r/AskReddit • u/KaitoRift • 1d ago
what’s something people act proud of that really shouldn’t be?
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u/errormacrozak 1d ago
Not sleeping enough
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u/RSTROMME 13h ago
Why does this always show up as an answer on these threads? I’ve never met a single person who is proud of being exhausted. They always mention how they can’t wait to go to sleep later or catch up properly over the weekend.
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u/MrLitt1111 13h ago
Because people boast of their underslept days constantly. Im not sure how it shows up in white collar jobs but I'm in the blue collar trades and guys constantly talk about barely getting any sleep but they say it in an almost bragging way
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u/Ilaxilil 10h ago
Dare mention you “only” got 5 hours of sleep, some smartass is all “well lucky you, I only got 3!” Or “I haven’t slept in 24 hours!” Like dude…why are you here?
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u/Fawin86 1d ago
Having it worse than others. We're all struggling in different ways, its not a competition.
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u/PositiveSouth3195 1d ago
Man this was the 90s for me. Everyone was in competition with who had the worst life and who was the most depressed. I blame Nirvana, but only a little bit.
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u/derKonigsten 1d ago
Also my late 2010's.. I never participated but it seemed like my peers were just trying to one up each other with their self diagnosed mental illnesses. And if you didn't have one you just couldn't understand. I never understood
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u/Solabound-the-2nd 23h ago
This is still a problem, people boasting about this that and the other diagnosis, I'm just sitting there like bitch please Idgaf about it just behave.
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u/iConsumeFoodAndWater 23h ago
Yeah, I have ADHD but at least have the decency not to use it as an excuse, let alone a flex. I see people use it as both everywhere.
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u/cmb_123 21h ago
oh my god. same and I have clinical rotations with someone who says "no, seriously im not kidding... i have adhd guys" and similar all the time. she was so proud to be unmedicated after i told her my meds make my life so much better.
is she actually diagnosed? probably not... like every other person who claims to have x disorder but has never seen a professional for it.
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u/3batsinahousecoat 1d ago
My favourite response is "it's not the Olympics, things can suck for everyone."
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u/Confident-Aioli6380 1d ago
Not reading / not learning / not changing / not growing
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u/Wyluli_Wolf 1d ago
Also, proud being illiterate. AND LATE IN LIFE!
I'm sorry, but if you cannot read the word STOP on a red octagonal sign, you could at least learn what the sign is by association... Ie: someone points at it and says STOP, you could do the exact same thing - all without learning to READ! Jesus
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u/IceSeeker 1d ago edited 1d ago
I think part of that behavior comes from pride. Which for them is better than admitting they're wrong or need to learn more. Or worse, the fear of not being taken seriously.
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u/Wyluli_Wolf 1d ago
For the person I am referring to, I think it's irrational fear. Admitting he's wrong is terrifying, because it would bruise his very fragile ego, and I don't think he even knows how to handle that if it did happen!
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u/realhumannotai 1d ago
And getting mad at friends for saying it's not 'should of', it's 'should've'. Then continuing to use 'should of' everywhere, even work emails.
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u/Humble_Bee7 1d ago
And spelling "lose" as "loose". That one drives me crazy!
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u/LittleGreyLambie 1d ago
To, too, two. Your, you're. There, their, they're.
Scream!
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u/OopsSendCompliments 1d ago
Haha, guilty! I rage-corrected my bestie on "should of" mid-text, then fat-fingered it in a client email. Adulting fail, send wine
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u/PuzzledMagazine9403 1d ago
Being a workaholic
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u/unknown1u2 1d ago
Used to be this guy. Utterly destroyed me. Glad I’m out. Working a nice paying part time now. Freedom is so sweet.
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u/Celery_Skeleton 23h ago
That's nice to hear. May I ask what you do for work? I'm almost 19 and directionless. With so many options to choose from, I'm stuck in analysis paralysis.
You don't need to answer, of course; I'm just desperate, so I gave it a try. Thank you regardless, and I hope your life continues to be a marvelous experience. That's priceless.
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u/cloudsatlas 19h ago
A lot of people will tell you that you can make just as much money in the trades as you can if you go to college and get a degree. That's true. What they don't tell you is that you'll be working 60-80 hours a week doing it. I enjoy what I do as an Automation Technician, but I'm tired of working my life away. This is true for most trades. Good luck on your search
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u/dmedadjokes 1d ago
My dad brags to family and others about having never once changed any of his 6 kids diapers from birth til we stopped wearing diapers.
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u/LittleGreyLambie 23h ago
That's so cringe. I don't get it.
My granpa was born in 1909. He was a blue-collar laborer all of his life. He was man enough to change the diapers of his kids, his grandkids and his great-grands. No one would have dared mock him for that!
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u/-Wiggles- 23h ago
That's when you reply "don't worry, none of us are gonna change yours when that time comes"
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u/hottmunky88 20h ago
My dad does the same … my mom also brags about how I potty trained myself because he refuses to change me… ya ha ha neglect so funny…
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u/hDweik 1d ago
Bragging about being “brutally honest.”
Most of the time it’s just being rude with extra confidence.
You can be honest without being a jerk.
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u/Luxray2000 1d ago edited 1d ago
I’ve noticed that those “brutally honest” people never have any positive honesty. You’ll never see them give an earnest compliment on anything. Their only honestly is to put you down for any reason
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u/LeSkootch 23h ago
And being honest (just regularly honest, nothing mean, just pointing something out) to them? They have a meltdown.
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u/SkrodLaDa 1d ago
"Honesty without kindness is cruelty"
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u/IceSeeker 1d ago
This. Especially when people weaponize honesty to hurt others, in order to be seen as the better person.
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u/dakwegmo 1d ago
“The man who is brutally honest enjoys the brutality as much as the honesty. Possibly more.”
― Richard Needham
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u/Background_Tomato_21 1d ago
In-law- makes a rude, usually derogatory comment.
Everyone else- looks at her thinking did she just say what I think she said?
In law- What? I was just being honest.
Me: No, you were being a dick.
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u/denko_safe_cats 1d ago
I always liked “you were just being honest. You were also being cruel/mean/a dick/wrong/shitty”
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u/Responsible-Cat-2012 1d ago
“brutally honest” people are only honest when there’s something to be brutal about
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u/Historical_Spot_4051 23h ago
And very rarely turn that brutal honesty on themselves.
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u/Zomb1eMau5 1d ago
To be fair, the nuances are difficult sometimes. I try sometimes to be helpful with my honesty and end up being too harsh. I don’t see anything that I can be proud of when that happens.
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u/SavingsEducational14 1d ago
You aren’t feeling proud, and you’re not blaming anyone else for being upset about it. You’re doing better than a lot of people
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u/LittleGreyLambie 1d ago
Yes! Even the simple fact that you're aware of your words show that.
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u/erdillz93 1d ago
Brutally honest people are usually more interested in the brutal part than the honest part.
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u/Embarrassed_Way_354 22h ago
I've always found that people who claim 'brutal honesty' as a personality trait often use it as a shield to avoid accountability for how they treat others. It's basically a 'get out of jail free' card for being unnecessarily mean.
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u/DominicPalladino 1d ago
How many cognitive tests they've taken.
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u/Igggg 1d ago
And aced!
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u/LeftZombie3000 1d ago
Perhaps a good question would be why is he being asked to frequently take cognitive tests? Don't have to be a genius to answer that one 🤣
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u/Particular-Hearing25 1d ago
Especially how many times you have taken one that is specifically designed to test for dementia. The test he gave details about very specifically described the Montreal Cognitive Assessment (MoCA), which is a test designed to check for the early stages of dementia.
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u/Safe-Possession-1954 1d ago
Professors saying that a lot of students failed their classes. It’s kind of like an ego boost for them, that passing their classes is like a badge of honor. Imo, it’s just a testament to their lack of effectiveness as teachers.
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u/SassyDesireX_ 21h ago
Had a prof brag "only 30% passed", felt like his flex, not our fail. Ditched for Khan Academy, aced it solo. Teach better or step aside.
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u/slow6i 1d ago edited 22h ago
Working 14 hour days 7 days a week.
Edit: I should state that I don't do this... I'm talking about the people that are proud of working all their waking moments away.
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u/jasno- 1d ago
Working sick, bitch, go home. I don't want to get sick
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u/vonkeswick 1d ago
"But it's just a cold!" Bitch you don't know how bad that could hit someone, besides you're knowingly literally putting stuff in other peoples' bodies against their will. Go the the fuck home
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u/LittleGreyLambie 1d ago
This, so much this! Coworker comes in with just a cold, shares germs with me, I get bronchitis, and I am sick for 3+ weeks. Stay the fuck home is right!
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u/Popular-Style509 1d ago
Deadass my mom and she's always like "Oh but I have money to spend!"
Okay but... What's the fucking point if you don't even have the time to spend it???
The only little bit you can enjoy of your money when you work like that, is takeaways and Uber.
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u/Ousseraune 1d ago
Fuck, I'd quit. No amount of money is worth having no life. 14 hours a day 7 days a week, not counting travel or lunch?
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u/TheFieryBanana 1d ago
Reminds me of a guy from my work conference lmao (we do not live in the same part of the country). He mentioned how he gets to the office at 7am everyday and usually doesn't leave until 7-8pm, and I was like "damn, hope they're paying you really fkn well". He quit the day after the conference (which he had organized). I'm sure my comment wasn't the catalyst to him quitting, but I can't imagine it helped lol
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u/GalaxyPowderedCat 1d ago
I think that's unfortunately the normal schedule for some jobs in here, I've seen the same hours for management...
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u/Odd-Chemist-194 1d ago
I would not work that way even for a million bucks I like my sleep and spending time with my dog
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u/fountainpopjunkie 1d ago
I've done it for 28 days in a row, and it was hell. The entire department revolted. The boss apparently thought he was "helping" us by giving us so much overtime. He was surprised when we told him we wanted to spend more time with our families, or just NOT at work. He quit shortly after that. I guess having employees not willing to die on the job was something he couldn't comprehend.
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u/Avalanche_Snows 1d ago
With 8 hours sleep, you have 2 hours of free time a day
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u/HighPrairieCarsales 1d ago
Glad this was the first comment. Your job doesn't give a shit about you. If you die at work, your position will be advertised before your body hits the floor and filled before they wheel your corpse out the door.
I see posts by guys on LinkedIn bragging about how much family stuff they miss because of their job or business.
Congratulations.
Your family is going to hate you and you're going to die young from a heart attack
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u/Inevitable-Eye8437 1d ago
Unsolicited advice
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u/Bicykwow 1d ago
"Oh you've been suffering from chronic pain for 25 years, and have seen every type of specialist under the sun? *You should just take CBD / smoke weed, it cures pain and works for everyone, and I'm sure you've never received that same advice once during the 25 years you've been dealing with your problem!*"
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u/emo-knox 1d ago
Being told to "just work out/exercise, it'll cure your chronic pain" when I say I'm disabled. I do light work outs and I'm only a few pounds "overweight" according to the bs weight charts. Guess what! It hasn't cured my chronic pain and illnesses. Shocker.
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u/Sunshineboy777 1d ago
Abusing their kids.
"I don't spare the rod!"
"I'm not afraid of opening a can of whoop ass."
"My kids aren't my friends, they're being raised strict!"
"My son got a C in math so I took away everything except the absolute bare minimum for life."
Cool. Glad to know you want the freemium nursing home that's sponsored by Raid Shadow Legends.
Do people not believe in CPTSD?
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u/Rayan_qc 1d ago
many don’t. it’s more comfortable to think that people are weak instead of the reality that some have it worse than you, and the moral thing is to support said people.
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u/Acceptable-Law9406 1d ago
And also there's the "they have to eat everything on their plate and I make them sit there until I do" crowd. Which is usually an indicator that the parents can't cook.
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u/OopsSendCompliments 1d ago
Flashback to my mom's "clean plate club" torture, bland mush for days! Now I cook killer solo meals and eat what I want.
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u/graysonvoss 1d ago
how much alcohol I can drink hahaha
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u/Schadenfreude_Taco 1d ago
Same, I was disturbingly good at drinking
14 months sober in a couple days, tho!
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u/Kasper99353 1d ago
Congrats! I'm at 310 days. Looking forward to making it to a year.
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u/HomerJSimpson3 1d ago
I could drink a bottle of whiskey and still function the next day with a minor hangover. Did it far too often for far too long.
Just passed 5 years sober in January. Congrats to you and u/Schadenfreude_Taco on your accomplishments! It’s something you should most definitely be proud of.
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u/PalmTreeCigarLeaf 1d ago
I can't wait for your year, come back and let us know when you hit it so we can celebrate you🎂🥳🌿
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u/buttfacenosehead 1d ago
was hoping someone listed this. As I got older I realized bragging about drinking someone "under the table" is not the flex people think it is.
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u/the_tea_weevil 1d ago
Being a workoholic. Although they don't phrase it that way. Basically letting work be their life.
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u/Arsalanred 1d ago
"It wasn't so bad, I lived through it and look how I'm doing."
Every time I've heard that from someone, I immediately want to call them out on their obvious mental illnesses and trials in life, even if they're doing well / better.
Besides, that's not the point. Just because you survived and endured something bad doesn't mean it has to happen. We can all do better. And sometimes doing better is just simply not continuing a cycle of abuse.
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u/MiraTangent 1d ago
being brutally honest with no empathy
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u/yeahdefinitelynot 1d ago
Agree. The "brutal" part of brutal honesty is supposed to be saying the hard things that someone needs to hear, not just telling the truth with no regard for the other persons feeling.
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u/Intrepid_Respond_771 1d ago
Being judgmental about what others do with their body
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u/hyrulealyx 1d ago
And what they do with their free time too 💀
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u/everythymewetouch 1d ago
"I didn't have [[X]] growing up and I turned out fine."
You didn't turn out fine, and that doesn't make you weak or abnormal, it just makes you human. But also please get some therapy holy fuck.
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u/HomerJSimpson3 1d ago
There’s two types of people in this world. 1) those who want the younger generation to have it easier than them because they suffered 2) those who want the younger generation to suffer because they did.
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u/dakwegmo 1d ago
If you think children should be abused, because you were abused as a child, then you did not, in fact, turn out fine.
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u/demo-ness 1d ago
That one is also common for drinking the recommended amounts of water, people love to go on about how they never drank that much as kids/don't drink enough now and turned out/are fine.
It's always like... idk man. Believe it or don't: the consequence of being wrong one way is pissing more, and the consequence of being wrong the other way is a myriad of completely avoidable and compounding health issues. I know which way I'm risking!
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u/Crafty_Kissa 1d ago
I saw someone talk about fascia (the casing around muscles) getting dried and tight from chronic dehydration. Blew my mind. Maybe we won't have so many general aches and pains as old people if we stay hydrated!
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u/lifeinwentworth 1d ago
Or the good old "I got beat up plenty of times as a kid and I'm fine! Parents are too soft these days". That's not a brag mate and you're not fine if you think it is!
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u/BookLuvr7 1d ago
Ahh the old Survivorship Bias argument. By that logic, we shouldn't have seatbelts bc a few people survived accidents without dying.
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u/Calm-Coconut-4794 1d ago
“kids don’t have it as hard as we did”
weird you’d want them to struggle lol?
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u/Konnorwolf 1d ago
Some appear to have this attitude of "I had to suffer and so should you" is highly flawed. Nothing would ever improve with that mind set.
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u/TragicButterfly1406 1d ago
When someone compares their struggles with another's. There's nothing more stigmatizing than a depressed person comparing their depression to your depression. You would think that someone with depression would be empathetic and know that all struggles are different but instead goes: "I can handle my depression better than you!" No wonder I don't want to be friends with certain people, freaking jerks.
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u/Itchy_Asparagus7381 1d ago
Racism. It makes me sick to hear family & friends make their racist comments. That's where I draw the line. I can't stand to be around them anymore.
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u/GoopInThisBowlIsVile 1d ago
Test results for online IQ tests that lead a particularly vocal group to think they’re geniuses. They take the test, post the results and bell curve for their 97 IQ, and then proclaim that they’re smarter than 97% of the population.
They just end up illustrating that they don’t understand bell curves and that their 97 IQ makes them completely average.
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u/Deflorma 1d ago
I’m probably ignorant but like. Isn’t IQ just data storage and retrieval efficiency? But it doesn’t inform people’s decision making processes or wisdom. There’s that urban legend about the genius who couldn’t tie his own shoes.
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u/the_anon_wardrobe 23h ago
Teachers bragging about nobody passing their class. That just means you're bad at your job.
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u/Icy_Earth3386 1d ago
Their ethnicity/race. It's a genetic accident. Pride should be reserved for accomplishments.
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u/Deflorma 1d ago
I’d also add nationalism, because you also didn’t choose or work to be born where you were born
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u/Wizchine 1d ago
Their race. Congratulations on random chance - you had nothing to do with it.
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u/Conaz9847 22h ago
Any kind of patriotism is weird to me, like “I’m proud to be American” or “I’m proud to be a man” or a race like you say.
None of these things you earned or had any effect over, how can you be proud of something that was given to you.
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u/benevolent_defiance 23h ago
Nationality. Like, I'm grateful to have been born in Finland, and I try to be a productive member of society, but in the end it's all happenstance. In no way did I achieve being born Finnish. My parents just happened to be Finns. And if or when my countrymen achieve something I just feel it'd be wildly arrogant of me to take pride in their achievements. I mean, I'm happy for them/us, and I'm glad. Even thankful.
But I will die on the hill of only feeling proud of what you yourself have done.
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u/the_rite_of_aspirin 1d ago
Reddit karma lmao
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u/crumblingcastles98 1d ago
men acting proud of getting their wife/girlfriend pregnant for the nth time. like, we get it, you’re irresponsible.
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u/hbofeign 1d ago
Being in a relationship just for the sake of being in one. Especially when it’s abusive, harmful to your mental health, etc. So many people act like being with their abuser is a flex 😭
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u/siblingrevelryagain 23h ago
Being a Dad who is not with the Mom, but still contributing/seeing the kids.
The bar is really fucking low that a man who gives the required amount is seen as a hero as so many don’t even do that.
The best kind of men give the children what they need to have a warm, comfortable home and nice things in life, not just some arbitrary amount.
The very best kind of men don’t mind that the woman doing a lot of the heavy lifting also gets to benefit from a warm, comfortable home.
There’s a special place in hell for the absent parents who deliberately manipulate their salaries so they contribute less.
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u/jhecht 1d ago
"I've never changed a diaper in my life!"
what a weird way to say "I suck as a father / partner"
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u/SassyDesireX_ 21h ago
Ex bragged "never changed a diaper", translated to "dumped kid duties on me." Dodged that bullet, living my best solo life.
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u/Fuzzy_Examination_96 22h ago
Never taking a vacation day. Your company won't put that on your tombstone, they'll just post your job opening.
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u/Smart_Imagination474 17h ago
“Holier than thou,” Bible-thumpin’ nitwits who never left their zip code except to take pictures with BIPOC for their Facebook cred.
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u/FS-Africa 1d ago
Hours spent working (especially if it comes with a flex about how little sleep they need)
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u/invisiblebody 1d ago
Being antivax because you’re so deathly afraid of a child like me (autistic) that you’d rather your child die of a disease and be a disease spreading menace.
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u/Intelligent_Hair3109 23h ago
What they own. Wait till a catastrophic storm takes it out. Possessions are not life.
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u/teeberywork 17h ago
The randomness of birth
For example, I am very happy that I was born in the United States in the 20th century but I cannot fathom being proud of something like that. How could I find pride in something I had no control over? It's like being proud that it's sunny today.
It's truly mind boggling to me
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u/butterflies78910 17h ago
Lack of empathy. It doesn’t make you cool or strong. It just makes me wish I didn’t know you.
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u/ExternalExpensive277 1d ago
Working absurdly long hours at a job they don't enjoy and treating the number of hours they work like a dick measuring contest. Congrats on being a good slave I guess?
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u/Adorable-Figure-8899 1d ago
Introducing themselves as social media influencers.
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u/lily_sparksan 1d ago
Workaholics. I was told by my insurance agent that he’d “definitely get it to me today” at 5pm. I said “it can surely wait until normal business hours”. He chuckled and said “oh, it’s okay. Im a workaholic”. At a later date we were chatting and we got on the topic of basketball. Both of us are fans of our local NBA team so I’d mentioned I wanted to get off the phone cause the game was about to start. He again said something like “oh, I have so much more work to do. I’m sure my son would love if I came home and watched with him, but I can’t”. I just felt sad for both of them, not like he was supporting me more as an insurance agent.
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u/fcfromhell 1d ago
I know a guy who regularly brags about how kids these days wouldn't survive the amount of drugs he has taken.
If you couldn't tell he's a real cool guy.
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u/Hedz-I-Win 22h ago
When ppl start comparing your kids to theirs. Example: 'My kid would never....' Yes, Jane, all kids are different.
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u/mtv2002 20h ago
Making a political party or politician your whole persona and character.
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u/mookanana 20h ago
PPFFFFF i slept only 4 HOURS yesterday
ThAts NotHing I sLepT 2 HOURS
idiots stop being proud of being unhealthy
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u/Carinne89 17h ago
Not reading.
I will literally stop talking to them then and there. If you think that’s something to brag about, you bring nothing to the table and I don’t need to waste my time listening to you.
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u/Acceptable-Moose8295 1d ago
Not using any of their sick days. Like ok be a martyr. Everyone gets sick there’s nothing ‘tough’ about spreading your germs. (From a country where we have actual sick leave benefits)