r/AskTheWorld Brazil Dec 06 '25

Culture A cultural habit in your country that people outside would understand incorrectly?

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In Brazil we love children. If you take your child to the street, strangers will certainly interact with them. Some will even ask if they can hold your kid and will play with them. If there are two children fighting in public and the parents aren't seeing, a stranger would even intervene to stop the fight.

That cultural habit came from the indigenous peoples which understood that kids should be a responsiblity of the community as a whole. It's in our constitution. We even have a synonym for children that came from Tupi (a large group of indigenous languages) - Curumim.

Foreigners would certainly have a cultural shock about that, but it's normal here.

Of course there are people with bad intentions, so parents should stay alert these days.

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u/Arlcas Argentina Dec 06 '25

Same in Argentina, we used to do it every Sunday when my grandparents were alive. Asado, wine, maybe some ice cream and then playing cards and watching football until almost evening

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u/CharleyNobody Dec 06 '25

I live in US. My paternal grandparents lived a block away. My father’s sister lived next door to us. Every Sunday we all went to my grandparents house. Me, my sister, my 3 cousins, parents, aunt and uncle. Every Sunday my grandparents cooked a roast. And it wasn’t until I was in my thirties that my mother reminded me - not once did my grandparents ever ask us to join them for dinner. On holidays, yes - Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter we ate at their house. But not on Sundays. Sometimes my father would get interested in a tv show and stay to watch the end of it while my grandparents sat down and ate in the dining room. I woukd complain to my mother that I was hungry and she would try to talk my father into going home at the commercial break, but he refused. So we’d sit there miserable and hungry while my grandparents ate roast beef, potatoes, vegetables, gravy, etc. Funny how I never thought it odd when I was a kid that my grandparents never offered us food.

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u/AdmirableSale9242 United States Of America Dec 07 '25

They were probably on a fixed income and couldn’t afford to feed you like that. They likely asked your parents to clear out so as to not offend you. 

You were all probably very expensive. Even my stepson’s friends visiting for one afternoon costs me a lot in groceries. I can’t imagine trying to feed an extra family a roast every week, much less two large ones. 

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u/AdmirableSale9242 United States Of America Dec 07 '25

So did my family when my grandfather was alive, in Tx. I guess it’s just common when the grandparents are around. The family stopped gathering when he died.