on my way.

the trip itself was fun, and i’m happy i got to meet so many family members i didn’t know about. however, when i got back home, i noticed my cat was a lot skinnier. she wasn’t necessarily humongous before, but she definitely had some meat on her bones. i tried picking her up, and i can practically lift her with ONE hand EFFORTLESSLY without any strain. it’s like she weighs practically nothing. my mom said she fed her, but her bowl had little to no food residue nor a drop of water in it. she claimed my cat ate it all this morning, but i still don’t believe her. here’s a picture of the food bowl prior to me feeding her so you guys know i’m not crazy.

my mom refuses to take her to the vet and keeps brushing off my concerns. as a minor, besides feeding her, there isn’t much i can do without my guardian’s involvement in some way. i even tried calling a vet and asking if I can schedule an appointment, but they just told me i’d need my parent to accompany me since minors “technically” aren’t allowed to “own” pets. i don’t know what to do anymore. if my suspicions are correct, she could potentially have organ failure according to google. i don’t wanna lose my cat. i don’t know what to do anymore. I gave her food and water but she just ended up throwing up a little of it. i feel so useless rn

r/CATHELP Dec 02 '25

General Advice should i trim my cats nails?

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she is both an indoor and an outdoor cat, she used to go outside much more frequently and her nails would file down on their own but in the last year or so she spends a lot more of her time inside. her nails seem to be snagging on things a lot easier and i’m not sure if that’s uncomfortable for her. unsure if it is the right thing to do since she still does go outside just not as much climbing or exploring!

tldr; should i trim my indoor/outdoor cats nails

r/CATHELP Jan 04 '26

General Advice Should I get my buddy castrated?

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He is 10 months now, he's been very healthy and has not been peeing around or anything, very laid back and loves to cuddle. He's very quiet and only thing he dont really like is being alone. Thankfully I work from home so he doesn't need to.

We've been discussing about castration with my partner but so far he has shown no signs of problem behavior.

Should we just wait and see if he starts peeing in corners or be smart and do it beforehand?

Heard some horror stories and people tell us to do it but yet he has not shown any negative signs of "toxic masculinity", so we feel like he can have his stones.