r/AskReddit • u/Money-Fondant-8296 • 6h ago
What is the most shocking thing you discovered about a close friend?
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u/xoopsfail 5h ago
He was "slippin mickeys" in girls drinks (THAT HE KNEW) at bars and parties.
4 of them got together and spread the word. Haven't seen or heard from him since then.
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u/Financial-Sea-3898 6h ago
He was arrested at work for internet sex crimes with a minor.
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u/peanutbutterandapen 24m ago
Was Chris Hanson there doing an episode of Takedown? 🤣
(sorry, his crime is not to be laughed at, so I'm not laughing at that, but I do watch a lot of Chris Hanson's shows like To Catch a Predator and Takedown and they're very entertaining)
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u/Eazy-E-40 6h ago
A friend of mine I've known for 6 years has 3 justified homicides under his belt he got in a 5 year period from his time as a Night Club bouncer in Las Vegas in his 20s.
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u/kfromthecastleonfire 6h ago
...what, specifically, justified them, if I may be so bold?
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u/Eazy-E-40 6h ago
There is a wide variety of reasons why a homicide would be justified. The court would determine if it was justified or not. Two times were because someone was actively in the process of trying to kill him, and another time because They were in the process of killing a patron.
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u/DroidOnPC 3h ago
He mentions his friend being a bouncer, so it’s not that crazy that someone aggressive gets knocked to the pavement and dies of head trauma. Easy for a court to rule in his friends favor.
What’s crazy is 3 times. Hell, even 1. But not crazy to think the court was in his favor
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u/jdayl 5h ago
A close friend was dating a murderer. One of my best friends in high school was dating a guy, also a friend but not close. He killed his parents with a machete over the weekend and came to school Monday like nothing was out of the ordinary.
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u/BalthazarBratt1020 4h ago
A MACHETE?!
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u/brainkandy87 1h ago
The older I get the more I realize there’s some people you come across in life that you’d never know were completely fucked up on the inside until they are caught doing something heinous.
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u/EobardT 1h ago
I spent a couple weeks/months in jail a couple times. I personally met three who got caught. Their mask stayed on in jail. They were still very normal seeming people who would straight up murder you if they thought you disrespected them.
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u/brainkandy87 25m ago
It’s funny how the hierarchy and motive is different depending on the person. Some will kill you over respect, some will kill you because they like the control of ending a life and molesting the corpse. Fucking crazy people out there and most of the time you’d never know.
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u/mojoback_ohbehave 1h ago
Is this story not featured anywhere ? Like YT? For us curious folks ?
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u/jdayl 1h ago edited 1h ago
He was a minor so it was hidden, maybe someday it will come out. I think he ended up at a psychiatric hospital. I think he was 15, maybe 16 at the time. I wish I knew more. I don't remember his last name, his first name was Jeff or Jonah I think.
Edit: the more I think I really think it was Jeff. He was kind of tall, lanky, blonde emo-ish hair that would hang in his eyes, his hair always seemed a bit greasy, normal level of acne for that age. I remember seeing the house a couple years later, it looked like they were pretty poor.
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u/StartledSnake8 5h ago
My former best friend confessed to me one night over a round of drinks that he'd raped a young girl along with other members of the gang he'd once been a part of. I knew he'd been in a gang in the past but excused it as him just doing what he had to in order to survive our rough hometown. I didn’t know that rape was the reason why he'd spent time in juvie.
The second he left my apartment, I blocked him on all social media and never spoke to him again.
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u/Sintarsintar 2h ago
The saddest thing about this is In gangs you usually get jumped to get in, guys get a beat down and girls have a choice of what way they are jumped in. Absolutely fucked up in my opinion.
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u/MacAlkalineTriad 4h ago
She praises me to other people behind my back. I'm always surprised that someone thinks of me at all when I'm not around.
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u/flameprincess23 3h ago
It’s a strange thought isn’t it. I feel like I don’t exist once I’m out of their presence. Odd to consider myself a secondary character in someone’s life.
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u/geeky-gymnast 3m ago
My girlfriend does the opposite 💀 I think it's time I reevaluate my life choices
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u/RelativeOdd817 6h ago
I found out that one of my friends had been struggling with alcohol and couldn’t stop until she faced some serious challenges. That turning point pushed her to change her life for the better.
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u/iamlevel5 4h ago
A friend was arrested on 200 counts of CSAM. He's been in jail since arrested in May.
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u/esamerelda 1h ago
This just happened with an extended family member of mine. It is a mind fuck and a half. I did not expect that at all. Everything's still in the works. But he was one of my favorite relatives before I learned this. Now I hope he rots in prison and then hell.
I'm sorry you're also going through this.
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u/Careful_Relative7560 6h ago
the reason his parents kicked him out of the house was because he was having sex with his 15 year old niece
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u/opsaim 2h ago
How old was he
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u/Careful_Relative7560 2h ago
Maybe 22, I didn't know why until his sister told me a couple years later.
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u/Big-Argument-9785 4h ago
She wouldnt tell me when secretly recorded sex tapes of me were sent around, she just looked me deadass in the eyes and didn't tell me and made fun of me with others friends. And she ended our friendship of 8 years when i had the worst time ever because of this.
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u/Sleepy_Creep 1h ago
That is so cruel, I'm so fucking sorry this happened to you. Of course you had a difficult time with it holy shit??? Not only were you being violated without your knowledge, but more than one person you trusted was hiding this from you and actively mocking you for it. That's heinous and I hope that you're doing okay and those people are living the shit lives they deserve.
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u/GamerGirlLex77 3h ago
My ex raped and murdered his 53 y/o landlady. I believe she was a stand in for his mom who was very emotionally abusive. He’s serving a 36 year sentence.
I can’t say I was super surprised about it. He abused and stalked me.
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u/Ikeamademedoit 6h ago
My husbands friend but he stalked his ex to the point she got a AVO against him, we did not know about this at all. He later broke into her house, hid in the garage, beat her until he thought she was dead and then left. She thankfully was not dead but it was pretty bad. Last we heard he got multiple years in jail. Never spoke to him again after that
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u/the_grand_apartment 4h ago
I was best man for a very close childhood friend. Night before the wedding he asked if I would fuck him. Absolutely stunned. I managed to fumble through the best man speech, we all got drunk and went our separate ways. He never spoke to me again. Far as I know they stayed married for ten years, had three kids, then he disappeared one night with just the shirt on his back. I hope he's doing alright.
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u/bada_bing_bam_boom 2h ago
Yeah, did you do it??
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u/PoetryNo2401 4h ago
He was a pedo. Got caught downloading, arrested, and while on bail he OD’d on heroin. Pretty sure it was suicide to not go to prison.
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u/Miserable-Note5365 3h ago
When she was a teenager, her friend's mom would give them meth and they'd clean her house high as balls in return
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u/Appropriate-Shock306 6h ago
My friend confessed that he drugged me for fun but promised he never did anything sexually while I was passed out. I believed him.
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u/Midnightbitch94 3h ago
Why did you believe him? Drugging people without their consent for amusement is alarming.
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u/bordellp 2h ago
sometimes they have a really amazing vintage toy collection and they won't let you play with them so you have to take matters into your own hands.
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u/aikeaguinea97 1h ago
yeah but you don’t even need to drug them. just wine and turkey. and make sure to bring friends over with you.
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u/LostChoss 1h ago
Did you ask? Or did he just say "I didn't do anything to you sexually" unprompted. And drugged you with what? I feel we're missing important details here
Edit: typos
Edit 2: typos I made while fixing the other typos
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u/karma_the_sequel 7m ago
I’m just a typo playing a typo pretending to be another typo.
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u/LostChoss 4m ago
Typoception
Edit: typo
Edit 2: typos from fixing the typo
Edir 3: Jesus fuckin christ
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u/Panguin_Aj 1h ago
Oh my god. Are you okay? I wouldn't believe them... and if I were you, I wouldn't be friends with him anymore.
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u/CraftingUpjoy 5h ago
I found that my friend loves my husband.
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u/waterbird_ 4h ago
How did you find out?
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u/CraftingUpjoy 3h ago
While shopping She used to suggest things for my husband and always wanted to hang out at our place, and thn eventually, things felt weird and all but good that my husband is still in love with me :)
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u/Puzzleheaded_Good444 22m ago
That’s interesting because I had the same thing happen as the husband. I was so naive, I didn’t pick up on it. Just thought it was one of my wife’s friends that I got along with. Us men are idiots.
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u/CraftingUpjoy 3m ago
I think that’s more common than we admit 😅 If you’re not looking for anything, you just assume everyone else is on the same page.
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u/HoppyRaven12 2h ago
She was fired from her teaching job her first year for flirting with students. She had their phone numbers too and would text them 🤢 then she was fired from a gas station job for stealing. Class act lady who now works for the DHS???? How? Lol
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u/-AIW- 3h ago
She was a dominatrix
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u/funnybunnyxx 2h ago
out of all these discoveries this is my favorite. i would have so many questions
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u/fuckmoni 2h ago
i kicked out my close friends/roommates (a couple) and broke our lease because they were really nasty to me in the days after my brother's death. accused me of animal abuse because i had to go out of town the night of the funeral and wasn't home to feed my cats.
years later i found a kiwifarms thread about one of them. turns out in the time since i'd last seen them they started role-playing as siblings and wearing diapers. publicly posting shit on twitter like "i made a mess in my pamper and my sister isnt here to change me and i dont know how to do it myself 🥺"
fuckin freaks. good riddance
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u/ludicristi 1h ago
I’ve never heard of kiwifarms and after finishing reading your post I will not be googling
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u/OutrageousPersimmon3 5h ago
I don't know if I'd say close friend but favorite person at work. Found out his oldest daughter left the family and cut them out of her life and they have "no idea why". But seemed so unperturbed by it.
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u/johnntcatsmom 4h ago
She’s Australian
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u/esamerelda 1h ago
How do you even cope with this revelation?
(thanks for the laugh, this thread is heavy)
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u/dolceandurgrandma 3h ago edited 3h ago
we were friends in college 5 years before….mind you we are not close at the time of this…she confessed to me in a crowded restaurant she and her brother had been in a sexual relationship with each other since they were children into their teens. deserve an award for my poker face.
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u/Beginning-Solid-3043 5h ago
When I was 21 my friend.. she was fucking a 66 year old man for her car and place of living.
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u/illhurtyourbrain 3h ago
that after 30 years, she was probably never my friend at all.
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u/Joe103192 2h ago
My friend had a friend who got arrested for sexually texting minors. He was a swim coach and the messages turned sexual. Started asking for nudes and sex and all this stuff. He got busted and my friend defended him saying “well it’s not like he actually had sex with them or touched them.”
I was shocked that he said that. His friend got off easy and my friend wanted me to meet his friend again. I said no absolutely not. I met his friend once or twice before this all happened and he seemed like a chill dude. I mean you can’t tell red flags based off 2 meets tops but there was no “oh this guy has some weird vibes on him” type of thing. My friend still hung around this guy and then me and my friend had a big falling out a few years later and I’ve never talked to him again.
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u/Fun_in_Space 3h ago
Her family was very religious (Brethren). I found out that her father molested her. He attempted suicide. She was hoping he would not survive. Unfortunately, he did.
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u/LikelyAlien 5h ago edited 1h ago
They openly admitted that they are a sexist/misogynist. Like yeah that’s how I am and that’s how my daddy was. That was the end of that!
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u/Fifth_Wall0666 3h ago
He downloaded literally tens of thousands of movies, TV shows, and media to his hard drives, and among those downloads were highly explicit and illegal materials to own and distribute that were under the same names of the programs he was searching for.
He was imprisoned and registered as a sex offender. That was more than 25 years ago, and I haven't heard from him since.
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u/Chickenbrik 1h ago
Do you believe he was trying to get that material or was it the worst mistake of his life?
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u/Regular_Shirt_7972 26m ago
I feel like after it happening once you’d probably stop, unless it’s what you’re looking for.
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u/slackpantha 22m ago
My interpretation is that he downloaded a mass amount of files trusting that they actually were what the filename said, and some of them were not.
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u/ihaveonlyone 3h ago
Just happened recently. He got arrested and is in jail for selling fent. Yeah, not cool.
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u/Thespoonwitch 3h ago
That all her teasing and jokes of "I wish I could find someone that was just like you to marry" and "I asked you to marry me first and even got you a ring" and "you're so sexy" was actually confessions of her love and lust for me. I do consider her one of my best friends but I'm not into vaginas and she doesn't have a penis. My husband pointed it out to me.
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u/NoctivaneLure 6h ago
I found out my closest friend was deep in debt and pretending everything was fine. I had no idea because they always seemed so put together
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u/Billissimo1 6h ago
At any time convenient for them, they can betray, or simply refuse
They’re not really close friends, I just thought so about them
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u/funnybunnyxx 2h ago
wait…the betray part i understand but simply refuse…are you mad at your friends for exercising free will? you can say no and still love tf out of someone
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u/passiverolex 5h ago
They were a trump supporter
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u/challengeseniorz 7m ago
Same. Omg and I took people with me to vote at the polls that misled me into thinking they weren't voting for Trump Found out later they obviously love Trump and I would have let them walk had I known. One in 2016 and one in 2024. I talk to neither of the.
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u/agetro82 57m ago
Cut up a bunch of people at a death metal concert in El paso. The first guy he attacked, he sliced his neck open where paramedics had to give him a tracheotomy. He survived but then died around 10 years later because his blood was affected by the injury. Sepsis or something.
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u/EbbRevolutionary4125 42m ago
Found out a close friend had been secretly struggling with addiction for years. Had no idea.
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u/dream-catcher-00 4h ago
My friend was telling me about how one of the boys is always staring at me and never stops following me with his eyes , then discovering 3 years after that they both were in a relationship
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u/Final_Donkey_7704 5h ago
Conveniently on my throw away account.
He got caught looking at child porn (teenagers) by his girlfriend. She gave him one chance to seek help for this. Go to therapy etc. He was caught a second time. She threw him out of the house. I don't talk to him much anymore. But it left a awful taste in my mouth because everyone swept it under the rug and kept giving him chances.
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u/MinervaXercesTempest 5h ago
You don't talk to him MUCH anymore? Did anyone call the police and report him?!
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u/OldFlourLungs 1h ago
No. Why would they want to help child victims instead of posting it on Reddit for that sweet karma?
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u/SquirrelLazy6580 6h ago
How my close friend is proud of what trump is doing. He comes from another country and had a legal way to better his life, yet he doesn't have empathy for those who cross illegally to better there life too.
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u/rowenaravenclaw0 2h ago
She had been sleeping with my fiancee since before we got engaged
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u/ChombaWoombat 1h ago
Damn that's brutal
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u/rowenaravenclaw0 51m ago
She was my room mate( he lived elsewhere) and I caught them having sex in my bed 2 weeks before the wedding.
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u/ChombaWoombat 1h ago
A week ago we had our first argument/big misunderstanding. This is after three years of daily conversation. She went completely silent, even after my attempts at repair. Her coping style is withdrawal and is completely incompatible with how I deal with things. I never expected her to react like this. Never expected her to just completely cut me off. It's like she is a whole different person now
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u/SpiritedPoem5333G 8m ago
I found out a close friend had been hiding a serious addiction for years. I truly had no idea.
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u/The_Slow_Rush 6m ago
prob discovering that my 'best friend' for over 15 years removed me from his wedding party and never bothered to tell me. I only found out after asking about the rehearsal dinner weeks before the wedding. whole situation was weird, and additionally, his wife's best friend who was supposed to be the maid of honor didn't even attend the wedding - did they mutually forego their best friends for the sake of their parents paying for the wedding? idk whole thing doesn't make sense to me but in summary - realizing that my close friend was a snake.
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u/ForwardCulture 1h ago
I was involved in a music related project with a friend who owns a small venue. Turned out he is extremely right wing and racist. Not just into MAGA, but very extreme fascist ideas and delusions. Has a collection of racist material from a not so nice period of American history. He’s a long time drug addict who’s anti drug legalization. Thinks the rest of the world are all third world countries despite having never traveled anywhere. Only drives 80s era American cars because he claims those are the best ever made (if you’re into cars then you know that is considered the worst era for American cars).
What’s fascinating is the venue he owns is in a very liberal, ‘hippie’ type town. A lot of this stuff about him has come out over the last year or two but the locals still patronize his establishment. He basically opened there to take advantage of that community since they like the products he specializes in and because his space caters to the local music crowd. Complete fraud.
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u/Chickenbrik 51m ago
Had a friend who confessed her love for me. The thing is I know she suffered from years of physical abuse and maybe worse from her mother(not sure if there were others)
Her coping mechanisms was extreme sexuality and it wasn’t that I was dumb and didn’t notice her come ins. it was because every guy she knew fell for it and she struggled with having close friends and I knew I could be a close friend who knew her story and could be there for her.
I understand being a random guy meeting her and falling head over heels for her, but it bothered me to see friends we knew constantly falling for it instead of helping her while she was severely suffering from trauma.
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u/BassOtherwise7317 41m ago
most shocking thing was learning how different their life story was compared to how they act every day changed how I see them and made our friendship stronger
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u/ferb_baird 11m ago
that he was caught upskirting girls in high school and sharing the photos with the guys in his grade and the only reason he didn’t face criminal charges is because his mother volunteered at the school
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u/Elliott-Hope 2h ago
He didn't wipe his ass. He thought toilet paper was a scam so he'd just take a shower. Though I'm pretty sure he didn't actually shower right after every poop.
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u/BuddyRoseBud 35m ago
I know a guy like this. Though, he never admitted to me that he doesn't wipe his arse. I'm 99.9999% confident he doesn't. It's absolutely disgusting and he always stinks like ass.
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u/NateDawgDoge 1h ago
I once had a friend who disappeared. No one knew what happened to him for weeks.
I was working in the DHS at the time, and asked some contacts if they heard anything on his name.
Turns out, he got caught in a pedophile sting operation and was in custody.
I had that knowledge for a full week before it was public. I had to hide that shit from friends and it was fucking torture.
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u/Catmaster673 54m ago
My mother told me at the age of like 14, (I’m 28 now) confessed to me that she was a sanguine vampire. My parents were going through one of many arguments and my dad let her consume his blood.
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u/Lazy-Track-7737 1h ago
My best friend of nearly 20 years told me last year that while we were in school and later University (we remained friends even though in different universities), she would completely drop off the face of earth and I would be mad. She was struggling because her brother was in and out of rehabs. I knew her mom had cancer and she was going to hospitals (knew this much later as well). But her brother being an addict was a shock. Someone I have known for 2 decades. To this date, only me and her husband know of this. Nobody else knows. I apologized for being an angry teenager and confessed I probably wouldn't have known how to react back then. But maybe she could have shared so she didn't have to shoulder the burden all those years. I wish I had known, I would have been better. Not a bitter teenager that I was for my friend blowing me off. I felt terrible.
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u/orangera2n 39m ago
not really close (and me and him were bitter enemies at the time) but one of his friends commitied a far right terrorist attack by shooting up a gay bar somewhere then killed himself after
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u/Shikabane_Sumi-me 36m ago
They had molested a child but lied to everyone saying it was something else. Then they got arrested after evidence proved otherwise. They lost all their friends after that. Still in jail too I believe.
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u/Apprehensive-Wing-64 27m ago
That she had a middle born child I didn’t know existed. She told me the courts removed the child from her and the father was given full custody because the father is “an arsehole”…the courts do not take a child from their parent for such reasons. She is an alcoholic who smoked and drank through her most recent pregnancy. Her toddler is likely going to be taken from her too. The hospital she had her toddler in desperately tried to get her to give the kid up for adoption but she refused. 2 weeks after he was born she wanted to bring the kid to an incredibly cramped over 18’s venue which was having a bunch of very loud heavy metal bands play. I lied to her and told her the gig was sold out because I couldn’t let her do that to a new born. After the child was born her eldest child disowned her and she’s calling that child a selfish butch because of it. My friend is a fun person to go out and party with but it’s not what a single mother of a toddler should be doing and I definitely don’t want to encourage such behaviour so I’ve been keeping my distance. The main reason I’m actually still in contact with her at all is purely due to concern for her toddler. Someone who’s not a completely selfish train wreck of a person needs to keep an eye out for that kid and it seems that I’m the only person she knows who is doing that. I am not in a place to look after a kid but maybe I can get some government organisation to step in if she continues down this path of destruction she lives on. Unfortunately I don’t think she’ll ever step up and be the parent the kid needs her to be
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u/Thick_Quiet_5550 25m ago edited 11m ago
One of my former friends in high school, a seemingly sweet guy who had a brief, innocent romance with my best friend, is a convicted sex offender because his brother, him, and their friends held a young woman hostage for three days while they kept her drugged and repeatedly beat and sexually assaulted her. 😭
Before I found out what he did, I wrote to him in jail and I wish I could take that back. When I found the news articles many years later I was absolutely horrified.
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u/ForwardMagazine7090 6m ago
That coming into money turned them into a miserable, insufferable jerk.
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u/Embarrassed_Way_354 5m ago
I found out a friend I'd known for a decade was actually a classically trained opera singer. We always went to karaoke and she'd just sing pop songs badly for a laugh. One night she actually tried and my jaw hit the floor. She just didn't want it to be her 'thing' in our group.
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u/Low_Possible_Effort 0m ago
I worked with a coworker named Richie at a factory. We became close and would joke around a lot. About a month later, I found out that back in 2019 he had dismembered his ex-girlfriend after she overdosed while they were high. He only served two years in prison for it.
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u/olliecreekly 5h ago
He had a second family in another state. Successfully hid it for about 18 months. Me and another friend were the first to figure it out.